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Adventurer
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 Posted: Sat Feb 03, 2007 8:14 pm Post subject: |
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I have no problem hanging out with a single female friend just to hang out. Someone might think we're going out. So what?
I remember once a Greek fellow think this nice girl I always hung out with was my girlfriend. He thought we went well together. I enjoyed being with her. She was great, and I liked talking one on one with her like I do with some of my male friends. This is a modern thing. Let's be modern about this. I think it is very normal for me to have a female friend and to be with her one-on-one. Why not? If you are talking about trying to look as available as possible, you can argue that when females are together in a big group males might not approach them. A single female who is alone may get approached more.
As far as attractiveness, I would date someone I am somewhat attracted to like most people. However, attractiveness to one person is different from person to person. For example, I was dating this one girl. I liked her because I liked her. I did think she was attractive in my eyes somewhat. One of my acquaintances said "Man, that girl you're going out with is so hot". I didn't really think of her as hot as much as I liked her and she was kind of cute to me. Also, someone's personality can make them seem ugly when they are nice on the outside or so pretty when they are so nice. I did like this one girl who on the outside looks just plain but something about her and her eyes and the way she carries herself that would have me prefer her over a model. |
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kermo
Joined: 01 Sep 2004
Location: Eating eggs, with a comb, out of a shoe.
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| Posted: Sun Feb 04, 2007 3:27 am Post subject: |
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| So what are you girls saying... that you wouldn't date ugly people? For me, the qualities that attract me to a guy are pretty much the same for a friend as for a boyfriend, except that I need a higher level of trust and reliability from a boyfriend than from someone I'd consider a friend. So I'd have no qualms about dating a friend although I wouldn't want to do it if I thought it wasn't likely to develop into anything serious... I wouldn't want to ruin a good friendship that way. |
To answer your question, Lizara, I'd say that hotness is not mandatory, but there needs to at least be a lack of repulsion. Actually, come to think of it, I had a very serious long-term relationship once with a short, heavily scarred guy with oozing sores on his neck, and although it was quite gross, we were friends first and the connection we had between us was enough to overcome that. He did have a very nice, muscular body, though he gave up exercising soon after we got together. 
I do have friends that I would consider too unattractive to date, but I think their personalities contribute to my reluctance. It's usually not their faces or bodies that put them out of the running-- it's annoying habits or social cluelessness (those are the shallow reasons, anyway.). I guess I didn't make that clear-- attractiveness doesn't necessarily hinge on physical attributes.
Of course, I really appreciate it when a great guy has an appealing body, but that wouldn't be the deciding factor in whether someone is a boyfriend candidate or not. I'll admit, there might be some difficulty dating a guy with a serious weight problem, an unusual deformity, or a scraggly neck-beard. |
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