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I had a fight w/my fiance...
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guangho



Joined: 19 Jan 2005
Location: a spot full of deception, stupidity, and public micturation and thus unfit for longterm residency

PostPosted: Fri Jul 08, 2005 2:35 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

sparkx wrote:
I'm just deeply concerned that she'll find herself in a situation like this one:

http://soompi.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=368315


....lolz...
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flambastic



Joined: 07 Oct 2004

PostPosted: Sat Jul 09, 2005 10:32 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

shortskirt_longjacket wrote:
Guys who "tease" and "joke" around with their girlfriends like that tend to be insecure.

I've dumped guys before who thought that I should just take their constant teasing. They told me if I couldn't laugh at myself, then I wasn't a good person or some crap. Whatever. Some people find poo humor funny. Some people think that racist jokes are funny. You're not a bad person if you don't laugh at the same things as someone else. And some kinds of "humor" shouldn't be tolerated. (Like Canada jokes. I just wish people would stop picking on those poor, defenseless Canadians!)

The person you're with shouldn't "tease" you in this way for his own entertainment or whatever it was that he was going for. It's really not that hilarious to joke about breaking up or divorce or whatever. If he was going for humor, there are so many avenues he could have taken that would have been received in the intended manner.

Don't put up with this behavior unless you enjoy it.



To SS_LJ,

I would rather be with a guy who doesn't take things to seriously rather than lie and cheat on the person you are dating.

Sound familiar?

What do you think is the lesser of those evils?

In future keep your "holier than thou" comments to yourself.
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stumptown



Joined: 11 Apr 2005
Location: Paju: Wife beating capital of Korea

PostPosted: Sun Jul 10, 2005 1:40 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

God this thread is getting old. Who cares?
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The Chewbacca Defense



Joined: 29 May 2004
Location: The ROK and a hard place

PostPosted: Mon Jul 11, 2005 6:02 am    Post subject: ... Reply with quote

I have to agree with FLAMBASTIC.

Australians are known for their laid back attitudes.

Swearing and kidding around are part of our nature.

I went out with a Canadian girl for about 2 years. I acted like I did normally i.e as if I was going out with an Australian girl. She also, for the record, gave it out as much as I did. We broke up and one of the reasons that she said was that she didn't like the way I would laugh when she 'messed up'.

Now if i am in a realationship with a girl, for an extended period of time, and that she is living with me, she becomes, at the very least, a great friend. It bothered her that I would make fun of her for her small mistakes or social faux pas'. Off the cuff remarks. Remarks that you would laugh at if it was on a sitcom.

But she never told me how much it bothered her, not until the end of the relationship.

So bottom line, if you are dating anyone, regardless of where you are from, get your boundaries defined from the get go.

I never cheated or lied to her.

In my book they are so much more worse than making inane jokes at you partners expense

Shortskirt_longjacket........you should at least have the guts to discuss these issues with him face to face rather than getting HIS friends to do the dirty work for you. Doesn't really say much about your character does it?
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livinginkorea



Joined: 11 Jun 2004
Location: Korea, South of the border

PostPosted: Mon Jul 11, 2005 6:47 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

This thread is getting really funny!! I heard it before that if you love somebody then you would do anything!! Maybe not!! Haha this thread is funny!!

As for cleaning the mother's house, it's normal in Korea from what I hear. You know that you are OWNED by the family!! Especially the mother-in-law! Some Korean men think that you have to care more about their family and not yours. She will try and use you so you have to be careful.

Best of luck and thanks for giving us all the details!! Hope that he doesn't find out!! Very Happy
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Ryst Helmut



Joined: 26 Apr 2003
Location: In search of the elusive signature...

PostPosted: Tue Jul 12, 2005 7:47 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

JongnoGuru wrote:
Derrek wrote:
buddy bradley wrote:
Grotto wrote:
I have given up on Korean women...I am sick and tired of their whining and ....... immaturity and immitation of starfish.

Grotto lets go shopping....
Me: Why?
I need some shoes..buy me some shoes....(whiny tone)
Me: You have 40 pairs of shoes you dont need any more shoes!
Whhhyyyyyyyiiieee u so mean to me
Me; Because you are whiny and I hate it when you whine!~
Whyyyiieee?
Me; Goodbye.


This is the biggest lie that I've ever read on this board - well done, my man, well done!



No doubt.

Try dating some Korean women, Grotto. Have you ever had a Korean girlfriend? My guess is no.

Why?

Because in Korea, buying a girl shoes is a culturally bad thing to do -- to them it means you'll intending to break up. I think the literal translation is, "he bought me shoes so I would walk away from him."

I buy shoes for my gf because I like sexy high-heels, but I make darned sure she knows I'm not intending a breakup. And I've NEVER had a Korean girl whine and ask me to buy her shoes. That's a western thing.

I have. But we were in London. Does that count?

Actually, it probably shouldn't, as it was really just a request to loan her the money since she hadn't enough with her at the time. And no, she wasn't a whiner, so forget the whole idea. I was just thinking "Korean girl, shoes, money, asking me"...


Maybe I dated pseudo-Korean chicas, as I've bought several of them shoes (at their request...no whining needed). The only time a girl didn't want shoes bought for her was for our wedding...only then did superstition/culture come into play.


!shoosh

Ryst
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Ryst Helmut



Joined: 26 Apr 2003
Location: In search of the elusive signature...

PostPosted: Tue Jul 12, 2005 8:39 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Leslie Cheswyck wrote:
Once the F word comes out like that it's over. "F-you!" may be OK between buddies but in a romantic relationship it is not a red flag, it is the checkered flag.



2nd-ed.

I would NEVER say that to one I love. There's this thing called "Respect."


!shoosh

Ryst

Danger Will Robinson, Danger Will Robinson!
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