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GENO123
Joined: 28 Jan 2010
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 Posted: Mon Jan 26, 2015 8:23 am Post subject: |
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| Nester Noodlemon wrote: |
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| Roman Holiday wrote: |
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| young_clinton wrote: |
| Koreans like people who speak Korean. Try learning it and your luck will change. Anyway the hot babes in Denmark etc. are going to be stuck up too. |
Speaking Korean usually doesnt make difference in in korea for foreigners except when going on tv or ordering a meal. Indeed much of the time knowing Korean is actually a negative. |
Stop generalizing, and get with the real world program. For the woman obsessed with practicing English, yes your Korean might be a negative. But for many Korean woman, it will be a huge negative if you have lived in the country for years without bothering to learn some of the language. Get good enough... intermediate level and up.... and you will find yourself in the lucky position of conversing mostly in Korean to someone who knows little English. In this territory, you can safely assume you are not being 'used' for your English. |
Rules that apply other places often don't apply in Korea. If the girl is into the typical Korean mind set then they are not going to go with a foreigner anyway. Being able to speak Korean does't really matter. Though as I said it can be a negative. Many Korean women have an image of what a foreigner should be, speaking Korean (at the level of a child ) doesn't figure into that equation.
Another thing to consider on top of bad demographics is that compared to other countries in NE Asia Korean women are less likely to find foreign guys attractive or have just ruled them out as a possibility.
Actually the best advice I could give someone for meeting Korean women would be to go to church because many Korean women very much into it and also though it they are less likely to see one as only being a foreigner. |
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Advising someone to go to church to meet women is silly. |
Perhaps , but it is a lot less silly when talking about Korea, |
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Roman Holiday
Joined: 22 Sep 2014
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| Posted: Mon Jan 26, 2015 2:50 pm Post subject: |
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I didn't read the thread.
If every woman you meet it stuck up you might want to hit the weights. |
Sure, just as long as you don't neglect to give the brain a workout as well. She will always go for the charming guy with the gift of the gab over some dumb brute.  |
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GENO123
Joined: 28 Jan 2010
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| Posted: Mon Jan 26, 2015 4:08 pm Post subject: |
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| Roman Holiday wrote: |
| GENO123 wrote: |
| Roman Holiday wrote: |
| GENO123 wrote: |
| young_clinton wrote: |
| Koreans like people who speak Korean. Try learning it and your luck will change. Anyway the hot babes in Denmark etc. are going to be stuck up too. |
Speaking Korean usually doesnt make difference in in korea for foreigners except when going on tv or ordering a meal. Indeed much of the time knowing Korean is actually a negative. |
Stop generalizing, and get with the real world program. For the woman obsessed with practicing English, yes your Korean might be a negative. But for many Korean woman, it will be a huge negative if you have lived in the country for years without bothering to learn some of the language. Get good enough... intermediate level and up.... and you will find yourself in the lucky position of conversing mostly in Korean to someone who knows little English. In this territory, you can safely assume you are not being 'used' for your English. |
Rules that apply other places often don't apply in Korea. If the girl is into the typical Korean mind set then they are not going to go with a foreigner anyway. Being able to speak Korean does't really matter. Though as I said it can be a negative. Many Korean women have an image of what a foreigner should be, speaking Korean (at the level of a child ) doesn't figure into that equation.
Another thing to consider on top of bad demographics is that compared to other countries in NE Asia Korean women are less likely to find foreign guys attractive or have just ruled them out as a possibility.
Actually the best advice I could give someone for meeting Korean women would be to go to church because many Korean women very much into it and also though it they are less likely to see one as only being a foreigner. |
'If the girl is into the typical Korean mind-set'.
People [including girls] are individuals first and foremost. Nothing attests to this fact more than the ability to form friendships and find lovers. As they mature into adulthood, they begin to question elements of the culture into which they've been born. Think of culture as the necessary ground within which to develop, and think of personality as the developing plant reaching for the sun. Now when you relate to a girl, in a personal or romantic way, of whatever culture, the last thing you have in mind are the so-called cultural parameters, or the restrictive norms. No, you are a man relating to a woman, you have cut through all the cultural undergrowth and stand before each other naked as Adam and Eve, metaphorically speaking. When you connect to a woman in this way, when you seduce her, you will create a world of your own, and all those pesky doubts about the impossibility of sampling the fruit from the tree of another culture will fall on deaf ears. |
For some countries it is more applicable , for others it is less applicable. In Korea it would be less applicable. |
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Chaparrastique
Joined: 01 Jan 2014
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| Posted: Mon Jan 26, 2015 5:13 pm Post subject: |
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| Why are Korean girls so deludedly arrogant and stuck up? |
They're not.
