Korean Job Discussion Forums

[pugwall]

I think you should stop caring about nationality so much and concern yourself more with the individual you are courting. If you are a decent, honest and genuine guy then things will fall into place.

[endo]

[Justin Hale]

Creepy, my ass! Men of 80 can father children. Girls of 15 can mother children. Women of 40 cannot mother children. And yet society would have us believe that finding 40 year old women attractive is fine and dandy yet finding 15 year old girls attractive is so not kosher! It's just self-evidently ridiculous and fundamentally false.

Really though, I'm rarely stumped. It takes a lot to render me at a loss for words. But Rooster has succeeded in rendering me mute. He claims he's handsome - even if he does say so himself - and can't, for love nor money, get a girl, anywhere. Rather strange.

Anyway, when I was 21, I dated girls younger than me (17 and 18 ). I'm 29 now and my GF is 22. It's true that young guys may struggle with girls their own age. "Handsome" guys should have less problem. It's been suggested to Rooster by a different poster that he does the same (dates younger chicks), but Rooster complained the girls in question were immature. Well, just how much does he want a GF? Beej was needlessly harsh and puerile, but perhaps he kinda had a point. We heterosexual males will bonk anything that will give us the time of day. Some hot babe says "2+2=46"? No problem. Some hot chick is a fundamentalist Christian? Heck, I couldn't give a you-know-what! The question is....does she have nice legs, nice hair, nice eyes, and above all, is she interested?

[rooster_2006]

[Atavistic]

[Big_Bird]

[Lunar Groove Gardener]

The lesson that we need most is the one which we are presently shown through our circumstances and reactions to/interactions with them.

Once you learn the lesson at hand, whatever it may be, you will be less likely to repeat the cycle in which you find yourself.

Also the whole "Darwin" mandate thing is not exactly sophisticated sounding, even though it is an attempt at humour. I would think that a sharp 18 year old would be a good match and a lucky catch for you.

Just wait until the lesson where you start wishing you were single again comes along....then look into the mirror and laugh/cry.

[rooster_2006]

[Yangachi]

[rooster_2006]

[darkcity]

if it makes you feel any better, i'm in the same position as you (although i'm less vocal about my frustration). two years, no girlfriend, but a long line of rejections.

for selfish reasons, i hope it works out for you in the end.

in regards to your hangups about making the first move, i will say that guys like us often misinterpret "flirting". i don't know what else to say, i'm getting depressed.

[rooster_2006]

[Sody]

I love my students who are elementary school girls. They are adorable and full of life. Very kind and normal.

But not Korean women. They are EXTREMELY difficult to get along with, like most Korean adults. Someone mentioned they are a lot like Russians, very rude and nationalistic. I'm not sure I would agree with this, but I will say that Korean women are messed up seriously. It makes me sad to say this because I know they start out ok because the kids are normal.

There is something about Korean culture and society that seriously messes up the people in this god forsaken country. I haven't been able to define all the problems but I really feel bad for Koreans because if they only had a chance they would turn out normal like other people.

But more often than not I have found this to practically impossible in Korea. Especially regarding the women who are miserable and have low self esteem.

I'm probably just ranting though because some stupid grade 2 teacher in my school who is an old ugly hag was screaming at my grade 2 students and smashing her wooden stick on their desks.

I will never date a Korean woman because they are messed up but also because the mere thought of a relationship means having to deal with people I hate. Just the word "ajumma," conjures up images of some old hag who whines, complains and treats other people like cr*p.

[Privateer]

[Oreovictim]

Wait, how old are you again? 21 or so? I would think that that would be a good age to meet some women. My last coworker would go up to some area of Seoul where there's a women's university. He had all kinds of luck. (It might have been in Hongdae.) But he was hitting the clubs, and I don't know if you're a clubbin' kind of guy.

My situation is a little more difficult. I'm 34; most Korean women at that age are already married with kids. Sure, that's the same back in the U.S., but even more so here. On a side note, at my last teaching gig, the parents would come in to pay the monthly bills. Some of the moms were my age, and looked horrible. Not fat or anything, just, well, really old and worn out looking.

For being 34, I look really young for my age -early '20s sometimes mid '20s. I should just be dishonest and tell women that I'm 27 or so. But I'm not all about lying in a relationship. It's just that when I hang out with Korean guys and gals who are around that age, when they find out how old I am, they start to act a lot different - too uptight and aloof.