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Smithington



Joined: 14 Dec 2011

PostPosted: Wed Jan 02, 2013 6:34 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Are you saying you don't engage in such "assumed" behavior in the Philippines. When you advise the OP to go to the Philippines for women because it's "the best"what are you saying? How do you imagine the OP interpretes your advice? What is your comment on the $10,000 for an eighteen year old? Do you really think it's okay for parents to sell their children into sexual slavery? Why do you post so much about scoring with women? How many times have you been to the Philippines, Thailand, etc? What's the appeal?

I'm just trying to make sense of your posts from last week and your obvious proclivity for sexual license. That's all.
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Smithington



Joined: 14 Dec 2011

PostPosted: Wed Jan 02, 2013 6:45 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Also what's with the immature and disrespectful use of the term "chicks"? Honestly, you must have used that term twenty times in your post. What's that about? What kind of university graduate (let alone one who tries to come across as 'devout' in other posts) goes on about 'chicks' and how best to manipulate them?

Would the real Zack please stand up.
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Zackback



Joined: 05 Nov 2010
Location: Kyungbuk

PostPosted: Wed Jan 02, 2013 7:01 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

1. The women in the Philippines are the best....friendly and most can understand English much better compared to other non-English speaking countries.
2. Chicks doesn't ALWAYS have a negative connotation.
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/chicks?s=t
My lady now even uses chick to describe herself and others. No biggie
3. Sexual slavery? These governments (Philippines, Thailand, etc etc) treat their women like whores. Poverty everywhere so there only chance is to get out and a big way to do that is hooking up with a foreigner. The ones that don't and work 10 hour days 6 or 7 days a week for peanuts are the real slaves.
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Smithington



Joined: 14 Dec 2011

PostPosted: Wed Jan 02, 2013 7:18 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Zackback wrote:
Sexual slavery? These governments (Philippines, Thailand, etc etc) treat their women like whores. Poverty everywhere so there only chance is to get out and a big way to do that is hooking up with a foreigner.


Strange. I don't recall you mentioning that the Philippines is a good place to meet a nice wife and settle down and raise a family. Rather your posts come across like something out of Tom Cruise's movie 'Magnolia' or some text on how to get laid. Anyone reading your posts can sense that is what you're getting at. Again, you're not talking about meeting "the one", you're talking about scoring with one after another. If that's your lifestyle fine; more power to you. But I'm still curious how you can reconcile that life style with your posts from last week. So far all you've done is point out that saying "chicks" isn't always disrespectful. But it's not exactly respectful either, is it? And when someone posts about Vietnamese girls for $6000 you don't express any moral approbrium, you just quip "Do you have a contact number?"

Again, I'm not necessarily judging your lifestyle. I'm just wondering how you reconcile 'a' with 'b'.
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northway



Joined: 05 Jul 2010

PostPosted: Wed Jan 02, 2013 7:23 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Zackback lives under a bridge and heckles passersby. It's utterly foolish to engage him.
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Zackback



Joined: 05 Nov 2010
Location: Kyungbuk

PostPosted: Wed Jan 02, 2013 7:24 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

1. I'm not talking about scoring with one after another.
2. In terms of "chicks" I have even heard women call themselves that.
3. In terms of those Vietnamese girls they are trying to get out of the economic slavery they live and see everyday. Nothing wrong with that. Looking to get married...then ok that's great.
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Smithington



Joined: 14 Dec 2011

PostPosted: Wed Jan 02, 2013 7:49 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Zackback wrote:
1. I'm not talking about scoring with one after another. 2. In terms of "chicks" I have even heard women call themselves that. 3. In terms of those Vietnamese girls they are trying to get out of the economic slavery they live and see everyday. Nothing wrong with that. Looking to get married...then ok that's great.


So what you were actually advocating in your posts was good old fashioned 'no sex before marriage' monogamy. I must have read it wrong.
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Zackback



Joined: 05 Nov 2010
Location: Kyungbuk

PostPosted: Wed Jan 02, 2013 7:53 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Glad you learned not to make false assumptions.
I never said get one of those Vietnamese girls and have sex with her before marriage.
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Smithington



Joined: 14 Dec 2011

PostPosted: Wed Jan 02, 2013 7:59 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Zackback wrote:
Glad you learned not to make false assumptions. I never said get one of those Vietnamese girls and have sex with her before marriage.


You're fooling noone. Anyone can read your posts in this thread for themselves then go read your posts in the 'Merry Christmas' thread. The posts can only be reconciled by concluding that the poster in question (you) is a hypocrite of the first order.
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Zackback



Joined: 05 Nov 2010
Location: Kyungbuk

PostPosted: Wed Jan 02, 2013 8:01 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thanks again for another false accusation. Keep piling them up.
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creeper1



Joined: 30 Jan 2007

PostPosted: Thu Jan 03, 2013 7:04 am    Post subject: My response Reply with quote

First piece of advice is, whatever you do, don't ask women to answer this question. They have no understanding of their own basal drives.

Second piece of advice is, for the love of all that is holy, don't be a nice guy.

