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djsmnc



Joined: 20 Jan 2003
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PostPosted: Mon Jan 04, 2010 5:11 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Triban wrote:
I've heard that K-girls tend to make their Korean boyfriend pay for everything, while not expecting the same from their caucasian boytoy. This has been the case with me so far, and I think it's 아싸, since we aren't on the high end of the pay spectrum.


No, it just means you'll have your inadequacy called out at a point that it really digs into your self worth and emotional investment in the relationship. You'll either hold out til she accepts you for who you are or the pressure will lead you to calling it quits. No biggie. Happens all the time!
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IMF crisis



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PostPosted: Tue Jan 05, 2010 6:08 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Yes, it's white guys who have fetishes for Asian women. That's why we have a TV show back home with a bunch of white guys asking questions to a panel of young Asian women called, "Gabbing with the Lovelies."
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Triban



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PostPosted: Tue Jan 05, 2010 6:23 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

djsmnc wrote:
Triban wrote:
I've heard that K-girls tend to make their Korean boyfriend pay for everything, while not expecting the same from their caucasian boytoy. This has been the case with me so far, and I think it's 아싸, since we aren't on the high end of the pay spectrum.


No, it just means you'll have your inadequacy called out at a point that it really digs into your self worth and emotional investment in the relationship. You'll either hold out til she accepts you for who you are or the pressure will lead you to calling it quits. No biggie. Happens all the time!


That's why I'm a gold digger.
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oskinny1



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PostPosted: Tue Jan 05, 2010 6:36 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

IMF crisis wrote:
Yes, it's white guys who have fetishes for Asian women. That's why we have a TV show back home with a bunch of white guys asking questions to a panel of young Asian women called, "Gabbing with the Lovelies."


And I just downloaded season 4! This is the one where Ying Ying goes at it with Aoi over what is sexier on a white man, the "happy trail" or the 5 o'clock shadow! Also, Marcia makes a comment about how men with receding hairlines are losers! But my favorite is Pratibha with her beautiful mocha skin.
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seonsengnimble



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PostPosted: Tue Jan 05, 2010 7:33 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I personally would rather date a western woman, but in Korea, the Korean women tend to be more attractive.

There are some hot western women here, but there are tons who look about 20 years older than they actually are, are obese, or look like they're strung out on meth. Maybe it's because Korea is harder on women, but after a couple years in Korea, most women I've known go downhill appearance wise.
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Hyeon Een



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PostPosted: Tue Jan 05, 2010 11:31 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

seonsengnimble wrote:
I personally would rather date a western woman, but in Korea, the Korean women tend to be more attractive.

There are some hot western women here, but there are tons who look about 20 years older than they actually are, are obese, or look like they're strung out on meth. Maybe it's because Korea is harder on women, but after a couple years in Korea, most women I've known go downhill appearance wise.


I don't want to be mean, but this can be true. When I lived in small town Korea where everyone knew everyone, we obviously paid attention to.. well.. everyone.

Anyway two girls arrived about a month apart in 2004. A few months later both of them had gained like 30 pounds. It was ridiculous. One of these girls had originally been nicknamed "HOT <her name here>". She quickly became just "<her name here>". It was because these girls were scared of the local food and couldn't cook, so they only ate pizza, pizza, fried chicken, pizza, pizza, fried chicken and pizza. 3 meals a day. Thats Atkins Diet + Balanced Diet - fruit and vegetables 3x a day. Poor things. They got bigger and older looking fast. That kind of growth spurt is good in an 11 year old, but less good in a 22 year old.
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FistFace



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PostPosted: Tue Jan 05, 2010 2:31 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Whenever I see posts decrying white men in Korea as chasing a fetish, I tend to assume that the one complaining about it is revealing an inner insecurity.
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hellakitty



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PostPosted: Tue Jan 05, 2010 2:46 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I am a Western women, and I generally find more "exotic" women to be beautiful, whether they're Asian, South American, Scandenavian, etc. I was NEVER attracted to Asian men before I came to Korea, but once you're here for a while ... they just look better and better. I really feel like my experience was not a lot different then the one most Western men report - the Westerners of the opposite sex are not very attractive (fat, short, etc.) and the Koreans simply by their abundance have heaps more attractive people walking around.

