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bassexpander
Joined: 13 Sep 2007
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 Posted: Tue Dec 25, 2007 7:39 pm Post subject: How much did the priest/pastor charge at your Koreanwedding? |
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For those of you who were married in Korea, how much did your priest/pastor/whomever charge to marry you?
We were charged 100,000 by our wedding hall. They had a list of people who could do the wedding, and it was just easier, so we went that route.
My waygook coworker got a quote of 300,000 from a Korean pastor here, and he was shocked/disappointed/angry.
I told him that was out-of-line, and to look elsewhere. He is planning to. |
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RACETRAITOR
Joined: 24 Oct 2005
Location: Seoul, South Korea
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| Posted: Tue Dec 25, 2007 7:52 pm Post subject: |
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| My wedding, if you could even call it that, was informal and we didn't have anyone filling that role. In Korea most weddings, even Christian ones, are not done with a priest or pastor. |
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just because
Joined: 01 Aug 2003
Location: Changwon - 4964
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| Posted: Tue Dec 25, 2007 9:07 pm Post subject: |
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We didn't have a priest/celebrant either....
We had 2 MCs(one english and korean speaking) that were friends of ours and got our fathers to do all the presenting of the vows and to make it official with a little speech...
It worked really well. |
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Ilsanman
Joined: 15 Aug 2003
Location: Bucheon, Korea
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| Posted: Tue Dec 25, 2007 9:10 pm Post subject: |
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Our guy asked us to donate money to his church. I think we donated 100 or 200,000.
Think about it, many people on this site talk about how they expect to earn 50 an hour, and others even more. Most say 35 is a minimum. Why not pay other people the same amount for their services? |
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denverdeath
Joined: 21 May 2005
Location: Boo-sahn
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| Posted: Tue Dec 25, 2007 9:16 pm Post subject: Re: How much did the priest/pastor charge at your Koreanwedd |
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| bassexpander wrote: |
We were charged 100,000 by our wedding hall. They had a list of people who could do the wedding, and it was just easier, so we went that route.
My waygook coworker got a quote of 300,000 from a Korean pastor here, and he was shocked/disappointed/angry.
I told him that was out-of-line, and to look elsewhere. He is planning to. |
I honestly can't remember what we gave...somewhere between 200,000 and 350,000 maybe. I can tell you that it cost a helluva lot less in total than it would've cost if we had've done the whole thing at a wedding hall though. They also went out of their way to do the holiday decorations a week earlier than usual, so our wedding had it's own little Christmas theme with some nicely decorated trees...I was impressed more by those than I usu am with the bubbles, gas, dancers, and rockets at the wedding halls.  |
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SuperHero
Joined: 10 Dec 2003
Location: Superhero Hideout
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| Posted: Tue Dec 25, 2007 9:57 pm Post subject: |
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| Got married at the church we attend. We were not asked to give anything but my wife told me that it is customary to give between 200,000 and 400,000 for the wedding so we gave 300,000 - this was 7 years ago. |
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venus
Joined: 25 Oct 2006
Location: Near Seoul
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| Posted: Tue Dec 25, 2007 10:00 pm Post subject: |
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| Ilsanman wrote: |
| guy asked us to donate 100 or 200,000... many expect to earn 50 an hour, and others even more. Most say 35 is a minimum. Why not pay... for their services? |
That's what SHE said! |
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CentralCali
Joined: 17 May 2007
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| Posted: Tue Dec 25, 2007 10:06 pm Post subject: |
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| The only thing that makes a marriage in Korea official is the registration of same at the local district office. The wedding hall "officiants" and religious leaders here do not have the authority to marry people legally. If all you're concerned about is legal status, skip the performances and just take care of the paperwork, which is a far cry cheaper than a few hundred bucks. |
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aaabank
Joined: 27 Feb 2007
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| Posted: Tue Dec 25, 2007 10:36 pm Post subject: |
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| Ilsanman wrote: |
Our guy asked us to donate money to his church. I think we donated 100 or 200,000.
