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Hyeon Een
Joined: 24 Jun 2005
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 Posted: Wed Jan 16, 2008 6:45 am Post subject: Vietnam brides - What age on average? |
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Most of the articles I've read about brides from Asia are either about Jeolla-do farmers, or about the troubles of integrating - whilst living with a Honnam farmer. I've never read anything which mentioned the average age of Vietnamese brides in Korea or normal articles about their lives here which don't mention every day Korean food. (Do you like 김치/불고기/밥/만두/정어/머머머)
My interest has been piqued because a classmate in my Korean class is a 19 yr old Vietnamese "adjumma" married to a Korean gentleman. I know nothing about them and for all I know he might also be 19 yrs old, but I suspect he's somewhat older.
Anyway her 'job' back in Vietnam was being a High-school student before she came to Korea. For a Westerner like me she seems a touch on the young side to be married and in a country who's language she can barely speak. Is she unusually young, or about average age for a Vietnamese bride in Korea?
I suspect she's somewhat special because she's obviously not married to a farmer since she's living in central Seoul not the boondocks of Korea.
Is she exceptionally young AND exceptionally lucky in not being an old farmer's wife? What percentage of Vietnamese wives are in big cities and not in the countryside?
And the point of the post: What's the age of the average non-Korean female married to a Korean male? |
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rhinocharge64
Joined: 20 Sep 2006
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| Posted: Wed Jan 16, 2008 6:56 am Post subject: |
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| it's asia fella not the west, get your head round it. Horses for courses and all of that. |
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betchay
Joined: 23 Aug 2005
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Wed Jan 16, 2008 7:29 am Post subject: |
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in my korean language class, sponsored by the korean government, majority of the women in my class are young vietnamese... the youngest in my class is 18 and the eldest is 24... the 18-yr old's husband sometimes accompanies her to our class... all of them can't speak english... so i sometimes wonder how they communicate, sign language perhaps?... they all live in seoul and their husbands don't look like they're farmers from the rural areas of South Korea...
btw, i'm a filipina married to an urban Korean male... our age gap is 3 years and we're both college educated... my husband and i knew each other for two years before getting married... we didn't meet online and absolutely not through an agency, kwim?... my filipino family isn't poor and i nor my husband supports them... on the other hand, my filipino family sometimes lend me money since i'm not working and i don't feel comfortable spending my husband's hard-earned moolah for my own vanities, although he trusts me with all the ATM cards/bank accounts...
i have other filipina friends in korea, all married to koreans... we're all in our early 30's and college educated... afaik, none of my friends got married through an agency... so i guess we're not the stereotypical southeast asian brides you read about in newspaper articles...
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Hyeon Een
Joined: 24 Jun 2005
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| Posted: Wed Jan 16, 2008 7:38 am Post subject: |
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| rhinocharge64 wrote: |
| it's asia fella not the west, get your head round it. Horses for courses and all of that. |
Dude I think you misconstrued
you complacantely read and thought I disapproved
I don't feel that way, I never did mate.
It's just I was curious about my fellow student not my bedmate.
I was just asking about a fellow student's Ko-re-an life
Leave her out of this don't give her strife
You may look to project and construe
But shit aint tis bad for everyone. just you. |
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djsmnc
Joined: 20 Jan 2003
Location: Dave's ESL Cafe
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| Posted: Wed Jan 16, 2008 7:53 am Post subject: |
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| Hyeon Een wrote: |
| rhinocharge64 wrote: |
| it's asia fella not the west, get your head round it. Horses for courses and all of that. |
Dude I think you misconstrued
you complacantely read and thought I disapproved
I don't feel that way, I never did mate.
It's just I was curious about my fellow student not my bedmate.
I was just asking about a fellow student's Ko-re-an life
Leave her out of this don't give her strife
You may look to project and construe
But *beep* aint tis bad for everyone. just you. |
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rhinocharge64
Joined: 20 Sep 2006
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| Posted: Wed Jan 16, 2008 8:03 am Post subject: |
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| fella I'm not having go, and I didin't misunderstand your point, but it's Asia mate. So, your hunch I would guess is right. Is it right or wrong, I ,m not the man to answer. I know some interesting stories regarding Phlilipino chicks and Korean men. In fact I know some interesting stories regarding Korean men and women. My point is, it's just Asia. Not having a go mate, but I would say pretty fooked up!!! |
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Hyeon Een
Joined: 24 Jun 2005
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| Posted: Wed Jan 16, 2008 8:19 am Post subject: |
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| rhinocharge64 wrote: |
| fella I'm not having go, and I didin't misunderstand your point, but it's Asia mate. So, your hunch I would guess is right. Is it right or wrong, I ,m not the man to answer. I know some interesting stories regarding Phlilipino chicks and Korean men. In fact I know some interesting stories regarding Korean men and women. My point is, it's just Asia. Not having a go mate, but I would say pretty fooked up!!! |
Well..good =) I really, really wasn't asking for opinions on the rightness/wrongness of a certain kind of marriage. I've lived in Asia a few years too. I was (am) merely curious about a specific group which exists right now. I am not trying to impose moral judgements upon them, I'm just curious about them.
