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mindmetoo
Joined: 02 Feb 2004
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| women want arseholes. Nice guys? cmon. If two guys walk up to a girl, one a niceguy and the other an outgoing arsehole, even if the niceguy looks better (provided the arsehole isnt butt ugly) the girl will go with the arsehole. Women basically want guys who project power. be that physical power, financial power, a powerful personality (i.e machismo). Thats it. Women are not difficult beings to figure out, in many ways they are more shallow, easier to read than men. |
Right, women dont want nice guys. But of course a knob like you will take things to the other extreme, see things in black and white. Fact is, women dont want nice guys, OR arseholes. They want a guy with self confidence, and there is a big and important difference between self confidence and arrogance/egotism. They dont want an obsequious guy who acts grateful for her company. They dont want a guy who acts like she is lucky to even be around him. They dont want a totally selfish knobend. They dont want a doormat. Charisma doesnt mean pushy. Confidence doesnt mean arrogance. Self esteem doesnt mean selfishness. They want a guy who is reasonable, treats her with respect but wont be pushed around or manipulated or used. A guy who knows when to hang back and give her space, and when to be decisive and take the lead. A guy who knows when to be soft and when to be a man...
In short, they want ME!!!  |
Well said. Save for the last line 
What one guy decides is an a hole can seem to a woman as a guy with some self confidence and a promise of a good time. |
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peppermint
Joined: 13 May 2003
Location: traversing the minefields of caddishness.
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| Posted: Sat Jun 17, 2006 9:38 am Post subject: |
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| Dude, change your avatar for petes sake. You mentioned that these women you post are friends, but that one looks like something out of an AFN ad about human trafficking |
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kingplaya4
Joined: 14 May 2006
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| Posted: Sat Jun 17, 2006 11:03 am Post subject: |
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| kermo wrote: |
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They also would rather date a guy with a good jawline, nice teeth, 6'2 with muscles rather than a guy who may be a little nicer and a good deal more intelligent who has mediocre looks. I know I'm generalizing, but that is the trend in dating. |
Got to disagree here.
I kid you not: what occurs to me when I see a guy with bulging pecs is this-- "I wonder how long he spent in the gym developing those instead of reading books?"
Intelligence rates very highly with me, as does sense of humour. If you've got red hair, well, that pretty much seals the deal.
Un-nice qualities like pushiness, dishonesty, aggression, insincerity-- these are all deal-breakers.
In the interest of full disclosure, I spent some time last year pursuing an asshole-only policy, because I wasn't available for a medium-long term relationship and I didn't want to form a close cuddly connection with anyone. Didn't want to hurt the nice guys, or worse, fall for one. These days I've got no time for the arseholes. That season is over and done. |
I'm sorry if my post gave the impression that this is what ALL women are looking for. Certainly some women put intelligence and personality first, but I believe the majority do put looks above other traits.
So where do you go hunting during nice guy season?  |
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Junior
Joined: 18 Nov 2005
Location: the eye
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| Posted: Sat Jun 17, 2006 11:56 am Post subject: Re: Muscles or personality? |
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But, the burning question is...which one should i work on more ? Muscles? OR personality?. |
Its a mystery what women go for. Any effort on your part will probably be wasted.
You're ripped? women don't like musclebound guys.
you're funny? they don't take jokers seriously.
you're confident? Women like to be in control in a relationship.
you're extrovert? they like the strong silent ones.
