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princess
Joined: 16 Jan 2003
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 Posted: Fri Oct 05, 2007 10:17 pm Post subject: THE RULES |
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| Who beleieves this book to be 100% true? It says if a man likes a woman he WILL ask her out. But, I have heard of cases of where a guy likes a girl for a long time and is too shy to actually do anything about it. True? |
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mj roach
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| Posted: Fri Oct 05, 2007 10:25 pm Post subject: |
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| Princess - Do you have the complete 'Hello Kitty' set? |
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the_beaver
Joined: 15 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Fri Oct 05, 2007 10:33 pm Post subject: Re: THE RULES |
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| princess wrote: |
| Who beleieves this book to be 100% true? It says if a man likes a woman he WILL ask her out. But, I have heard of cases of where a guy likes a girl for a long time and is too shy to actually do anything about it. True? |
Who the *beep* would believe that?
Get a new book. |
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Otherside
Joined: 06 Sep 2007
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| Posted: Sat Oct 06, 2007 1:24 am Post subject: |
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Not true.
I know from experience |
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Alyallen
Joined: 29 Mar 2004
Location: The 4th Greatest Place on Earth = Jeonju!!!
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| Posted: Sat Oct 06, 2007 2:07 am Post subject: |
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| mj roach wrote: |
| Princess - Do you have the complete 'Hello Kitty' set? |
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mindmetoo
Joined: 02 Feb 2004
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| Posted: Sat Oct 06, 2007 3:05 am Post subject: |
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1) One should first subscribe to the "He's just not into you" self help book. Some men are really into you. Some aren't. A man really into you will make it obvious. Don't waste your time on a guy who might just be sniffing around hoping you'll make a convenient dumping place for his baby batter. You know that scene, Princess.
2) Recognize men and women are different. Women might be quite aloof about finding a new mate. "Ah, if it happens, it happens." Men, however, will actively hunt for a woman if they don't have a check next to the "Got a GF?" question on their to do list. When a woman gets a man she then tends to make the relationship the focus of her life, shifting from aloof to active. A man will pay attention long enough until he's sure it's secure and then devote time and energy to projects he ignored when he was hunting. A woman will interpret the fall off of attention as a problem. She can get it back by playing games and making the man think the relationship isn't as secure. It's akin to fruit trees. If a fruit tree feels it has all the time in the world, it doesn't bear fruit. So you have to prune the sucker.
Men also hedge their bets. If they get a woman too easily, they think "hrm, that was easy. If I can get her with so little effort, what can iI get with more effort?" Hence, it's no surprise playing hard to get works. |
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indytrucks
Joined: 09 Apr 2003
Location: The Shelf
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| Posted: Sat Oct 06, 2007 3:16 am Post subject: |
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| I've been wondering this for ages now ... is princess really a woman? |
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peppermint
Joined: 13 May 2003
Location: traversing the minefields of caddishness.
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| Posted: Sat Oct 06, 2007 3:43 am Post subject: |
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| princess wrote: |
Who beleieves this book to be 100% true?
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I'm guessing at least one of the authors doesn't anymore
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| The follow up book The Rules for Marriage: Time-Tested Secrets for Making Your Marriage Work was, ironically, published around the time Ellen Fein's marriage broke up |
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Rules |
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JongnoGuru
Joined: 25 May 2004
Location: peeing on your doorstep
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| Posted: Sat Oct 06, 2007 4:20 am Post subject: |
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| indytrucks wrote: |
| I've been wondering this for ages now ... is princess really a woman? |
The camera never lies.
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Big_Bird
Joined: 31 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Sat Oct 06, 2007 7:45 am Post subject: |
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Oh Jongno, that was good! |
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Xerxes
Joined: 10 Jan 2006
Location: Down a certain (rabbit) hole, apparently
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| Posted: Sat Oct 06, 2007 8:02 am Post subject: |
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| mindmetoo wrote: |
1) One should first subscribe to the "He's just not into you" self help book. Some men are really into you. Some aren't. A man really into you will make it obvious. Don't waste your time on a guy who might just be sniffing around hoping you'll make a convenient dumping place for his baby batter. You know that scene, Princess.
2) Recognize men and women are different. Women might be quite aloof about finding a new mate. "Ah, if it happens, it happens." Men, however, will actively hunt for a woman if they don't have a check next to the "Got a GF?" question on their to do list. When a woman gets a man she then tends to make the relationship the focus of her life, shifting from aloof to active. A man will pay attention long enough until he's sure it's secure and then devote time and energy to projects he ignored when he was hunting. A woman will interpret the fall off of attention as a problem. She can get it back by playing games and making the man think the relationship isn't as secure. It's akin to fruit trees. If a fruit tree feels it has all the time in the world, it doesn't bear fruit. So you have to prune the sucker.