Think about it, many people on this site talk about how they expect to earn 50 an hour, and others even more. Most say 35 is a minimum. Why not pay other people the same amount for their services? |
I'm not saying that people should not donate to worthy causes, but to say "why no pay other people the same amount for their services" just sounds a little too communistic too me. If English instructors want to demand more money for their services, it is their right. It is also the hagwon/schools' rights to decide for themselves how much to offer. Most of us teachers here in Korea spent 4-5 years working very hard to graduate from universities. I believe that most of us deserve the pay we are receiving. I don't know what it takes to become a minister/wedding vows overseer, but it just doesn't seem to be as time-intensive in my view. |
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SuperHero
Joined: 10 Dec 2003
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| Posted: Tue Dec 25, 2007 10:57 pm Post subject: |
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| aaabank wrote: |
| I don't know what it takes to become a minister/wedding vows overseer, but it just doesn't seem to be as time-intensive in my view. |
To be a pastor/preist requires at a minimum graduate school |
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CentralCali
Joined: 17 May 2007
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| Posted: Wed Dec 26, 2007 12:24 am Post subject: |
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| SuperHero wrote: |
| aaabank wrote: |
| I don't know what it takes to become a minister/wedding vows overseer, but it just doesn't seem to be as time-intensive in my view. |
To be a pastor/preist requires at a minimum graduate school |
That all depends on the denomination. Some denominations have no requirement for a graduate degree, some will ordain individuals who have earned a licentiate's degree, and others have no requirement at all for a degree.
And in Korea a wedding hall wedding isn't a wedding; it's a show to satisfy the rumor-mill ("Did you hear? Ho-Jon and Su-Hui dishonored all their coworkers and their bosses. Nobody got to go to the wedding hall and eat the tacky food there. How dare they?").
Now, some religions do require that both the bride and groom be members of the same faith or the church's officiant won't perfrom the service. And sometimes the service is part of the wedding hall show. But not always. Sometimes the bride and groom file the paperwork, have a small service at their church, and then have the big show.
As to the list of approved performers at some wedding hall, that's just some ridiculous money-making policy the wedding hall came up with. Actually, I'm impressed by it; wish I'd thought of it first. Since the wedding hall show has exactly zero legal force, anyone on the street should and could be allowed to read the script. This particular policy is like turning dirt into gold. After you get the locals trapped into the idea that they must have a wedding hall show and that yours is the best place (or even only place, depending on the size of the town) to have it, then you spring "Oh, but you must have one of our guys officiate or you can't have the 'wedding' at our hall." |
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bluelake
Joined: 01 Dec 2005
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| It was twenty-three years ago, so I don't remember well, but I'm pretty sure the church and pastor were gratis and we just paid a gratuity. |
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Horangi Munshin
Joined: 06 Apr 2003
Location: Busan
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| Posted: Wed Dec 26, 2007 2:31 am Post subject: |
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Our Korean traditional wedding I don't know. Everything was handled by the wedding shop.
Our church wedding was very simple, the priest asked for 50,000. It only took about 20 minutes maybe. |
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CentralCali
Joined: 17 May 2007
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| Posted: Wed Dec 26, 2007 3:56 am Post subject: |
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| Horangi Munshin wrote: |
| Our Korean traditional wedding I don't know. Everything was handled by the wedding shop. |
Competent place, that.
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| Our church wedding was very simple, the priest asked for 50,000. It only took about 20 minutes maybe. |
 Priests in my church are prohibited from requesting or even accepting money for services. |
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Mr. Pink
Joined: 21 Oct 2003
Location: China
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I got married at my wife's church. The pastor didn't have a set fee. We gave him a gratuity for his efforts. I have no idea how much we gave as my wife handled all that stuff.
Also about the comment on graduate degree, that is not true. But a lot of faiths require at least an undergrad degree in theology or pastoral studies. |
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