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lch8
Joined: 26 Mar 2007
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 Posted: Thu Oct 18, 2007 7:12 am Post subject: Cultural differences are one thing but this SH*TS insane |
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I posted a last week about my boss hitting his wife at my school. He didn't hit her, he beat her. This week she returned. There was a lot of tension the whole week. Today it boiled over again. They started to argue and he hit her again.
WHAT CAN I DO? I don't know if I can stay there until the end of my extension period. Please tell me something. |
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bassexpander
Joined: 13 Sep 2007
Location: Someplace you'd rather be.
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| Posted: Thu Oct 18, 2007 7:15 am Post subject: |
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| Give him your notice. Tell him you're sorry, but you just can't continue to work in an atmosphere were a man hits his wife. |
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Masta_Don
Joined: 17 Aug 2006
Location: Hyehwa-dong, Seoul
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| Posted: Thu Oct 18, 2007 7:17 am Post subject: |
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| Then he loses all his end-of-the-contract benefits probably, and any penalities built into the contract. He would be putting himself out due to his boss' bad behavior. |
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ChopChaeJoe
Joined: 05 Mar 2006
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Thu Oct 18, 2007 7:31 am Post subject: |
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| Jesus, get the hell out of there. to continue means you condone. |
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Young FRANKenstein
Joined: 02 Oct 2006
Location: Castle Frankenstein (that's FRONKensteen)
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| Posted: Thu Oct 18, 2007 7:38 am Post subject: |
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Two words: Video phone.
One more word: Youtube. |
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Harpeau
Joined: 01 Feb 2003
Location: Coquitlam, BC
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| Posted: Thu Oct 18, 2007 8:10 am Post subject: |
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| Take a video, get out and contact the police. |
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own_king
Joined: 17 Apr 2004
Location: here
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| Posted: Thu Oct 18, 2007 8:16 am Post subject: |
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| That's terrible, but don't be stupid - if you quit now you'd probably lose severence, air fare, last month's pay, etc. Do you really think anything you say or do will make a difference anyway? Again, I'm not unsympathetic, but I think you had better just shut up, do your time, and maybe do something about it after you get your last pay cheque deposited in your account. |
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garykasparov
Joined: 27 May 2007
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The Hammer
Joined: 18 Jan 2003
Location: Ullungdo 37.5 N, 130.9 E, altitude : 223 m
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| Posted: Thu Oct 18, 2007 9:04 am Post subject: |
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| Next time they fight ask 'em if it's a private fight, or if anybody can join in. |
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spliff
Joined: 19 Jan 2004
Location: Khon Kaen, Thailand
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| Posted: Thu Oct 18, 2007 1:52 pm Post subject: |
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| Yeah...make it a Tag Team fight and get in a good body slam on your boss. |
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MarionG
Joined: 14 Sep 2006
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| Posted: Thu Oct 18, 2007 2:17 pm Post subject: |
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I agree with ChopChaeJoe. I strongly believe that if you remain silent about something which strongly offends your principals, you hurt only yourself. Several posters said, in essence, "no, put your financial well being ahead of your strongly held principals," and I just don't buy that.
Maya Angelou said that the most important of all character straits (I'm paraphrasing here, can't remember the exact quote) is courage, because without courage you can't practice any other virtue with consistency.
Do what you need to do to be hang on to your own values. |
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bellum99
Joined: 23 Jan 2003
Location: don't need to know
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| Posted: Thu Oct 18, 2007 2:22 pm Post subject: |
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| The truth is that there is nothing you can do. The police won't interfere and they probably won't even listen. The boss' wife needs to do something for herself and if she doesn't then there is nothing you can do to help. If you hit the boss and then expect her to support you ...think again. NEVER NEVER NEVER help a Korean woman in this situation...almost every time they will lie and help the guy who was beating them. You will get in trouble by trying to help. Mind your own business...because trust me...they won't thank you for helping. |
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MarionG
Joined: 14 Sep 2006
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| Posted: Thu Oct 18, 2007 2:26 pm Post subject: |
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| Ich8 - I've pm-d you. |
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MarionG
Joined: 14 Sep 2006
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| Posted: Thu Oct 18, 2007 2:37 pm Post subject: |
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| Actually, I have to say I've TRIED to pm you. The message just keeps going to my draft box... |
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nomad-ish
Joined: 08 Oct 2007
Location: On the bottom of the food chain
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| Posted: Thu Oct 18, 2007 3:04 pm Post subject: |
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| The truth is that there is nothing you can do. The police won't interfere and they probably won't even listen. The boss' wife needs to do something for herself and if she doesn't then there is nothing you can do to help. If you hit the boss and then expect her to support you ...think again. NEVER NEVER NEVER help a Korean woman in this situation...almost every time they will lie and help the guy who was beating them. You will get in trouble by trying to help. Mind your own business...because trust me...they won't thank you for helping. |
that's completely true. when confronted with anyone (especially a foreigner) trying to help them and their husband hitting them, they'll side with their husband. u might be able to deter them from fighting for a while...but only because u'll be the target.
also, for many korean women it's a lose-lose situation. they stay with their abusive husbands or they divorce (which is not usually acceptable for women here).
i would finish my contract and then try to notify the police, if it bothers u that much (and it should!), contact the police after u are out of that situation, not when you're in the midst of it. |
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