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hellakitty · Joined: 15 Sep 2007 Location: Variable

Wow, I got slammed! If you actually read my post you would have noticed that I said I would buy something for my man if I thought he would like it. I also never "put a price" on myself, but to me money has always just been money and you only live once. Sure there are better ways it could be spent, but I believe in the symbolism of a ring and I am entitled to that opinion. Relax, people!

aboxofchocolates · Joined: 21 Mar 2008 Location: on your mind

They're trolling, pay them no heed.

MollyBloom · Joined: 21 Jul 2006 Location: James Joyce's pants

I didn't care if I got a ring, although having something to symbolize the engagement would have been nice, like a vintage locket. However, my fiance got me a ring because he wanted us to have something to pass down to our kids. We have been together for over 4 years, and have been talking about getting married for about 3 years.

The ring, for us, really symbolized our seriousness about getting married to our families. They were SO SHOCKED when he gave it to me, and I was stunned: we lived together for 3 years, went back and forth to Korea together, have been talking about getting married, and where our honeymoon would be. It took him giving me a ring to let everyone know we were "serious." Ridiculous.

madoka · Joined: 27 Mar 2008

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conrad2 · Joined: 05 Nov 2009

I wasnt trolling. I do agree that people may spend their money any way they want, and people may also not spend their money any way they want (shiny rocks on fingers).
Hellakitty wrote that she would never accept a man's proposal for marriage without a ring, and that she is worth more than 5000 bucks. To me people who need and are mesmerized by shiny baubles are very shallow. What if her soulmate was poor or needed that money for something else. Would she turn down a great guy who she would have a happy life with just because she didnt get an expensive diamond? What if the guy forgot the ring in the car during his proposal, would she say " Yes, I will marry you, but first I gotta see that ring. Go get it." Greedy and shallow.

conrad2 · Joined: 05 Nov 2009

wesharris · Joined: 10 Oct 2008

5 dollah, I give you 5 dollah for wing. I give you 5 dollah.

kiknkorea · Joined: 16 May 2008

Just get the ring.

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Draz · Joined: 27 Jun 2007 Location: Land of Morning Clam

meangradin · Joined: 10 Mar 2006

the op is dead on! What's with all this "$5,000 is a small investment to marry me," BS? Where's the love for daddy? When my wife and I were talking about getting married, I told her that I wanted her to match me dollar for dollar with a new watch; I buy her a nice ring, she buys me an Omega Speedmaster. Seriously, why do woman feel entitled to receive all this stuff, but don't want to make the effort to give something back to the husband?

aboxofchocolates · Joined: 21 Mar 2008 Location: on your mind

The Gipkik · Joined: 30 Mar 2009

I think a lot of people, especially men, are jaded and suspicious of the institution of marriage. With divorce rates so high in developed countries and a world that already has more than double the population that this planet can sustain, it's high time we revisited marriage as a "sacrosanct" union. The family courts in North America don't seem to be assuaging the problem either by creating so much acrimony and resentment between families--or what's left of them. Too much of marriage and engagement inevitably revolves around money and self-worth.

littlelisa · Joined: 12 Jun 2007 Location: Seoul

Not that I'll ever want to get married, but I think a ring is an expensive waste. But to each his/her own.

Here's someone who doesn't need a ring: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XCw_UoRhTUk&feature=player_embedded Wink

hellakitty · Joined: 15 Sep 2007 Location: Variable

conrad2 your elementry level rationalizing and conclusions are plausible but not exceptionally interesting. If I were ever to get married I am sure it is something I will have discussed with my partner before the "proposal", and he will therefore be aware of the importance that I place on recieving an engagment ring that I like. Key word "like". That doesn't mean it has to cost $5000 and it doesn't mean it would necessarily cost $100.

If your reading comprehension skills were better you would understand that my point was that it is the symbolism of the ring that is important to me and not the cost. Money is just money and you can't put a price on any of that stuff. Call me greedy and shallow if you want, but I could also call you cheap ... and stupid. Which I will.