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zdrav



Joined: 08 Dec 2010

PostPosted: Mon Aug 22, 2011 3:46 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I don't think it's good for long-term teachers to date students, even former students. When students know that the teacher is a potential romantic target, I think that hurts the atmosphere of the classroom.

However, some teachers are quite young and only short-term workers. Once they're done teaching and the students are no longer in their classes, I don't think there's anything wrong with relationships happening.
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geckosterrace



Joined: 02 Feb 2010
Location: Seoul,Jamsil

PostPosted: Mon Aug 22, 2011 4:53 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

high school girls will call you a pervert if you hug them.
are you handsome?
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sojusucks



Joined: 31 May 2008

PostPosted: Mon Aug 22, 2011 5:44 am    Post subject: Re: Keeping in contact with students Reply with quote

WhyKimchi wrote:
I receive a LOT of attention, especially from young girls. One group I am teaching in particular are high school students ages 17 and 18. A few of the female students take it upon themselves to try to snap pictures of me with them holding my arms and they even ask me to be friends with them on Facebook.


Be careful. I have a male friend that had the same thing happen to him. Eventually one of the girls tried to kiss him. A few others only chatted with him but hoped it would lead to a relationship. What seems innocent to us may not be innocent to them.

This ought to make a lot of Korean males jealous Smile hahaha.
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zdrav



Joined: 08 Dec 2010

PostPosted: Mon Aug 22, 2011 5:46 am    Post subject: Re: Keeping in contact with students Reply with quote

sojusucks wrote:
WhyKimchi wrote:
I receive a LOT of attention, especially from young girls. One group I am teaching in particular are high school students ages 17 and 18. A few of the female students take it upon themselves to try to snap pictures of me with them holding my arms and they even ask me to be friends with them on Facebook.


Be careful. I have a male friend that had the same thing happen to him. Eventually one of the girls tried to kiss him. A few others only chatted with him but hoped it would lead to a relationship. What seems innocent to us may not be innocent to them.

This ought to make a lot of Korean males jealous Smile hahaha.


I'm a Korean male, and when I taught, this frequently happened to me. There was another Korean teacher who was better-looking than me and he got even more attention.

If you're at least somewhat attractive, Korean or white or otherwise, you'll get attention.
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Steelrails



Joined: 12 Mar 2009
Location: Earth, Solar System

PostPosted: Mon Aug 22, 2011 6:07 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

This thread is rapidly descending into "eww".
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Zackback



Joined: 05 Nov 2010
Location: Kyungbuk

PostPosted: Mon Aug 29, 2011 4:48 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

TheUrbanMyth wrote:
liveinkorea316 wrote:
I'm sorry, I have to agree with Zackback.

Firstly, the person who equated dated and/or sleeping with 21 year olds to murder is silly. That is a stupid comparison.

You do know that the legal age of consent here is rediculously low right? I heard 18 other people say 13???? That is 13 years old.

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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ages_of_consent_in_Asia


"South Korea

The age of consent in South Korea is technically 13 but practically 19.
According to section 305 of the Criminal Law of South Korea [56] it is a criminal offense to engage in any sexual act with a minor under the age of 13.
According to section 7 of the Protection of Minors from Sexual Exploitation Law,[57] it is a criminal offense to deceive or pressurize a minor under the age of 19 into any sexual act.
Strictly speaking, the age of consent in South Korea is 13. However, if deceit or pressure is used in gaining the consent of a minor under the age of 19 the accused will be punished under section 7 of the Protection of Minors from Sexual Exploitation Law[58]
for it is very difficult to prove that the sexual act was completely voluntary."

Bolding mine

While it may be 13 technically, for all intents and purposes it is 19. And any adult who goes after a 13 year old deserves to be stuck in jail for life in MHO.



This is the best post ever. The information here is very important.
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ChrisLamp



Joined: 27 Jul 2010

PostPosted: Mon Aug 29, 2011 6:43 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

if you're into that sort of thing.
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ATM SPIDERTAO



Joined: 05 Jul 2009
Location: seoul, south korea

PostPosted: Tue Aug 30, 2011 11:11 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

[quote="wishfullthinkng"][quote="Zackback"]When they graduate (20 years old) that IS an adult.[/quote]

perhaps by a standardized idea of when a persons age as a number qualifies them as an adult and at what point their bodies have matured to the point where they do not grow anymore, yes. mentally most people at 20 are absolutely not adults, especially in korea.

