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[PGF]

I'm about to get married. I do not usually frequent the western bar in my small area unless my close friends are assembled and one of them wants me there. My wife is pregnant and I work my ass off to save money these days. Even a 3000w cass burns me when I think about how much it's going to take to raise a kid.

When I do meet the old friends, it's a typical "very close friends get to gether". We all have girl friends, have assimilated very well into this culture and don't have many complaints.

When we gather, we are a bunch of guy's guys. We talk to eachother, we joke around, we make off-colored jokes. We have fun.

We are all from different countries; England, Canadia, the US, Ireland, etc. There are black guys, white guys, and mixed race guys.

Anyway. We met one night and one of the guys introduced a new guy (two days in Korea). Everyone was polite and said hello, etc. Then we (the friends) started our shit talking banter which includes making fun of eachothers' country. Said new guy is from the US, probably Ohio or somewhere. One joke came from me, a US citizen, which slagged off canadia people to a friend who is a candian.

New guy immediately came to the rescue of Canadia and acted offended.

We all thought he was from Canadia- so we explained we were joking. But, he said he was american and that it was wrong to talk bad about canadians, being american.

This is when he started the "death stare". He just sat there staring at me.....long and hard. I said, "hey Joe, why are you angry?, we are all friends here.- we are joking around.". No reaction.....


Just the death stare.

So,

"hey, Joe, are you angry? cause you look like you want to hit me in the head with a beer bottle.?"

no reaction. just the death stare.

So, "look man. we are all friends. I did not offend my canadian friend. he's not mad at me even though he lives in the attic of the US. And, look, this guy from England. He's only here because he can't get a job back home. And, joe, this black guy. my friend. this guy is just here to figure out a way to steal my bike".

"So, joe. You are about 15 years younger than me; I don't work out. Are you going to hit me in the head or what? cause you are staring at me like you want to kill me. can you please do one or the other?"

finally, joe quit staring and walked out.

Anyway. I saw Joe tonight. He's still angry. He tried to do the staring thing, but was pretty drunk and ended up talking to the 50 year old local alcoholic who knows everything and wears a Santa hat everyday.

Joe. not his real name (-;

relax. and quit staring at teachers here (PS-teachers teach kids-we are not K-1 fighters).

Stop your stare thing- This includes staring at daniel (not his real name) your co-worker; we are not your enemies. We are old guys. Try to be friendly. I know puberty is hard. But, "this too shall pass, sayeth the Lord".


Yes. Long time ago. Your foreign co-worker from Ireland who dates my Korean co-worker hit me in the back of the head as I was walking away. He broke his hand. He was drunk and thought I liked his GF, which is just not possible for many reasons. Anyway, he broke his hand on the back of my head. I didn't even know who it was who hit me, at the time. His GF later wanted me to pay for the one million won emergency room expenses. I laughed and said he should learn how to punch and to not punch in the back of the head when people are walking away.

Yes. I have a reputation with some of the foreigners in my area. It's not the best reputation with some of the kids. What can I say?

But, I have a really great reputation with most of the foreigners in my area. I help them with all the stuff that makes their life better- cell phone- immigration-labor board- privates- whatever.....

But, damn. I'm not 22. My friends aren't 22. I am comfortable. I am expecting a baby. I work hard to earn money. I work A LOT. You are new. Do not be hostile. relax.

take a yoga class.

BYC building second floor.

Hey daniel-"drinky"- if you read this, see you thursday at the language exchange.

Post edited to remove numerous swear filter dodges. Refrain from doing this in the future.

[oh_daesu]

[The Perfect Cup of Coffee]

2 options:

a) The guy needs to get laid in a big way.

b) He's gay, but doesn't know it.

Failing both of those, rat him out to immigration as a drug-dealing, private-teaching, pervert. He'll be back on that plane to Ohio in no time!

[Cheonmunka]

You caught your impressions well when you applied them to ink.
Seems like you live in a popular hakwon neighborhood where by fault many lost souls end up.
Joe will likely come to his senses. Or move on, as many do.

Happy times with your wife and baby. Be strong for them both. Forget and ignore Joe - he brings nothing good to your life.

[caniff]

The eyes are the window to the soul. You were being soul-raped.

[Mix1]

So, he could stare at you but not reply to you? Sad. And he is going to be teaching? Even more sad.
Lost souls is one thing. Lost, hostile souls are another.
Next time you see him, raise your beer, smile, nod, forget him...and get on with your life.

[Major Kong]

Keep an eye on his hands and never let him get behind you.

[NightSky]

So you're from Americia, right? idiot.

[xingyiman]

It's just that he's still packing the attitude from back home. After a while those types eventually lose it as they figure out no one really cares or they end up at that one corner of the bar with a few other dudes from out of the pages of Moby Dick who are marking the days off the calendar.

[Craven Moorehead]

Turns out the death stare guy was legally blind.

[superdave]

that dude's inability to relax is exactly the reason he's in korea. he's probably burned all his friends and family, moved from job to job because he has no idea how to relate to people socially.

i had a job in a hogwan about 4 years ago with a dude just like that ... his name was nathan. everyone thought he was a complete nutter.

so, with no other options, people like this come to korea. like the thousands of other foreigners who have zero social skills in the real world.

he'll either grow up and learn to chill, or he'll leave korea after a few unhappy years and end up teaching in thailand, then china, then taiwan, then back home because he's got no other options.

you should try and talk to the guy over a beer ... then if he doesn't calm the f.uck down, it's no longer your problem. focus on your family and don't worry about it.

congrats about the baby.

peace

dave

[waynehead]

Someone who's been here as long as you shouldn't've been surprised to run into a crazy waygookin...that's part of the charm of this place...it makes going to the local watering hole a potentially hilarious/scary endeavor....

[endofthewor1d]

[davai!]

Attic of the US. he he. I am going to use that sometime.

[whatever]

Love the part about getting hit in the back of the head and the hand breakage. That actually happened to me in the third grade. Justin Peterson, if you're reading this: YOU ARE STILL A DOUCHEBAG. Hahahaha! How's the hand?