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[nero]

[cdninkorea]

[oceanhue]

I would never live with a friend. American or foreigner. Having roommates in college was absolutely the worst experience ever. Sure, you think you like your friends until you live with them. Rooming up with a friend usually destroys your friendship.

Plus, I don't get why you would want to live under her. It's her apartment so you'll have to live with her own rules. If you have your own apartment, you can live however you want.

It's a no brainer.

[Riddy44]

Your still going to be friends with her even if you don't live together. You will have plenty of time to hang out in your free time. It's a great experience figuring out things on your own, that's where the fun is for me at least. By living with your friend you may become dependent or her, that's a lot of pressure on her. Or she may want to take you under her wing and show you every little simple thing you could easily figure out on your own, that might get annoying down the line. Having a friend around when you land will be great and helpful, but i would respectfully decline her offer. Great friends is valuable, but alone time is also valuable. I wouldn't sell my alone time in exchange for a housing allowance. Good luck with your decision.

[tellhernow]

I hadn't realized so many people replied! I stopped getting email alerts from Dave's! Thank you for your opinions. Some of you have very strong opinions against living with Koreans or anyone at all.

Many people have said that I made up my mind, and I kind of had, until I found everyone's negative thoughts about living with Koreans. I mean, this topic really brought out some serious replies such as "save yourself while you can!!!" and the like.

Like a couple people have noticed, I do have many Korean friends and a preference for roommates. When I visited Seoul in October, I met with these friends and met their friends, and I really felt welcomed and not at all apprehensive. I'm a pretty aware person. I have a high (and I mean HIGH) tolerance for crazy roommates, having lived with someone in NYC, but my friend doesn't fall into the crazy catagory. I've also lived with friends (both best friends and simply acquiantences) and not had any relationships ruined by living with them. Am I some kind of freak?

I understand the whole "shutting the world out" thing, as I feel the need to do that in New York and find ways to adapt. However, I believe my private room will suffice and my friend understands that I need to do that.

[Couchsurfer]

Valid points all around, I voted for 'get your own place.'

Patrick, why so sensitive?

Others, why the hatred (or disliking) for Patrick?

OP: I thought of something else that hasn't been mentioned. She is older than you. She will use that as an excuse to boss you around. Guaranteed.

House guests are likely to be an issue. Koreans are good at giving and receiving in my experience. Sometimes incredibly generous, sometimes overbearing on others generosity.

No need to lock yourself away from Korea, but many wish they could. It is great, however, to be able to if you so choose.

I have had feelings like that but it is impossible. Those friggin' fruit trucks and speaker bongos never let me forget. Or sleep.