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capebretoncanadian
Joined: 20 Feb 2005
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 Posted: Fri Sep 28, 2007 4:16 am Post subject: int'n marriage...how long does it go? |
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Having a western bf myself, I'm curious how long the international marriage goes in reality.(Yes, I'm a Korean and yes, I have some language barrier with my bf sometimes.) Most of my friends don't understand me having a WESTERN BF. (Maybe they watched bad western movies too much so that they think that he can kill me  )
Hearing all the negative points of it such as language barrier, cultural gap, inexplainable notion, etc. , even though I don't have any doubt about our relationship, I guess numbers of couples get divorce in the end.
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saw6436
Joined: 16 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Fri Sep 28, 2007 4:23 am Post subject: |
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Been married to a Korean Lady for 6 years now. Seems like 6 days. What will the future hold? Who knows? Never has been a bed of roses but I am enjoying the ride. We both agree that the differences seem to enhance the relationship even as the differences do cause problems from time to time.
If you are patient and open-minded then why not take the jump. |
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bellum99
Joined: 23 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Fri Sep 28, 2007 4:24 am Post subject: |
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| I think the divorce rate is high for all marriages. Depends on the people... |
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shaunew
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Location: Calgary
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| Posted: Fri Sep 28, 2007 4:26 am Post subject: |
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| I've been with my wife for over 3 years 2 married and have a 1 month old son. You can look at the whole I'm Korean he is westerner thing. If you are meant to be then that's it. Plus remember if you do brake up with him, you will end up marrying a Korean and having a terrible life of getting beat on and cheated on. So forget what your friends say and be happy. Sometimes things my go rough, but just love each other more during that time. |
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Harpeau
Joined: 01 Feb 2003
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| Posted: Fri Sep 28, 2007 4:30 am Post subject: |
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| I've been married to a Korean woman for 8 years. We're doing pretty well. The beginning was difficult as we had to get to know each other and learn about our cultural differences. I believe it's worth it. All the best to you! |
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karma police
Joined: 01 Sep 2007
Location: all roads lead to where you are...
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| Posted: Fri Sep 28, 2007 4:34 am Post subject: |
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i've been married to a Korean girl forever... it was as if we had been searching for each other forever when we finally found each other... she is my better half and we are perfect partners in crime... ssshhhhh 
the day i said, 'i do,' was the day i died and went to heaven...  |
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PeteJB
Joined: 06 Jul 2007
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| Posted: Fri Sep 28, 2007 5:07 am Post subject: |
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Hey, that language barrier will break down over time. It's more fun being able to slowly get to communicate over time  |
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capebretoncanadian
Joined: 20 Feb 2005
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| Posted: Fri Sep 28, 2007 5:16 am Post subject: |
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| PeteJB wrote: |
| Hey, that language barrier will break down over time. It's more fun being able to slowly get to communicate over time |
My bf is in Canada now. Today we happily argued about fan death on the phone for a half hour. And we called each other stupid.
I heard that many of the int'n couples divorce when they get very old like 60s. Why is that? I think elder people start to feel lonely and tired to overcome the differences and find another younger and mysterious girl. The only difference b/w Korean guys and Western guys is whether they keep the fade marriage life cheating on their wives or divorce legally.(Of course there are exceptions.)
If it's true, Korean women should also cultivate their economical power not staying home doing houseworks and taking care of babies, shouldn't they?
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john110375
Joined: 30 Jul 2007
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| Posted: Fri Sep 28, 2007 5:17 am Post subject: |
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I've been married to my Korean wife for 7 years today. We sometimes have some issues but for the most part We are a perfect match.  |
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caniff
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| Posted: Fri Sep 28, 2007 5:23 am Post subject: |
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| capebretoncanadian wrote: |
| PeteJB wrote: |
| Hey, that language barrier will break down over time. It's more fun being able to slowly get to communicate over time |
My bf is in Canada now. Today we happily argued about fan death on the phone for a half hour. And we called each other stupid. |
I think that is one of those issues better left untouched. No winners. |
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Hanson
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| Posted: Fri Sep 28, 2007 5:41 am Post subject: |
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| capebretoncanadian wrote: |
Today we happily argued about fan death on the phone for a half hour. And we called each other stupid.
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Which side of the argument were you on? |
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sistersarah
Joined: 03 Jan 2004
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| Posted: Fri Sep 28, 2007 6:16 am Post subject: |
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| Plus remember if you do brake up with him, you will end up marrying a Korean and having a terrible life of getting beat on and cheated on. |
shaunew, what an idiotic thing to say. you must be a real winner.
like someone else said, it doesn't matter where you're from, it's whether you're compatible. i think people in international marriages have a different set of problems to deal with, but if you're committed to making it work, then you have a good chance. |
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capebretoncanadian
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| Posted: Fri Sep 28, 2007 6:20 am Post subject: |
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| Hanson wrote: |
| capebretoncanadian wrote: |
Today we happily argued about fan death on the phone for a half hour. And we called each other stupid.
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Which side of the argument were you on? |
I definitely know how you think about that. And you will be another person who calls me stupid.
I didn't do an autopsy on the bodies, but the fact is that people were dead turning on their fans. If there's some trustworthy statistics of which the death in the same condition has happened CAN you say that it's just a mere accident? There are some ridiculous assumption like hypothermia, hypoxia... But I think there's several factors that effected on the body and the FAN was one of those. Nobody knows the cause and even some doctors confuse themselves.
My MOMMY used to say TURN OFF THE FAN BEFORE YOU SLEEP if you don't want to die. |
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taobenli
Joined: 26 Apr 2004
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| Posted: Fri Sep 28, 2007 6:33 am Post subject: |
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LuVada, PLEASE stop it with those caps. Very annoying to read. I think you'll find that most people on this board don't agree with the kind of view shaneuw put out: that Korean men beat women. Some do, some don't. It's a ridiculous argument. I would recommend just ignoring this kind of ridiculous argument.
Haha...in regards to fan death: it's not ONLY Koreans who believe in this, by the way. I mentioned it to a Japanese friend and she paused before saying, "A friend of a friend DID die when the fan was left on." I can't accept that it causes death, but would possibly accept that it could be a factor in the death of an otherwise unhealthy person (especially if that person believed with all their heart that the fan will cause their death). As I told my friend, "If YOU believe that a fan is bad for you, then don't use it. Only you know your body." The only time I stick to my guns is when I'm sleeping in the same room with Koreans (when traveling with friends or something): then I argue that I'LL die if the fan (or air con) ISN'T on! |
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shaunew
Joined: 17 Apr 2007
Location: Calgary
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