I do think however that the MAIN reason most guys go for Korean girls is that for whatever reason the Kgirls find them attractive based solely on their whiteness and maybe their ignorance as to what a hot Western guy actually looks like (one of my female friends worked at a school with another Western male and her Korean co-teachers actually asked her if the guy would be considered "handsome" in Canada). As a result, the men can usually do better here than they would at home; for example, a 5 Western man can probably date a 7 Korean woman fairly easily. It's not difficult to figure out why this is appealing.

And as for those who claim that Western women here look fat and ugly and let themselves go ... the Western guys aren't exactly much to look at either. I almost wonder if there isn't something in the water here that makes them go bald ...
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beercanman



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PostPosted: Tue Jan 05, 2010 4:51 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

It's pretty simple. The overwhelming numbers and the attraction to novelty. After years in Asia white girls have become a novelty. Would find one if I could. Ah, the hell with it, maybe I'll go to Europe.
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kabrams



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PostPosted: Tue Jan 05, 2010 8:13 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Well to be quite honest, there are many Asian men who have a "white woman" fetish as well. These are the types of guys who will straight up knock over a very pretty Asian girl to holler at a very below average white girl.

But there are people like this of every race. Black, white, Asian, etc.,
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Privateer



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PostPosted: Wed Jan 06, 2010 2:48 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

JMO wrote:
I notice one thing about western guys in korea. We have a very wide spectrum of opinions on which Korean girls are hot.

My friends and i just sitting at a family mart having a beer in the summer, would comment on girls walking by. I have never ever differed so much on who was hot or not, in a similar situation in the west.

This might speak to our lack of cultural programming when figuring out who is hot or not in korea.


Maybe there's some correlation with length of time spent here?

Have any other long-termers noticed themselves getting more and more picky with regard to Korean girls? I have. I think years of hearing Korean guys - and girls come to that - go 'She's ugly' or 'She's not hot' may have rubbed off on me.
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Captain Corea



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PostPosted: Wed Jan 06, 2010 3:24 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

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White guys with Asian fetishes


Doesn't seem any more common than any other dating preference I've seen back home. In fact, taking into account the use of the word 'fetish', I'd say it's pretty rare.
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Sector7G



Joined: 24 May 2008

PostPosted: Wed Jan 06, 2010 3:36 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

JMO wrote:
I notice one thing about western guys in korea. We have a very wide spectrum of opinions on which Korean girls are hot.

My friends and i just sitting at a family mart having a beer in the summer, would comment on girls walking by. I have never ever differed so much on who was hot or not, in a similar situation in the west.



Now that you mention it, when I first got here in September 2007, there was one guy in our group who said he had not seen one Korean woman who he thought was that attractive. Not one!!

Now I could see him saying something like he did not find Korean woman as attractive as western women in general. But to say he had not seen one single attractive one?? How picky can one guy get?
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Xuanzang



Joined: 10 Apr 2007
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PostPosted: Wed Jan 06, 2010 6:42 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Sector7G wrote:
JMO wrote:
I notice one thing about western guys in korea. We have a very wide spectrum of opinions on which Korean girls are hot.

My friends and i just sitting at a family mart having a beer in the summer, would comment on girls walking by. I have never ever differed so much on who was hot or not, in a similar situation in the west.



Now that you mention it, when I first got here in September 2007, there was one guy in our group who said he had not seen one Korean woman who he thought was that attractive. Not one!!

Now I could see him saying something like he did not find Korean woman as attractive as western women in general. But to say he had not seen one single attractive one?? How picky can one guy get?


Probably changed his tune after loneliness and time took its toll.
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Deep Thirteen



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PostPosted: Wed Jan 06, 2010 8:03 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

kabrams wrote:
Well to be quite honest, there are many Asian men who have a "white woman" fetish as well. These are the types of guys who will straight up knock over a very pretty Asian girl to holler at a very below average white girl.

But there are people like this of every race. Black, white, Asian, etc.,


True dat.
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