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seoul_nhl · Joined: 18 Mar 2006

Got a call from my Best friend back home! Pretty shocking...
He filed for divorce from his wife that he was married too for 7 years, quite his job where he made over 100 000. He gave up his dog, his house, his BMW and he even lost some friends.

He did all this to be with a girl from China!! That he met on a business trip which he only spent a day with. He has been in contact with her over the last four months though. He is now heading to China to leave and work to be with this girl.

The strange thing is this guy has been the most loyal and stable guy I've ever known. He threw it all away...He hurt his wife which is his only real regret, but....he says he is in love. I'm happy for him and all, but it was huge.

What do you think? Could you do this?

blurgalurgalurga · Joined: 18 Oct 2007

Wow...Cupid's random arrows, eh? What a massive headfu*k for the dude and his poor wife.
I was married, ish, for about six years, and in that time fell in love with somebody who loved me too but stayed with the 'wife' because I was trying to do the right thing. The other girl went back to Germany, and a few years later me and my longterm broke up, amicably.
I still kind of wonder though what would've happened had I gone with what my heart, rather than my guilt trip, told me was right.

The old saying 'amor vincit omnia,' 'love conquers all,' is often misread as a Hallmark card in which love is a magical fluffy bunny who makes the world go 'round. This is wrong: love is a destroyer, a mad drunken freakshow who makes people do incredibly stupid and vicious stuff every bit as often as it makes people do 'the right thing.' But hey! It's more fun than being limp and cold and analytical. Spock can take a flying fack at a rolling donut.
IMHO.

RACETRAITOR · Joined: 24 Oct 2005 Location: Seoul, South Korea

Sounds like he's making the mistake of his life. I bet this Chinese fling will crash and burn very very soon.

whatever · Joined: 11 Jun 2006 Location: Korea: More fun than jail.

She must give awesome...

...And have dentures. Twisted Evil

Atavistic · Posted: Tue Nov 20, 2007 2:14 pm Post subject:

How is this a "battle of the sexes?"

SuperFly · Joined: 09 Jul 2003 Location: In the doghouse

Your best friend is in for a biiiiiiig surprise!

SPINOZA · Joined: 10 Jun 2005 Location: $eoul

I have yellow fever myself, but heavens! Shocked

lucas_p · Joined: 17 Sep 2007

Heavens to betsy? As my grandma says.

Anyways, not too sound too harsh....but...that sounds really crazy and is an awful lot to give up for such a "fling".

How do you feel about that? He has hurt friends and his wife to just suddenly leave with this woman he in all honesty can know only a very little about.

Maybe marriage is outdated...

seoul_nhl · Joined: 18 Mar 2006

blondebecky · Joined: 22 Jul 2006

Ya-ta Boy · Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Location: Established in 1994

djsmnc · Joined: 20 Jan 2003 Location: Dave's ESL Cafe

I think that's awesome. As long as he didn't have kids.

All those things you mentioned do not always bring happiness. Why live in dread when there's something or someone you really desire waiting for you on the other side of the world?

People get tired of Corn Flakes after awhile.

Atavistic · Posted: Tue Nov 20, 2007 7:21 pm Post subject:

JustJohn · Joined: 18 Oct 2007 Location: Your computer screen

People get tired of Lucky Charms after a while too, but when you throw out the Corn Flakes where does that leave you? Now you need to go find some Honey Nut Cheerios. And then you see some Raisin Bran Crunch, and boy it looks good so you gotta try it. Turns out it's delicious, but you really prefer Honey Nut Cheerios long term. Unfortunately Honey Nut Cheerios didn't want you to try the Raisin Bran Crunch, and now you can't have Honey Nut Cheerios anymore. By this time you're too old to get cereal, and you're just ticked and SOL.

Man, I wish I had some Honey Nut Cheerios.

Atavistic · Posted: Tue Nov 20, 2007 7:35 pm Post subject: