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augustine
Joined: 08 Sep 2012
Location: México
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| Would have to be gold. |
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12ax7
Joined: 07 Nov 2009
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| Posted: Mon Sep 23, 2013 7:35 am Post subject: |
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| Just proves that it is a good idea to not get too personal on this board. |
Eh, that's the only way I roll and I can take the heat. What I said was true, I just tried to approach it with a little comedy. That tends to get lost on the internet, but it's not a big deal. I'm also not some exploitative douche who manipulated some helpless Korean girl. She's older than me and just over 30, she's not some innocent, fresh off the farm country girl. I respect her and have always tried to take care of her the best that I can.
Anyway, thanks for the helpful suggestions. And, yeah, I just have to go. She understands the situation and I've gotten more grief on here than I have from her. Damn, boys. |
Her being 30 makes her an older woman? Well, that explains a lot.
Take it from an older and more experienced guy: when she said she was okay with you dating other gals, she was probably just testing you, trying to determine how far she should invest herself in the relationship. You basically failed. |
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augustine
Joined: 08 Sep 2012
Location: México
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| Posted: Mon Sep 23, 2013 8:30 am Post subject: |
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| Her being 30 makes her an older woman? Well, that explains a lot. I'm an older and much more experienced guy than you, so trust me when I say this: when she said she was okay with you dating other gals, she was probably just testing you, wanted to know what kind of guy you are. She won't be crying long for you, to put it kindly. |
Thanks for putting it kindly, I'm so relieved. When did I refer to her as an "older woman?" I only said that she was older than me. However old you happen to be, though, your posts on this site don't tend to portray you as the "experienced guy" you claim you be. Boring, nothing really significant or helpful coming out of the pipes, to put it kindly. Anyway, she's going to move on soon I'm sure, and she'll be fine, as will I, and I'm only looking for gift advice. So, let's stop worrying about her and derailing this, OK? When seeking advice about what to give someone who has been good to you, you don't usually harp on the good things you have done for them.
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There are alot of simple looking gold necklaces / bracelets. If your budget is 200-500$ then perhaps one of the cheaper jewelry places in Department stores will be a good match.
Maybe go look at J. estina jewelry. A gold necklace will be in that price range. and younger korean girls tend to like them because Kim Yuna was seen wearing those during the Olympics... You know, Its the Crown icon jewelry. |
That's a winning response, giraffe, the kind of helpful, pin point information I was trying to dig out of this thread. The few months I paid into the pension plan should cover that.  |
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Julius
Joined: 27 Jul 2006
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| Posted: Mon Sep 23, 2013 8:30 am Post subject: |
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| Get a huge bronze statue made of an exact mold of you. Have it delivered to her apt and she'll never forgot about you. |
lol. |
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Malislamusrex
Joined: 01 Feb 2010
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| Posted: Mon Sep 23, 2013 4:57 pm Post subject: |
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| I'd buy gold. It is pretty, it will always be worth something. And if she ever desperately needs cash she can sell it. |
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Mix1
Joined: 08 May 2007
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| Posted: Mon Sep 23, 2013 6:51 pm Post subject: |
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| Anyone who TRULY understands a relationship knows that manipulation is NOT a part of it. |
Try telling that to most women. And as for men...ever bought a girl flowers?
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Its two people who learn to understand each other and compromise in things so they are both happy. Dont believe me? Ask any relationship counselor.
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Our neighbor back home was a "relationship counselor" and he his wife fought all the time. His wife didn't work and took vacations alone. I'm sure he understands a bit about manipulation and compromise. 
OP: Don't forget to include a nice card praising this woman for being so good to you. A good woman is hard to find, and a good one with a nice butt is even harder to find! Hope you aren't making a mistake. |
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matthews_world
Joined: 15 Feb 2003
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| Posted: Mon Sep 23, 2013 7:20 pm Post subject: |
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Just give her a nice bangin' and out the door with you.
No wonder Koreans give us a bad name. |
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12ax7
Joined: 07 Nov 2009
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| Posted: Tue Sep 24, 2013 2:31 am Post subject: |
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| augustine wrote: |
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| Her being 30 makes her an older woman? Well, that explains a lot. I'm an older and much more experienced guy than you, so trust me when I say this: when she said she was okay with you dating other gals, she was probably just testing you, wanted to know what kind of guy you are. She won't be crying long for you, to put it kindly. |
Thanks for putting it kindly, I'm so relieved. When did I refer to her as an "older woman?" I only said that she was older than me. However old you happen to be, though, your posts on this site don't tend to portray you as the "experienced guy" you claim you be. Boring, nothing really significant or helpful coming out of the pipes, to put it kindly. Anyway, she's going to move on soon I'm sure, and she'll be fine, as will I, and I'm only looking for gift advice. So, let's stop worrying about her and derailing this, OK? When seeking advice about what to give someone who has been good to you, you don't usually harp on the good things you have done for them.
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There are alot of simple looking gold necklaces / bracelets. If your budget is 200-500$ then perhaps one of the cheaper jewelry places in Department stores will be a good match.
