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Real Reality · Joined: 10 Jan 2003 Location: Seoul

Stop Footing The Bill On Dates
The real gender gap is that women with good jobs and equal incomes are still insisting that men finance their social lives. I'd say that's a double standard...a very self-serving double standard. Why should men foot the bill for dinner, entertainment and weekend getaways, while women happily bank their paychecks? In an age of equality, shouldn't the focus of dating be on partnership and sharing, instead of women still expecting to be taken care of financially?
By Matthew Fitzgerald, Askmen.com (retrieved on December 27 2004)
http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmith_100/101_dating_advice.html

Women aspire to be housewives without any of the housework
Mothers are rejecting equality in the workplace and prefer the idea of becoming full-time housewives - but not ones who actually do housework.
....Instead they want to play the "role" of housewife with a little help from, for instance, a nanny, and someone who does the ironing.
By Sarah Womack (November 5, 2004)
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/main.jhtml?xml=/news/2004/05/11/nwife11.xml&sSheet=/news/2004/05/11/ixhome.html

Women Marry Up
Many women use marriage as a meal-ticket, a way to escape their feminist won freedom to pursue a career. (Women Vs. Women: The Uncivil Business War, Tara Roth Madden, p 137) Thus, a man who marries a woman with a career may suddenly find himself supporting a housewife. A friend found himself in such a situation. Now he's dead. Committed suicide. It happens. To women, commitment can mean escape, freedom, options to do whatever they want. Many count themselves victorious when they can pull it off. (Women Vs. Women: The Uncivil Business War, Tara Roth Madden, p 141) What's all of this mean to men? Prostitution by any other name still means you have to pay for it.
by Rod Van Mechelen
http://www.backlash.com/book/commit.html

Marriage 5 Times More Expensive For Men Than Women
by Lee Jung-kyu, JoongAng Ilbo (November 22, 2000)

Women taking lead in filing for divorce
JoongAng Daily July 01, 2005
http://joongangdaily.joins.com/200506/30/200506302309010009900090409041.html

RachaelRoo · Joined: 15 Jul 2005 Location: Anywhere but Ulsan!

I'm not saying that this is entirely the way I look at the world or anything, but....
I believe that the reason women are still not always expected to foot the bill is that we have to spend so much $ to look good. Some guys may not realize what it takes....makeup, hair, clothes....it costs some serious dough just to keep up.
In Ontario, they are actually trying to pass a law making it illegal to charge women more more than men for the same service, such as haircuts and drycleaning. It's true, we really do get charged more for identical services. Even if it involves the same amount of work for a service provider as a man would require.
And we still don't get paid as much on average for the same work, statistically.

peemil · Joined: 09 Feb 2003 Location: Koowoompa

"Women are attracted to men with money."

Well, there is the no-brainer of the day.

Ever see a homeless guy with a great personality hooked up with a couple of models?

Nope. Didn't think so.

Case closed.

cosmicgirlie · Joined: 29 Jan 2003

Hey I admit I date men for money.
So frickin' what!
Does this make me shallow? No...it just means I've got a boyfriend who's got money to play with, and play with I do.

Maserial · Joined: 31 Jul 2005 Location: The Web

kermo · Posted: Wed Aug 31, 2005 7:30 pm Post subject:

I've done my time and earned my wings with a short, plain, high-school drop-out who was incapable of getting work outside of part-time security and retail gigs.

I was attracted to him because he treated me like gold (his lifestyle as a "gentleman of leisure" left him plenty of time to watch movies and bake pies with me.) We had a blast for a while, but in the long run (i.e., real life) poverty took its toll. He eventually got that high school degree, but had some damned expensive habits. I supported him for a while, but he didn't keep up his end relationship-wise, so I eventually bailed.

So, in my case, money doesn't have much to do with initial attraction; in fact, I think that guys with flash cars and bling on their Rolexes are pretty weak. I do think it's a factor in keeping long-term relationships viable, though. It's less stressful (as long as the job itself doesn't create burn-out), and it creates more options for the sort of recreation and leisure that helps to make a relationship interesting.

ChimpumCallao · Joined: 17 May 2005 Location: your mom

death from above · Joined: 31 Jul 2005 Location: in your head

princess · Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Location: soul of Asia

Whatever...Studies don't always mean anything. I love my guy no matter how much money he makes and yes we are going strong these days...He's not mean to me like some people on this board misinterpreted.

Gopher · Joined: 04 Jun 2005

Come on, didn't you listen to Paula Abdul's "The Way That You Love Me"?

It ain't the French Riviera
It ain't the weekends in Rome
You know I'd rather stay home...

peppermint · Posted: Thu Sep 01, 2005 2:19 am Post subject:

AdamH · Posted: Thu Sep 01, 2005 3:57 am Post subject:

Oh come on. How many people here would say no to winning a tidy little sum on the lottery? Getting yourself a partner (that's right, I said "partner") who has a few bob is a nice easy step in that general direction.

Men are more reluctant to pursue women for money because of the old macho ideal that they should at least be on an equal footing. Powerful women are often seen as intimidating ball-breakers or unattainable princesses - eg. the movie Alfie or song Uptown Girl. The blokes feel out of their league, can't believe their luck, or expect to get ditched for a wealthier man at any moment. With insecurity like that, it's a self-fulfilling prophecy.

khyber · Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Location: Compunction Junction

to do this study right, they should give ugly guys, pricks and homeless people a lot of money and see if chicks'll still dig'em