Word of wisdom from a audio-blogger.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=61_R2X3Pr1I

He discusses the well known fact that women aren't attracted to nice guys. There are many reasons for this. Ranging from nice guys being too boring to not being like alpha males.

We are more like animals that we realise IMHO. In a animal environment it is only the alpha male. The baddest, strongest, most attitude filled stag that gets mating rights to all the females.

And if any of the other stags have the audacity to try to mate with females the alpha male will come and stick horns up his ass! Or murder the poor sod!!

The worst of the worst is the nice guy that takes care of the baby fathered by another man. Darwin (and me) would be disgusted by you.


Women are sort of "in heat" to the bad guys. It's a sad fact but it is true.
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wishfullthinkng



Joined: 05 Mar 2010

PostPosted: Thu Jan 03, 2013 5:57 pm    Post subject: Re: My response Reply with quote

creeper1 wrote:
First piece of advice is, whatever you do, don't ask women to answer this question. They have no understanding of their own basal drives.

Second piece of advice is, for the love of all that is holy, don't be a nice guy.



absolutely 1000% this. not saying women are stupid, but almost all are not cognizant of their own psyche, wants, desires and needs. that's not saying that men aren't in the same boat though.

most women prefer someone who is confident and funny with a demonstrable value (even something small like magic tricks). if any man combines those three and hones their skills in them they will find they will be able to meet many more women, no matter what their looks. of course there will always be limitations, based on how beautiful/ugly you are, how much money you make etc., but in general it can turn any duck into a swan.
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kabrams



Joined: 15 Mar 2008
Location: your Dad's house

PostPosted: Sat Jan 05, 2013 1:47 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I often wonder why it is that so many men have such thinly veiled contempt for the very women they'd like to date.

Women don't like "nice guys" you say?

Define "nice guys."

ETA:

I just watched the video. It's disgusting. At around minute three the guy starts claiming that women over 35 are of lesser value, and are basically the leftovers (having spent most of their 20s and early 30s sucking d*** and having their p****** filled with c**). He also calls women "s**t w****s"

Why would you even post this in a thread asking women to explain how they like to be approached?

Jackassery.
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Paddycakes



Joined: 05 May 2003
Location: Seoul

PostPosted: Sat Jan 05, 2013 7:37 pm    Post subject: Re: My response Reply with quote

creeper1 wrote:
First piece of advice is, whatever you do, don't ask women to answer this question. They have no understanding of their own basal drives.

Second piece of advice is, for the love of all that is holy, don't be a nice guy.

Word of wisdom from a audio-blogger.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=61_R2X3Pr1I

He discusses the well known fact that women aren't attracted to nice guys. There are many reasons for this. Ranging from nice guys being too boring to not being like alpha males.

We are more like animals that we realise IMHO. In a animal environment it is only the alpha male. The baddest, strongest, most attitude filled stag that gets mating rights to all the females.

And if any of the other stags have the audacity to try to mate with females the alpha male will come and stick horns up his ass! Or murder the poor sod!!

The worst of the worst is the nice guy that takes care of the baby fathered by another man. Darwin (and me) would be disgusted by you.


Women are sort of "in heat" to the bad guys. It's a sad fact but it is true.




If women are only attracted to "alpha males", then I guess that means that about 90 percent of the male population would go dateless.

The overwhelming majority of the people are followers, not leaders (in spite of what they might like to tell themselves).

Also, how do foreigner ESL teachers score dates in Korea if women are only attracted to "alpha males".

Teaching, especially ESL teaching in Korea, is not exactly an "alpha male" job.

Teaching is generally a low paid job, low status job that is historically done by women. In Korea it has a reputation, sometimes deserved, for being a refuge for people who couldn't make it back home.

Alpha males aren't singing kiddie songs or bragging about their 5 months of uni vacation time, they're back home making the big bucks running corporations.

So why do any K girls show any interest in foreigners?


Moral of the story is the whole animal behavior theory (alpha cow in the herd or whatever) is just way too simplistic.
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comm



Joined: 22 Jun 2010

PostPosted: Sat Jan 05, 2013 11:20 pm    Post subject: Re: My response Reply with quote

Paddycakes wrote:
Alpha males aren't singing kiddie songs or bragging about their 5 months of uni vacation time, they're back home making the big bucks running corporations.

So why do any K girls show any interest in foreigners?

Moral of the story is the whole animal behavior theory (alpha cow in the herd or whatever) is just way too simplistic.

I think you're confused as to what "alpha male" means in this context. It's not literally "leader of the group", but having the characteristics of a group leader, such as:
confidence
assertiveness
effectuality in activities (not just making money)
knowing what one wants
use of social ques to demonstrate status (use of space, body language, physical contact, voice tone, etc)
and most importantly, a lack of neediness

Regarding the success of foreigners with Korean women... it's hypothesized that "survival despite difference" attracts mates. That is, the enormous plume of the peacock should inhibit its survival... it restricts movement and has no direct survival benefit. The fact that a peacock survives with an elegant plume indicates genetic advantage to peahens. Similarly, seeing a human that is significantly different (exotic if you will) can generate the same type of sexual attraction.
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