Maybe go look at J. estina jewelry. A gold necklace will be in that price range. and younger korean girls tend to like them because Kim Yuna was seen wearing those during the Olympics... You know, Its the Crown icon jewelry. |
That's a winning response, giraffe, the kind of helpful, pin point information I was trying to dig out of this thread. The few months I paid into the pension plan should cover that. |
Whatever you say, but you were still a child when I got married (i.e. I'm more experienced than you are). |
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erasmus
Joined: 11 Sep 2010
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| Posted: Tue Sep 24, 2013 6:28 am Post subject: |
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| OP, you may be a retard at giving gifts but apparently a genius at receiving them. Anyways, what about an old Korean nature painting or scroll that can be found at a premium on the side streets of Insadong. Find something that has the patina of age, no guarantee of course, and the look of an original. Find one with a couple of critters you think she might be partial to and I don't think you can really go wrong. There may even be a sculpture that fits the bill. Expensive, but it seems she's earned it. A nod to both her culture and her interests. |
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12ax7
Joined: 07 Nov 2009
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| Posted: Tue Sep 24, 2013 7:16 am Post subject: |
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| OP, you may be a retard at giving gifts but apparently a genius at receiving them. Anyways, what about an old Korean nature painting or scroll that can be found at a premium on the side streets of Insadong. Find something that has the patina of age, no guarantee of course, and the look of an original. Find one with a couple of critters you think she might be partial to and I don't think you can really go wrong. There may even be a sculpture that fits the bill. Expensive, but it seems she's earned it. A nod to both her culture and her interests. |
An ink painting? She's 30, not 60. Those only appeal to elderly Koreans and foreigners.
Nah, OP, get her the gold necklace she asked (i.e. bring her shopping to the jewelry store and let her pick whatever she wants). |
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augustine
Joined: 08 Sep 2012
Location: México
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| Posted: Tue Sep 24, 2013 7:34 am Post subject: |
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| OP, you may be a retard at giving gifts but apparently a genius at receiving them. Anyways, what about an old Korean nature painting or scroll that can be found at a premium on the side streets of Insadong. Find something that has the patina of age, no guarantee of course, and the look of an original. Find one with a couple of critters you think she might be partial to and I don't think you can really go wrong. There may even be a sculpture that fits the bill. Expensive, but it seems she's earned it. A nod to both her culture and her interests. |
I always tried to give back, she just had a better knack for it than I ever did (aside from that tight as hell black Armani turtleneck sweater she gave me, couldn't be caught dead in that thing). Nevertheless, appreciate the input, erasmus, and I just excitedly asked her if that was something she might be interested in... but she shot it down  lol. She seems intent on the gold necklace...
I was actually typing out a hateful response to 12ax7 from his previous post, but I opted out due to his genuine sounding post I caught when hitting the preview button. |
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alpope23
Joined: 15 Mar 2006
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| Posted: Tue Sep 24, 2013 6:28 pm Post subject: |
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Get her a kid.
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Steelrails
Joined: 12 Mar 2009
Location: Earth, Solar System
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| Posted: Tue Sep 24, 2013 7:57 pm Post subject: |
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Go for the gift from the heart: Cash. Or stocks. Even better, $500 of pork belly futures on the commodities market.
As an O&A fan, I have to put in a plug for Steven Singer Jewelers. The jewelers for clueless guys who want to get a girl something nice.
http://ihatestevensinger.com/ |
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augustine
Joined: 08 Sep 2012
Location: México
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| Posted: Tue Sep 24, 2013 8:31 pm Post subject: |
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| O & A is the shiz. I've pretty much been removed from the entire process at this point. I just have to be physically present with some form of currency to exchange for whatever it is that she wants. Gotta give a nice letter or card, obviously. *Edited out gay sounding stuff. |
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12ax7
Joined: 07 Nov 2009
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| Posted: Tue Sep 24, 2013 8:50 pm Post subject: |
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| augustine wrote: |
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| OP, you may be a retard at giving gifts but apparently a genius at receiving them. Anyways, what about an old Korean nature painting or scroll that can be found at a premium on the side streets of Insadong. Find something that has the patina of age, no guarantee of course, and the look of an original. Find one with a couple of critters you think she might be partial to and I don't think you can really go wrong. There may even be a sculpture that fits the bill. Expensive, but it seems she's earned it. A nod to both her culture and her interests. |
I always tried to give back, she just had a better knack for it than I ever did (aside from that tight as hell black Armani turtleneck sweater she gave me, couldn't be caught dead in that thing). Nevertheless, appreciate the input, erasmus, and I just excitedly asked her if that was something she might be interested in... but she shot it down lol. She seems intent on the gold necklace...
I was actually typing out a hateful response to 12ax7 from his previous post, but I opted out due to his genuine sounding post I caught when hitting the preview button. |
Gotta share some of my hard-earned wisdom sometimes. Really, you should bring her shopping for that necklace. She may not have the same tastes as you. Besides, giving a gift is a nice gesture, but bringing her shopping is, well, badass. What's a hundred thousand more than you had budgeted if it creates a memorable experience for both of you?
Then again, maybe the request for a necklace is actually her way of dropping a hint that she wants an engagement ring.  |
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