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madowlspeaks · Joined: 07 Dec 2006 Location: Somewhere in time and space

My friend just presented me with this dilemma. She does not know what to do and is heartbroken and in tears. What would you tell her?
Picture this:

You are working at uni and live in the same housing complex. You are friends (and co-workers)
with someone of the same sex in that housing complex. You have eaten out together, gone to movies, have seen each other in PJ's et...)
On day you call this friend and ask them for a cup of milk. Your friend says yes and you ask to go to her apt. to pick it up and she says yes. You knock and go into the hallway, then start to look admiringly at the curtains which you had given her a week ago. Then you take off your shoes and go into the living room (a small apt. so literally a few steps into the apartment) and walk towards the curtains you had purchased together at Emart two weeks ago. You small talk for a few minutes, take the milk and go. She then calls you five minutes later to tell you that your snooping around was not appreciated. After hanging up, my friend was crying.

What happened? How can this be solved? My friend really needs some advice as she really cares.

indytrucks · Joined: 09 Apr 2003 Location: The Shelf

You wake up, realise that you're both not 16 years old, and talk it out like adults.

Dome Vans · Guest

Realise it's that time of the month and move on.

mysteriousdeltarays · Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2007 1:45 am Post subject:

Really PMS. Nice to grow and realize half the world is immobilized 25% of the time.

spliff · Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Location: Khon Kaen, Thailand

Maybe she had a K-guy on the balcony.... Very Happy

She should of waited at the door for the milk (better yet gone and bought some at the store) instead of barging in and tromping around teh "friends" apartment. Shocked

Atavistic · Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2007 1:53 am Post subject: Re: A snoop or not??

mikekim · Joined: 11 Aug 2006

I think if its a kgirl you have to buy her dinner

if its a non-kgirl you have to slap some sense into her

Major Kong · Joined: 29 Oct 2007 Location: South Korea

Gift curtains 1 week old in the hallway vs. 2 week old purchased curtains in the living room, now I think I'm as confused as the 2 friends are. Like most misunderstandings, a time will come when they can look back and laugh at the absurdity of it all together.

madowlspeaks · Joined: 07 Dec 2006 Location: Somewhere in time and space

madowlspeaks · Joined: 07 Dec 2006 Location: Somewhere in time and space

winterwawa · Joined: 06 May 2007

If this is your friend's biggest problem, then she has an easy life. Tell her to find a new friend and get over it.

I wish my life was so complicated.

lastat06513 · Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2007 3:55 pm Post subject:

person in question: paranoid
your friend: ultra-sensitive

sorry.... Confused

VanIslander · Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2007 4:02 pm Post subject:

you were not invited in

apologize

Some people think that just because they are friends that there are no boundaries (maybe because another friend is so lax), you overstepped yours.

Draz · Joined: 27 Jun 2007 Location: Land of Morning Clam

It IS weird to knock and then walk right in. Taking shoes off without being invited in? Who does that?

It's also weird to freak out about it.

I'm on the fence on this one.

Scotticus · Joined: 18 Mar 2007

Yeah, I'd have to agree. Both people are wrong here. The guest is in the wrong for walking in uninvited and the host is wrong for giving that much of a shit about someone stepping foot in their place (especially if they are "friends"). Only way the host should be genuinely pissed is if this person was literally snooping (moving stuff, opening drawers, etc). Merely walking into someone's apartment does not warrant snooping charges.