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smilehappy
Joined: 12 Mar 2008
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 Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 2:55 am Post subject: parent/volunteer stalkers |
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I am having a small problem at my public school. I've been working here for over 6months and taught 3 parents in a class last semester. I no longer teach parents class and have stopped doing extra classes recently. These 3 parents and one older retired Korean man volunteered during these extra classes. The classes were poorly taught by my coteacher and they complained to me a great deal, which is a major reason why I decided to discontinue these classes.
Today was the first day of the extra classes I was NOT supposed to be teaching, and my coteacher asked a 'favour' that I teach 30 min of one of these as he had a 'meeting'.
The problem is, that these volunteers do not leave, they hang around after complaining to me etc. My coteacher usually gets a lot of flack from them and has recently started running away to 'meetings' immediately after leaving me with them.
They hang around outside the school gates many days and follow me home, walking with me right up to my building.
Perhaps I made the mistake of having dinner with them on our last parents class? Now I feel obliged to talk to them. However, I'm becoming miserable as every day is the same thing. I have told them if they have issues with the after school program and the Korean teacher's teaching methods, I am the wrong person to talk to. But it hasn't helped.
The older volunteer also shows up an hour before classes and talks to me while I'm trying to do planning. I started retreating to the staff room.
Anyone else experience anything like this? |
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yingwenlaoshi
Joined: 12 Feb 2007
Location: ... location, location!
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| Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 3:01 am Post subject: Re: parent/volunteer stalkers |
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| smilehappy wrote: |
I am having a small problem at my public school. I've been working here for over 6months and taught 3 parents in a class last semester. I no longer teach parents class and have stopped doing extra classes recently. These 3 parents and one older retired Korean man volunteered during these extra classes. The classes were poorly taught by my coteacher and they complained to me a great deal, which is a major reason why I decided to discontinue these classes.
Today was the first day of the extra classes I was NOT supposed to be teaching, and my coteacher asked a 'favour' that I teach 30 min of one of these as he had a 'meeting'.
The problem is, that these volunteers do not leave, they hang around after complaining to me etc. My coteacher usually gets a lot of flack from them and has recently started running away to 'meetings' immediately after leaving me with them.
They hang around outside the school gates many days and follow me home, walking with me right up to my building.
Perhaps I made the mistake of having dinner with them on our last parents class? Now I feel obliged to talk to them. However, I'm becoming miserable as every day is the same thing. I have told them if they have issues with the after school program and the Korean teacher's teaching methods, I am the wrong person to talk to. But it hasn't helped.
The older volunteer also shows up an hour before classes and talks to me while I'm trying to do planning. I started retreating to the staff room.
Anyone else experience anything like this? |
Free English lessons? Me do thinks. |
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smilehappy
Joined: 12 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 3:05 am Post subject: |
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| do you think they are trying to get English practice? I never know if I'm being used or not |
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yingwenlaoshi
Joined: 12 Feb 2007
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| Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 3:06 am Post subject: |
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| smilehappy wrote: |
| do you think they are trying to get English practice? I never know if I'm being used or not |
Of course they are. |
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DrunkenMaster
Joined: 04 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 3:45 am Post subject: |
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| Talking to you is probably the most exciting part of their day. |
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yingwenlaoshi
Joined: 12 Feb 2007
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| Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 6:31 am Post subject: |
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| DrunkenMaster wrote: |
| Talking to you is probably the most exciting part of their day. |
Can you blame them? How amazed would you be if you thought you were speaking with a talking monkey? |
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PGF
Joined: 27 Nov 2006
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| Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 7:05 am Post subject: Re: parent/volunteer stalkers |
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| smilehappy wrote: |
I am having a small problem at my public school. I've been working here for over 6months and taught 3 parents in a class last semester. I no longer teach parents class and have stopped doing extra classes recently. These 3 parents and one older retired Korean man volunteered during these extra classes. The classes were poorly taught by my coteacher and they complained to me a great deal, which is a major reason why I decided to discontinue these classes.
Today was the first day of the extra classes I was NOT supposed to be teaching, and my coteacher asked a 'favour' that I teach 30 min of one of these as he had a 'meeting'.