My original question asked for stats. Apparantely nobody has any. Oh well =) |
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Hyeon Een
Joined: 24 Jun 2005
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| Posted: Wed Jan 16, 2008 8:29 am Post subject: |
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| betchay wrote: |
in my korean language class, sponsored by the korean government, majority of the women in my class are young vietnamese... the youngest in my class is 18 and the eldest is 24... the 18-yr old's husband sometimes accompanies her to our class... all of them can't speak english... so i sometimes wonder how they communicate, sign language perhaps?... they all live in seoul and their husbands don't look like they're farmers from the rural areas of South Korea...
btw, i'm a filipina married to an urban Korean male... our age gap is 3 years and we're both college educated... my husband and i knew each other for two years before getting married... we didn't meet online and absolutely not through an agency, kwim?... my filipino family isn't poor and i nor my husband supports them... on the other hand, my filipino family sometimes lend me money since i'm not working and i don't feel comfortable spending my husband's hard-earned moolah for my own vanities, although he trusts me with all the ATM cards/bank accounts...
i have other filipina friends in korea, all married to koreans... we're all in our early 30's and college educated... afaik, none of my friends got married through an agency... so i guess we're not the stereotypical southeast asian brides you read about in newspaper articles... |
Where is your Korean language class? I know of a few but I'm always on a look out for some more =)
With my OP I clearly wasn't trying to judge immigrants who marry Koreans in a negative way, I was only posting a specific question about a specific sub-group of immigrants. And I don't want to say anything negative about them either. The only reason I'm asking here is because I'm shy/scared of causing offence to my Vietnamese classmate and hoped someone here might have some stats available. (I'm interested in stats). |
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Kepler
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betchay
Joined: 23 Aug 2005
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Wed Jan 16, 2008 6:53 pm Post subject: |
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| Hyeon Een wrote: |
Where is your Korean language class? I know of a few but I'm always on a look out for some more =)
With my OP I clearly wasn't trying to judge immigrants who marry Koreans in a negative way, I was only posting a specific question about a specific sub-group of immigrants. And I don't want to say anything negative about them either. The only reason I'm asking here is because I'm shy/scared of causing offence to my Vietnamese classmate and hoped someone here might have some stats available. (I'm interested in stats). |
hi! i'm taking korean language classes at the Women's Migrant Center in Sungin-dong... the lessons are free and so are the books they provide to the students...  |
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happeningthang
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| Posted: Wed Jan 16, 2008 7:23 pm Post subject: |
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I spent a protracted period trying to get a visa out of Korea's consulate in Ho Chi Minh City.
Everyday there was a line of prospective brides lined up around the block. Of the ones I saw, I'd guess the average to be early 20s. |
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spliff
Joined: 19 Jan 2004
Location: Khon Kaen, Thailand
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| Posted: Wed Jan 16, 2008 7:30 pm Post subject: |
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| There are a couple 16yr olds in my small town...husbands 50ish. |
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chadrory
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| Posted: Thu Jan 17, 2008 10:24 am Post subject: |
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| spliff wrote: |
| There are a couple 16yr olds in my small town...husbands 50ish. |
sorry. that just seems so backwardsy pedophilish. can't and won't "wrap my head" around that. |
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Natalia
Joined: 10 Mar 2006
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| Posted: Thu Jan 17, 2008 4:28 pm Post subject: |
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| chadrory wrote: |
| spliff wrote: |
| There are a couple 16yr olds in my small town...husbands 50ish. |
sorry. that just seems so backwardsy pedophilish. can't and won't "wrap my head" around that. |
There's plenty of that elsewhere too. In Australia, for example, everywhere you go there are Asian girls in their late teens or early twenties married to white men in their fifties and sixties.
After growing up in an expat lifestyle where almost every man had an Asian mail order bride young enough to be their granddaughter, nothing really surprises me anymore.
There was a thread on here the other day where some of the guys were discussing how they want them younger and younger the older they get. |
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spliff
Joined: 19 Jan 2004
Location: Khon Kaen, Thailand
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| Posted: Thu Jan 17, 2008 5:11 pm Post subject: |
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| Natalia wrote: |
| chadrory wrote: |
| spliff wrote: |
| There are a couple 16yr olds in my small town...husbands 50ish. |
sorry. that just seems so backwardsy pedophilish. can't and won't "wrap my head" around that. |
There's plenty of that elsewhere too. In Australia, for example, everywhere you go there are Asian girls in their late teens or early twenties married to white men in their fifties and sixties.
After growing up in an expat lifestyle where almost every man had an Asian mail order bride young enough to be their granddaughter, nothing really surprises me anymore.
There was a thread on here the other day where some of the guys were discussing how they want them younger and younger the older they get. |
On Daves...where?  |
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