basically dude theres nothing you can do. you'll end up with one you don't really want anyhow, and the ones you want will elude you. its a womans game.  |
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Mashimaro
Joined: 31 Jan 2003
Location: location, location
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| Posted: Sat Jun 17, 2006 5:13 pm Post subject: Re: Muscles or personality? |
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| Junior wrote: |
Its a mystery what women go for. |
no it's not.. most men just don't get it
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jinju
Joined: 22 Jan 2006
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| Posted: Sat Jun 17, 2006 5:57 pm Post subject: |
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| peppermint wrote: |
| Dude, change your avatar for petes sake. You mentioned that these women you post are friends, but that one looks like something out of an AFN ad about human trafficking |
shut up, thats a hot avatr |
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Satori
Joined: 09 Dec 2005
Location: Above it all
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| Posted: Sat Jun 17, 2006 9:28 pm Post subject: Re: Muscles or personality? |
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| Mashimaro wrote: |
| Junior wrote: |
Its a mystery what women go for. |
no it's not.. most men just don't get it |
Lets have your take on it ... |
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Mashimaro
Joined: 31 Jan 2003
Location: location, location
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| Posted: Sat Jun 17, 2006 9:54 pm Post subject: Re: Muscles or personality? |
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| Satori wrote: |
| Mashimaro wrote: |
| Junior wrote: |
Its a mystery what women go for. |
no it's not.. most men just don't get it |
Lets have your take on it ... |
Simple. Act the opposite of most guys |
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Corporal
Joined: 25 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Sun Jun 18, 2006 12:26 am Post subject: |
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| mindmetoo wrote: |
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| Since when does personality equal sexual technique? Am I missing something? |
I think so. Sure some women like being bent into novel positions and having their wetter womanly bits mashed against rock hard male parts and a guy who just knows how to jack hammer them into one of those tightly wound up dimensions superstring types are always yammering on about, but some women like mind sex. For many women, foreplay starts the moment you pick them up at their house.
But I suspect Corporal has a completely different opinion. |
About what, foreplay?
And I agree, change the av. That girl is...umm... |
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Satori
Joined: 09 Dec 2005
Location: Above it all
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| Posted: Sun Jun 18, 2006 12:43 am Post subject: Re: Muscles or personality? |
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| Mashimaro wrote: |
| Satori wrote: |
| Mashimaro wrote: |
| Junior wrote: |
Its a mystery what women go for. |
no it's not.. most men just don't get it |
Lets have your take on it ... |
Simple. Act the opposite of most guys |
Spell it out then, because it's not entirely clear what you mean... |
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Mashimaro
Joined: 31 Jan 2003
Location: location, location
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| Posted: Sun Jun 18, 2006 4:47 pm Post subject: Re: Muscles or personality? |
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| Satori wrote: |
| Mashimaro wrote: |
| Satori wrote: |
| Mashimaro wrote: |
| Junior wrote: |
Its a mystery what women go for. |
no it's not.. most men just don't get it |
Lets have your take on it ... |
Simple. Act the opposite of most guys |
Spell it out then, because it's not entirely clear what you mean... |
You don't know how most guys act? |
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kermo
Joined: 01 Sep 2004
Location: Eating eggs, with a comb, out of a shoe.
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| Posted: Sun Jun 18, 2006 5:40 pm Post subject: |
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How do I go hunting during nice guy season?
Usually one quick bite to the hamstring does it. |
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flotsam
Joined: 28 Mar 2006
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| Posted: Sun Jun 18, 2006 5:50 pm Post subject: |
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| kermo wrote: |
How do I go hunting during nice guy season?
Usually one quick bite to the hamstring does it. |
(Glad I'm back to using emoticons.) |
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Satori
Joined: 09 Dec 2005
Location: Above it all
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| Posted: Sun Jun 18, 2006 8:16 pm Post subject: Re: Muscles or personality? |
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| Mashimaro wrote: |
| Satori wrote: |
| Mashimaro wrote: |
| Satori wrote: |
| Mashimaro wrote: |
| Junior wrote: |
Its a mystery what women go for. |
no it's not.. most men just don't get it |
Lets have your take on it ... |
Simple. Act the opposite of most guys |
Spell it out then, because it's not entirely clear what you mean... |
You don't know how most guys act? |
Not during the time when they are one on one with chicks, obviously... |
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kingplaya4
Joined: 14 May 2006
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| Posted: Sun Jun 18, 2006 10:02 pm Post subject: |
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| kermo wrote: |
How do I go hunting during nice guy season?
Usually one quick bite to the hamstring does it. |
Can I suggest Hanibal Lecter? He can be quite the gentleman in social situations. |
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