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Undercover
Joined: 14 Nov 2007
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 Posted: Thu Jan 03, 2008 3:01 pm Post subject: Poll: Is it rude to..? |
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Hello,
Last night I had a friend over. I have known her for some time now. When she comes over I do not consider her a guest, as with most of my friends, and she is welcome to serve herself and she does. I do not keep a lot of food in my house and nothing really healthy. She only eats healthy foods. And so while she was over I fixed myself a snack. I did not offer her any since it was not something she would eat, and I did not offer her an alternative, since I had none.
Anyway, she proceeded to tell me how rude I am. That it is rude to eat in front of a friend while they are visiting. I myself see nothing wrong with it, albeit I would usually offer some to my friend as well. What do you think?
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As an aside, in the last six months she has become increasingly critical of my lifestyle, my eating habits, my lack of exercise, and routinely chastises me in front of other people for my rudeness, behavior she would never comment on of other people.
My aunt always says of other people, "It is best to have no expectations, then you are never disappointed." |
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VanIslander
Joined: 18 Aug 2003
Location: Geoje, Hadong, Tongyeong,... now in a small coastal island town outside Gyeongsangnamdo!
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| Posted: Thu Jan 03, 2008 3:07 pm Post subject: Re: Poll: Is it rude to..? |
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You need to add a poll option you forgot!!! Is it rude to eat in front of visiting friends? No, but it is in this case.
| Undercover wrote: |
| I did not offer her any |
That is rude.
"Do you want some? This is all I've got" takes three seconds to say and shows basic consideration.
Apologize. Better: give a gift with note. |
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NightSky
Joined: 19 Apr 2005
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| Posted: Thu Jan 03, 2008 5:12 pm Post subject: |
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| Not rude at all. |
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Atavistic
Joined: 22 May 2006
Location: How totally stupid that Korean doesn't show in this area.
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| Posted: Thu Jan 03, 2008 5:17 pm Post subject: Re: Poll: Is it rude to..? |
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| Undercover wrote: |
As an aside, in the last six months she has become increasingly critical of my lifestyle, my eating habits, my lack of exercise, and routinely chastises me in front of other people for my rudeness, behavior she would never comment on of other people.
My aunt always says of other people, "It is best to have no expectations, then you are never disappointed." |
You should ALWAYS offer, even if you know they won't take it. But that aside, a) why has she become a critical bitch and b) why are you still friends with her? |
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browneyedgirl
Joined: 17 Jul 2007
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| Posted: Thu Jan 03, 2008 5:29 pm Post subject: Re: Poll: Is it rude to..? |
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| Undercover wrote: |
Anyway, she proceeded to tell me how rude I am. That it is rude to eat in front of a friend while they are visiting. I myself see nothing wrong with it, albeit I would usually offer some to my friend as well. What do you think? |
It isn't rude. Maybe in some weird, twisted way she wanted you to offer her unhealthy food so she could then tell you how bad it was. |
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RACETRAITOR
Joined: 24 Oct 2005
Location: Seoul, South Korea
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| Posted: Thu Jan 03, 2008 5:34 pm Post subject: |
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| 100% rude. |
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Rae
Joined: 10 Oct 2007
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| Posted: Fri Jan 04, 2008 3:19 am Post subject: |
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| It's common courtesy. You should have offered even if you know she doesn't want any. |
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ajgeddes
Joined: 28 Apr 2004
Location: Yongsan
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| Posted: Fri Jan 04, 2008 4:22 am Post subject: |
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| Very rude. |
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paquebot
Joined: 20 Jun 2007
Location: Northern Gyeonggi-do
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| Posted: Fri Jan 04, 2008 4:28 am Post subject: |
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| Agree with the others who stated that it's rude not to offer, even if you know she'll refuse. This is especially true if you invited your friend over and knew she was coming at a particular time; you could have prepared a snack before she showed up. |
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tzechuk
Joined: 20 Dec 2004
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| Posted: Fri Jan 04, 2008 4:46 am Post subject: Re: Poll: Is it rude to..? |
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| VanIslander wrote: |
You need to add a poll option you forgot!!! Is it rude to eat in front of visiting friends? No, but it is in this case.
| Undercover wrote: |
| I did not offer her any |
That is rude.
"Do you want some? This is all I've got" takes three seconds to say and shows basic consideration.
Apologize. Better: give a gift with note. |
ITA. |
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RACETRAITOR
Joined: 24 Oct 2005
Location: Seoul, South Korea
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| Posted: Fri Jan 04, 2008 4:48 am Post subject: |
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| Also, I think it would be polite if, after your offer is turned down by her, you also refrain from eating in front of her in your own home. |
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Justin Hale
Joined: 24 Nov 2007
Location: the Straight Talk Express
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| Posted: Fri Jan 04, 2008 5:09 am Post subject: Re: Poll: Is it rude to..? |
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| Undercover wrote: |
Hello,
Last night I had a friend over. I have known her for some time now. When she comes over I do not consider her a guest, as with most of my friends, and she is welcome to serve herself and she does.
I do not keep a lot of food in my house and nothing really healthy. She only eats healthy foods. And so while she was over I fixed myself a snack. I did not offer her any since it was not something she would eat, and I did not offer her an alternative, since I had none.
Anyway, she proceeded to tell me how rude I am. That it is rude to eat in front of a friend while they are visiting. I myself see nothing wrong with it, albeit I would usually offer some to my friend as well. What do you think?
__________________________________________________________
As an aside, in the last six months she has become increasingly critical of my lifestyle, my eating habits, my lack of exercise, and routinely chastises me in front of other people for my rudeness, behavior she would never comment on of other people.
My aunt always says of other people, "It is best to have no expectations, then you are never disappointed." |
Dump your friend, if at all possible. With friends like her..... |
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nobbyken
Joined: 07 Jun 2006
Location: Yongin ^^
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| Posted: Fri Jan 04, 2008 7:16 am Post subject: |
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| Should have offered the snack you had prepared. She would more than likely have asked for a knife to halve it, or said no thank you and said to eat it yourself. |
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nobbyken
Joined: 07 Jun 2006
Location: Yongin ^^
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| Posted: Fri Jan 04, 2008 7:19 am Post subject: Re: Poll: Is it rude to..? |
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| Undercover wrote: |
As an aside, in the last six months she has become increasingly critical of my lifestyle, my eating habits, my lack of exercise, and routinely chastises me in front of other people for my rudeness, behavior she would never comment on of other people.
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Sounds like practice, maybe a marriage proposal is coming your way  |
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princess
Joined: 16 Jan 2003
Location: soul of Asia
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| Posted: Fri Jan 04, 2008 10:22 am Post subject: |
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I guess it is rude. I used to live with a Korean granny in a homestay and when I cooked food and ate it without offering her any, she told my boss on me and told him I was a pig. My boss told me I must offer granny food when I cooked.... 
Lesson learned: Don't do homestays  |
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