Men also hedge their bets. If they get a woman too easily, they think "hrm, that was easy. If I can get her with so little effort, what can iI get with more effort?" Hence, it's no surprise playing hard to get works. |
That, my man, is surprisingly astute! Did you make that up or did you get it from some book (hence your numbering scheme)? |
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jajdude
Joined: 18 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Sat Oct 06, 2007 1:36 pm Post subject: Re: THE RULES |
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| princess wrote: |
| Who beleieves this book to be 100% true? It says if a man likes a woman he WILL ask her out. But, I have heard of cases of where a guy likes a girl for a long time and is too shy to actually do anything about it. True? |
100% true? A book full of opinions?
But, yes, many guys are shy. Stories do exist you know, where even years pass before guy gets girl. |
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cdninkorea
Joined: 27 Jan 2006
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Sat Oct 06, 2007 4:31 pm Post subject: |
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| mindmetoo wrote: |
1) One should first subscribe to the "He's just not into you" self help book. Some men are really into you. Some aren't. A man really into you will make it obvious. Don't waste your time on a guy who might just be sniffing around hoping you'll make a convenient dumping place for his baby batter. You know that scene, Princess.
2) Recognize men and women are different. Women might be quite aloof about finding a new mate. "Ah, if it happens, it happens." Men, however, will actively hunt for a woman if they don't have a check next to the "Got a GF?" question on their to do list. When a woman gets a man she then tends to make the relationship the focus of her life, shifting from aloof to active. A man will pay attention long enough until he's sure it's secure and then devote time and energy to projects he ignored when he was hunting. A woman will interpret the fall off of attention as a problem. She can get it back by playing games and making the man think the relationship isn't as secure. It's akin to fruit trees. If a fruit tree feels it has all the time in the world, it doesn't bear fruit. So you have to prune the sucker.
Men also hedge their bets. If they get a woman too easily, they think "hrm, that was easy. If I can get her with so little effort, what can iI get with more effort?" Hence, it's no surprise playing hard to get works. |
Regarding all the explanations for male dating habits: it's almost as if he's reading my mind!
However, that "He's Just Not Into You" book is a lot of b.s. I make it known I'm interested when I am, but I play hard to get too. But that book says, among many other ridiculous things, that if a guy isn't calling you all the time, He's Just Not Into You. Maybe I am but have some self-control? |
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Atavistic
Joined: 22 May 2006
Location: How totally stupid that Korean doesn't show in this area.
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| Posted: Sun Oct 07, 2007 1:42 am Post subject: |
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Regarding all the explanations for male dating habits: it's almost as if he's reading my mind!
However, that "He's Just Not Into You" book is a lot of b.s. I make it known I'm interested when I am, but I play hard to get too. But that book says, among many other ridiculous things, that if a guy isn't calling you all the time, He's Just Not Into You. Maybe I am but have some self-control? |
I've never read the book, only heard of it, but I thought the "he's calling you" rule was more like "if he hasn't called you for a week, quit making excuses, even if he's sick, even if his mother is visiting, even if alien abducted him, if he were really into you, he'd call."
You know, to get women off of the excuse making habit. |
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Atavistic
Joined: 22 May 2006
Location: How totally stupid that Korean doesn't show in this area.
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| Posted: Sun Oct 07, 2007 1:50 am Post subject: Re: THE RULES |
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| princess wrote: |
| Who beleieves this book to be 100% true? It says if a man likes a woman he WILL ask her out. But, I have heard of cases of where a guy likes a girl for a long time and is too shy to actually do anything about it. True? |
Princess, I have to say that my current relationship is by far the best one I've ever had. And you know what? It's easy. It's always been easy between us. He liked me, I liked him, we both knew it. I called when I wanted to, he called me when he wanted to, we met when we wanted to. And of course, it's that was still.
Simple. Nice. Easy.
Incredibly Insecure Girl (who has, in the past, appeared in EVERY RELATIONSHIP) made one single appearance, was promptly squashed, and hasn't reappeared.
We have a good time, we adore each other.
Some people think simple, nice, easy is boring. Maybe it is. But while my friends are having tortured relationships, I'm flying high.
Go for the easy, go for the nice. |
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