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kneezah~ · Joined: 08 Jan 2009

why would someon dump their girlfriend because she asked them to plan some dates? one would assume they made her their girlfriend because they acutally liked her. i don't know... it seems a bit strange to me...

"honey, i'd like you to plan more dates."
"i'm sorry. i'm a western man. we don't do that. this relationship is now over."

seems a bit extreme to me. i've dated lots of western guys and lots of them actually planed dates. i don't really see what the big deal is...

and yes, it's annoying if you ask her directly and she won't tell you... if you listen close enough she will probably tell you indirectly though. she probably wants you to listen to and pay attention to her... which proably means she actually likes you... which probably isn't a bad thing.

murmanjake · Joined: 21 Oct 2008

Maybe by something "memorable" she wants a memory which she can relate to her friends of that fantastic and enviable date to that oh so popular and romantic spot. Especially as you are a foreigner, she may need something a little extra in order to justify the relationship to her peers.

NYC_Gal · Joined: 08 Dec 2009

If she's good in bed, buy her some cute earrings (cheap is fine if they look swank, and if she's that kind of girl she won't care as long as she can show them off to her friends), take her to an Italian restaurant, and take her back to bed!

mimi belle · Joined: 11 Jul 2010

mc_jc · Joined: 13 Aug 2009 Location: C4B- Cp Red Cloud, Area-I

cert43 · Joined: 17 Jun 2010

Gosh,Men are such jerks.. Shocked

@Machoman-

It doesn't surprise me that you are having problems with your gf.

You have no respect whatsoever. She's your gf, why are you asking

us about your gf?

That is the first problem in your relationship.

machoman · Joined: 11 Jul 2007

hi cert, are you still upset with me? i said i'm sorry and i really meant it.

cert43 · Joined: 17 Jun 2010

No, I don't care.

but you were asking about your gf?

and I told you what the issue was.

Nothing more.. Cool

misher · Joined: 14 Oct 2008

mc_jc · Joined: 13 Aug 2009 Location: C4B- Cp Red Cloud, Area-I

Thanks misher.
That puts a big spin on things.

Then my next question is; why would such an 'above-average looking' girl put off getting married to date someone who has no intentions of marrying her?
If she has better options, why don't she go with those?

If what you say is correct, most Korean women, even those who swear off marriage, are actively looking to hook up. It seems illogical and unrational for a woman to enter into a 'casual relationship' if it ain't going to lead anywhere. Meaning, the said woman had wasted a good part of her eligible years when she should've been out trying to find her 'suitable match'.
Then, on the other side of the spectrum, those that do date casually tend to do so, so they could get it out of their system before they get married the 'right one'.- That in itself sounds like the dating game in Korea.

I still stick the opinion that; if a woman is happy with that one person and feels comfortable being in love with that one person, it doesn't matter if you go to McDonald's as long as the guy shows her a good time.

Underwaterbob · Joined: 08 Jan 2005 Location: In Cognito

The thread title would be better with a comma between "thinks" and "i".

WadRUG'naDoo · Joined: 15 Jun 2010 Location: Shanghai

Take her to Starbucks. Sit down and tell her that you have an amazing date planned. Order coffee or whatever and then tell her you're going to tap her on the shoulder and say "You're it" and go outside. Explain that she has to wait only five minutes and then go outside. So then tap her on the shoulder, say "You're it" and go outside and hail a taxi.

Go to a movie or get drunk somewhere. Then the next time you see her, tell her you were playing tag which is very popular in western countries. That she had to find you and you couldn't answer her calls without breaking the rules.

If she whines "I didn't know blah, blah," tell her that she knows now. So if she wants to do the same to you, just be ready for it and instead of looking for her, go out drinking with the boys and tell her you couldn't find her.

Hotwire · Joined: 29 Aug 2010 Location: Multiverse

Buy her a can of deoderant and hand it to her as you mumble 'hint cough cough, hint, nemshe...'

sojusucks · Joined: 31 May 2008

You just have to laugh it off. If she is not compatible, then you may have to reconsider. Sorry.

liveinkorea316 · Joined: 20 Aug 2010 Location: South Korea

No diesrespect to the OP ok...

The OP is 28.

His GF is 22.

I think it is highly probable she just wants a good time. Not in the kinky sense but she would absolutely love it if he invited her to go overseas on a trip with her. Also if he took her to expensive places and bought her amazing jewellery. As others said she has an older guy. He has money so she expects him to do things for her. She is a baby in the relationship, age-wise.

When she hits 26 she will stop playing around and start looking for a husband. Which the OP may or may not be.

I am not saying that is the case. But from the Korean girls younger than 25 I have known that would be the most common way of thinking. They can come across all serious at time and even have serious conversations with you but more often than not that is not how they are really thinking. They are pretty swayed by their peers at that age. They don't think about marriage and don't think about the future much.

Hell, I am pretty sure I was like that when I was 22 anyway.