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[WasteCase]

Alright so I got this buddy who's curious, wondering if you guys had any insite on this topic.

no scenario what's up?

[Missihippi]

1 - She's accusing you
"Often, when a woman accuses her mate of having romantic feelings or involvement with others, she's projecting her own feelings onto him," says Susan Heitler, Ph.D. If your girlfriend lacks trust in you, she may not trust herself.
2 - She wants more
If she's telling you she needs something else from the relationship, whether the request is for more intimacy or a stronger emotional connection, listen. "A woman really lets you know what she's thinking about," says Al Cooper, Ph.D., director of the San Jose Marital and Sexuality Centre. "If she tells you she's feeling unappreciated or unimportant, or wants more intimacy, it can be the last-ditch effort before she embarks on an affair."
3 - She's online
If you're hearing "You've got mail" more than "I love you," she may be spending time searching the Web for someone to talk to. "Even if she doesn't want to cheat, the Internet is particularly seductive for women," says Cooper. "It makes men have to talk, and women want a communicator."
4 - She's looking hotter than ever
If she's started something on the side, sudden changes in behavior or appearance (for the better) are common.
5 - She's sappier than ever
"If she's watching romantic movies and reading romantic books, the feeling she's getting from them is feeding something inside of her," says Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., a relationship expert who's online at perfectmatch.com. If your mate's not expressing these emotions in your direction, she might be looking for a new leading man.
6 - She's more attentive to you
A study published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin found that when a man's girlfriend is cheating, she'll start to make obvious attempts to increase his satisfaction in the relationship, as well as say derogatory things about her paramour. It's a misdirection ploy to lessen your suspicions

[grnmle]

that and the flaky remnants of mis-aimed cumshot stuck in her hair

[djsmnc]

STD's that you don't have

[bassexpander]

Based on the above, it could be anyone... cheating or not.

[peppermint]

There's no hard and fast way to know, unless you catch her in the act. On the flip side though, if something has changed between you, and you don't trust her, is the relationship worth staying in, even if she's faithful?

[fortysixyou]

Check her cell phone while she's in the bathroom!

Check text messages, late-night calls, etc.

This is the best way.

[mindmetoo]

Her "you directed" behavior trails off. She's busy a lot saturday night.

[Bibbitybop]

Ask her.

If she denies it, hold a broken soju bottle to her throat in a fit of rage and ask her again.

[WasteCase]

hahahahaha Harilous!!!! And if she denies it with a borken soju bottle against her throat??

Ya I would say the saturday night is a big one. If she keeps throwing you Sunday that's a bad sign. Saturday is prime time.

[WasteCase]

and thanks for the detailed reponse Missihippi

[mateomiguel]

I say to tell your buddy to ask, and no matter what he answer is go irrationally ballistic and act completely jealous. If she's cheating, the truth'll probably come out. If she's not, and she's Korean, she'll view it as the ultimate expression of love and will probably cry with joy.

I've found that if I don't second-guess myself in life and just express my first true emotions with women, they respond very well. Even if the emotions are anger or jealousy. Your buddy is already feeling suspicious and jealous, or he wouldn't be asking about that. He should just let it all come out and see what happens next.

[cbclark4]

If you suspect your girl is cheating on you, then there is only one conclusion to draw.

You have lost faith in your girlfriend.

It's not her it's you.

The trust is gone, it's time to move on.

End the relationship, explain that you have lost faith in the relationship and it's over.

Why look for evidence or conflict, you no longer trust your girlfriend.

Say good bye find someone you trust.

[Saxiif]

[cbclark4]

She could be cheating on someone else.