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Juregen
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 Posted: Wed Oct 06, 2010 3:46 pm Post subject: Re: my girlfriend thinks i don't |
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| machoman wrote: |
| plan enough dates. she wants me to book something in advance and take her out. but there isn't much to do besides go out, drink, watch a movie, eat dinner, walk around, go to a gallery. i cook her dinner all the frickin time, but it's not enough. do you guys have any ideas? i mentioned taking her to watch Nanta but she didn't seem too interested. |
Oh oh, bail out if you don't want to be spending your whole income on her requests!
Princess Syndrome. |
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Radius
Joined: 20 Dec 2009
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| WadRUG'naDoo wrote: |
Take her to Starbucks. Sit down and tell her that you have an amazing date planned. Order coffee or whatever and then tell her you're going to tap her on the shoulder and say "You're it" and go outside. Explain that she has to wait only five minutes and then go outside. So then tap her on the shoulder, say "You're it" and go outside and hail a taxi.
Go to a movie or get drunk somewhere. Then the next time you see her, tell her you were playing tag which is very popular in western countries. That she had to find you and you couldn't answer her calls without breaking the rules.
If she whines "I didn't know blah, blah," tell her that she knows now. So if she wants to do the same to you, just be ready for it and instead of looking for her, go out drinking with the boys and tell her you couldn't find her. |
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youtuber
Joined: 13 Sep 2009
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| Posted: Wed Oct 06, 2010 7:33 pm Post subject: |
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I dunno....sounds like she is not interested in you anymore.
At first, K girls are great! But after a few months or so......
Move on, find another, pass yours on to the next foreigner. It's the circle of life here! |
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machoman
Joined: 11 Jul 2007
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| Posted: Wed Oct 06, 2010 8:02 pm Post subject: |
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| i've been dating her for a year and a half and have been friends with her for 3 years. someone said it correctly above.... she compares herself to her korean friends and their boyfriends do crap and she expects me to do the same. she gets on my case for not writing enough sweet text messages. but the thing is, koreans are obsessed with texting. i barely even use my phone. |
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balzor
Joined: 14 Feb 2009
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| Posted: Wed Oct 06, 2010 8:05 pm Post subject: |
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| machoman wrote: |
| i've been dating her for a year and a half and have been friends with her for 3 years. someone said it correctly above.... she compares herself to her korean friends and their boyfriends do crap and she expects me to do the same. she gets on my case for not writing enough sweet text messages. but the thing is, koreans are obsessed with texting. i barely even use my phone. |
Sounds like you need to either give in or set some boundaries. |
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murmanjake
Joined: 21 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Wed Oct 06, 2010 8:49 pm Post subject: |
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| machoman wrote: |
| i've been dating her for a year and a half and have been friends with her for 3 years. someone said it correctly above.... she compares herself to her korean friends and their boyfriends do crap and she expects me to do the same. she gets on my case for not writing enough sweet text messages. but the thing is, koreans are obsessed with texting. i barely even use my phone. |
That mighta been me.
Last night I took my k-girlfriend of about 2 years out to a (sorta) surprise dinner in apgujeong. She was tickled pink. The extent of my planning was calling to make a reservation about an hour before we got there. We're both wicked busy, so it was a nice break. And she could brag about it to her friends if she wanted...
She does like to satisfy the friends, but she also has a mean streak of independence. Which is why I love her. Not to say she doesn't feel the peer pressure. Her friends are getting married left and right. Luckily she's too busy to hassle me that much about it.
So my advice stands. It's not necessarily your emotional commitment she needs(eg homecooked meals). But maybe a show of understanding her desires(something that fits into her fairytale view of romance).
Then again my gf is 26, not 22. Big differences in expectations I bet.
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And about the texting. Just send her a picture of your macho bod every now and then. Easy percheesie and she'll love it. |
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tottenhamtaipeinick
Joined: 05 Sep 2010
Location: Canada
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| Posted: Wed Oct 06, 2010 10:12 pm Post subject: |
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| Princess Syndrome !!! hahaha or you did everything when you first chased her and when u realised she loved u more u turned into a slob!..... if you give her high hopes she will always be expecting the best! |
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machoman
Joined: 11 Jul 2007
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| Posted: Wed Oct 06, 2010 11:03 pm Post subject: |
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| we started off as fb's 3 years ago. i made the line clear that i wasn't interested in a relationship bc i was leaving in a year. then i taught in china and she came to visit. and that's when i decided i'd be coming back to korea to be with her. so as her friend, i was completely myself, blew her off a lot. but it's only now that we're a couple and getting more and more serious, she wants me to put in more effort. i really think it's just a comparison with her friends type thing. she'll say stuff like "mina and her bf went to blah blah last weekend and when they ask me what i did, all i can say is we watched a dvd." |
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liveinkorea316
Joined: 20 Aug 2010
Location: South Korea
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I agree with your gf on some level because she would naturally be aware of how her friends relationships are more exciting than hers.
It seems however that she wants to remain the baby in the relationship. I don't mean that in a bad way but just that she wants to be led around instead of taking initiative. It might be her first serious relationship so she could still be learning how she needs to behave and act. She will probably grow up more as time goes by so you should not just blow her off yet.
However, in my case I would probably get tired of someone who constantly took from me and I never felt returned me much back. My eye might naturally start to wander. So give her some time and see if she is able to grow as you also put in more effort. It could be a stage for her or it could be a character flaw that she needs to work on. It does not in any case mean that she will always be like that.
You could suggest that as a team you both take more responsibility for dates and even though you are likely to pay she could still organize things.. |
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