The problem is, that these volunteers do not leave, they hang around after complaining to me etc. My coteacher usually gets a lot of flack from them and has recently started running away to 'meetings' immediately after leaving me with them.
They hang around outside the school gates many days and follow me home, walking with me right up to my building.
Perhaps I made the mistake of having dinner with them on our last parents class? Now I feel obliged to talk to them. However, I'm becoming miserable as every day is the same thing. I have told them if they have issues with the after school program and the Korean teacher's teaching methods, I am the wrong person to talk to. But it hasn't helped.
The older volunteer also shows up an hour before classes and talks to me while I'm trying to do planning. I started retreating to the staff room.
Anyone else experience anything like this? |
This is where you "man-up" and demand a dinner for further discussion (if you want it). Whenever an adult goes over time, I say, "OK, it's time to eat", or I'm sorry, I have a paying class now... I have to go....
Koreans always want service-ah....make them pay for it...... |
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yeremy
Joined: 05 Nov 2007
Location: Anywhere's there's a good bookstore.
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| Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 8:47 pm Post subject: Dealing with parents and volunteers |
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| Tell them politely to leave (you alone) because you're working. You should also tell them to leave your work space, too. The parents should only interact with their kids homeroom teachers, which means you're out of the loop of having any obligation to them. Because you went out to dinner with them after the last time of the class you taught, they probably feel some kind of 'bond' or 'closeness' with you. That's why I try not to do the dinner thing. I want to be able to be free to do what I have to do for my classes. |
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wings
Joined: 09 Nov 2006
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| Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 8:54 pm Post subject: |
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Pretend to be talking on your cellphone at all times when you leave the building.
When you see them smile and nod/bow and talk loudly into your cell, say somthing like "wow, what time is it there?" or "I miss you too mom". Maybe they will leave you alone. |
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eamo
Joined: 08 Mar 2003
Location: Shepherd's Bush, 1964.
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| Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 9:09 pm Post subject: |
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| The above poster is right. They think they have a relationship with you now and can get free English lessons. Why else would they be waiting at the school gates for you??? Are you a minor pop-star? |
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mrsquirrel
Joined: 13 Dec 2006
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| Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 9:12 pm Post subject: |
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Just do what I do.
RUN AWAY.
I got chased by a woman up the street yesterday. No idea who she was or what she wanted but the second I heard somebody shouting "Excuse me" and I hadn't dropped my wallet that it was going to be irritating. A quick glance over my shoulder confirmed that there was an older korean lady bearing down on me.
So I sprinted off. No point in messing about. Full tilt off up the road. |
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Chicoloco
Joined: 18 Oct 2006
Location: In the ring.
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| Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 9:50 pm Post subject: |
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| Are you male or female? |
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mrsquirrel
Joined: 13 Dec 2006
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| Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 9:55 pm Post subject: |
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| Are you male or female? |
I can be anything you want big boy  |
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Chicoloco
Joined: 18 Oct 2006
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| Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 10:00 pm Post subject: |
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 **Shudder**
OP - male or female? I'd be slightly concerned if you are female. If you are male, they are hitting you for free lessons. Make excuses for a couple of days and pretend you aren't going straight home. Hopefully they will start getting the hint (although there is no guarantee) Wear headphones when at your computer. |
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Eedoryeong
Joined: 10 Dec 2007
Location: Jeju
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| Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 10:24 pm Post subject: Re: parent/volunteer stalkers |
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| smilehappy wrote: |
| The older volunteer also shows up an hour before classes and talks to me while I'm trying to do planning. I started retreating to the staff room. |
Do you want some Korean for this? You could say something like,
Jigeum papayo. Yeongeo soo-eopeul jigeum mandeulgo-isseumnida.
지금 바바요. 영어 수업을 지금 만들고있습니다.
(I'm busy now. I'm preparing the English lesson).
If he talks again, hands up and,
shillye hamnida. Najoongeh.
실례합니다. 나중에.
(Excuse me. Later.)
If he still keeps talking you can close your book and say
aish! Naga!
에잇이! 나가세요!
(something like 'Damn it! Go away!') |
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