They just don't like being approached by complete strangers who try to be overfamiliar, who could be an axe murderer, and whose intentions are not clear. Nobody does. |
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Cave Dweller
Joined: 17 Aug 2014
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Mon Jan 26, 2015 5:54 pm Post subject: |
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Agreed. I have met non snobby rich girls even. And snobby poor girls that will only date rich guys.
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| Why are Korean girls so deludedly arrogant and stuck up? |
They're not.
They just don't like being approached by complete strangers who try to be overfamiliar, who could be an axe murderer, and whose intentions are not clear. Nobody does. |
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Roman Holiday
Joined: 22 Sep 2014
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| Posted: Mon Jan 26, 2015 8:22 pm Post subject: |
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For some countries it is more applicable , for others it is less applicable. In Korea it would be less applicable. |
It's all in the mind-set. And by that I mean primarily your own. If you buy into the dominating mind-set and fail to project your own, you will more often than not get nowhere. Attraction works at the primal emotional level- you need to leave logic at the door. When you do this, woman, of whatever culture, will more than often respond for they are after all finely tuned emotive creatures.
Be in the present moment. Respond to beauty instantly when it presents itself before you [consider it a crime not to]. Say hello, how are you, and start a conversation authentically and confidently. Go for coffee. Expect her to offer a cue for the next date in the course of that coffee. |
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Paddycakes
Joined: 05 May 2003
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Tue Jan 27, 2015 1:04 am Post subject: |
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| Roman Holiday wrote: |
| GENO123 wrote: |
For some countries it is more applicable , for others it is less applicable. In Korea it would be less applicable. |
It's all in the mind-set. And by that I mean primarily your own. If you buy into the dominating mind-set and fail to project your own, you will more often than not get nowhere. Attraction works at the primal emotional level- you need to leave logic at the door. When you do this, woman, of whatever culture, will more than often respond for they are after all finely tuned emotive creatures.
Be in the present moment. Respond to beauty instantly when it presents itself before you [consider it a crime not to]. Say hello, how are you, and start a conversation authentically and confidently. Go for coffee. Expect her to offer a cue for the next date in the course of that coffee. |
Second date? Hell, you sound like a RooshV purse carrying beta male orbiter that no self respecting woman would p*ss on, let alone bang. hahahah.
Real men go for the first date bang.
Go for coffee near your apt, location is key, then invite her back up to your apt to watch a movie.
Don't be overbearing or overtly aggressive though or you'll scare them away. |
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atwood
Joined: 26 Dec 2009
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| Posted: Tue Jan 27, 2015 1:36 am Post subject: |
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| Why are Korean girls so deludedly arrogant and stuck up? |
They're not.
They just don't like being approached by complete strangers who try to be overfamiliar, who could be an axe murderer, and whose intentions are not clear. Nobody does. |
If you've got the right car, all that goes out the window.  |
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World Traveler
Joined: 29 May 2009
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GENO123
Joined: 28 Jan 2010
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| Posted: Tue Jan 27, 2015 8:19 am Post subject: |
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| Roman Holiday wrote: |
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For some countries it is more applicable , for others it is less applicable. In Korea it would be less applicable. |
It's all in the mind-set. And by that I mean primarily your own. If you buy into the dominating mind-set and fail to project your own, you will more often than not get nowhere. Attraction works at the primal emotional level- you need to leave logic at the door. When you do this, woman, of whatever culture, will more than often respond for they are after all finely tuned emotive creatures.
Be in the present moment. Respond to beauty instantly when it presents itself before you [consider it a crime not to]. Say hello, how are you, and start a conversation authentically and confidently. Go for coffee. Expect her to offer a cue for the next date in the course of that coffee. |
Very optimistic of you. Not all places are the same . What you say might be true sometimes in Korea but it is less true in Korea and more true other places. |
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