i'm not sure if you read my post carefully but it said "[b]no matter what anyone thinks[/b], almost all high school students in korea are just giant children, especially the ones who are giggling around you and taking pictures to show their girlfriends." and you are dead wrong, no matter what you think.

most of these kids have never been out of the country to experience life at all, had a job, had a good lay, or many of the other things that changes us into true adults. you definitely are covered in a shroud of denial.[/quote]

you sound like a wet blanket dude... and extremely preachy. the only reason asian people around 20 are acting like children to you is because they grew up in a repressed country while you grew up in a westernized world where your parents talk to you about sex and condoms when you are in puberty and they hide it under the rug here. your parents also probably encouraged you getting a job while still in school while it is pretty shameful to asians to have to get their kids to work while still going to school. finally at age 20, they can think for themselves and do what they like and we have a hot shot english teacher telling them they're still children and can't think for themselves... oh noes =/
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wishfullthinkng



Joined: 05 Mar 2010

PostPosted: Wed Aug 31, 2011 1:08 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

ATM SPIDERTAO wrote:
you sound like a wet blanket dude... and extremely preachy.


that was the goal champ. way to catch on. you keep that ear to the ground now, you hear?



edit: also, i'm not an english teacher. keep thinking what you think you know though, you seem to be very good at it.
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Milwaukiedave



Joined: 02 Oct 2004
Location: Goseong

PostPosted: Wed Aug 31, 2011 5:08 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

In terms of university students, I have kept in contact with one or two over the years. Those tend to be the best students who work the hardest as well. I have one male student and one female student on my Facebook page, but I don't teach at either of the places they go to school anymore.

I also worked at a camp and one girl asked for all of the native speaker's phone numbers. She bugged us for about three weeks and finally gave up contacting us. We all regretted giving her our numbers. It was like having a stalker.

For high school students I'd advise keeping a good distance.
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NohopeSeriously



Joined: 17 Jan 2011
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PostPosted: Wed Aug 31, 2011 5:39 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

It's all up to you. Koreans are obsessed with connections (inmaek in Korean).
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Zackback



Joined: 05 Nov 2010
Location: Kyungbuk

PostPosted: Wed Aug 31, 2011 5:53 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Milwaukiedave wrote:
In terms of university students, I have kept in contact with one or two over the years. Those tend to be the best students who work the hardest as well. I have one male student and one female student on my Facebook page, but I don't teach at either of the places they go to school anymore.

I also worked at a camp and one girl asked for all of the native speaker's phone numbers. She bugged us for about three weeks and finally gave up contacting us. We all regretted giving her our numbers. It was like having a stalker.

For high school students I'd advise keeping a good distance.


A stalker?

I love chicks like that!
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dumpring



Joined: 06 Apr 2010
Location: Auckland, NZ

PostPosted: Wed Aug 31, 2011 6:49 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Just keep it professional O.P. They are minors, treat them as such.
Photos, etc, fine.
Cellphone, only work related and if possible don't give your number to any student.
Facebook as another poster mentioned, folder for students where they can't see your private content.

There is no reason to come across as an unfriendly git but remember you're the adult, you're the one who needs to draw the line.
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Ya-ta Boy



Joined: 16 Jan 2003
Location: Established in 1994

PostPosted: Wed Aug 31, 2011 8:08 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

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A few of the female students take it upon themselves to try to snap pictures of me with them holding my arms and they even ask me to be friends with them on Facebook.

What do I do? What's acceptable behavior in SK between students and teachers? If they want a hug can I give them one? Can we be FB friends? I don't want to date or sleep with ANY students... I'd feel really bad about that. But how often does a simple hug or friendship turn into accusations that are simply untrue?

These new social standards I have to accept for the next year are unclear to me... I was shocked the other day when a male student ran up to me and hugged me.


In my view, the advice about you being the adult is sound...but you are not back home. Koreans are not at all hung up about touching, like we tend to be back home. Just because someone hugs you doesn't mean they want to jump your bones.

Be warm, be positive, be supportive. Naturally, squelch any kid who goes beyond the proper line, but don't be paranoid about it. That will come across as cold and unfriendly. Touching does not have to have a sexual meaning. It's perfectly OK to drape your arms over people's shoulders when having a group picture taken.

When in doubt, ask a Korean teacher.
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Zackback



Joined: 05 Nov 2010
Location: Kyungbuk

PostPosted: Thu Sep 01, 2011 2:22 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

What a dig about them is there is no pretense.....no second guessing games.
I wish all chicks were like that. The fact that almost all of them aren't make the ones that are so very very special.
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