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Maka
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 Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 5:19 am Post subject: Anybody regret getting into long term relationship? |
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Just wondering, ended up getting a girlfriend after my first month here and we've been together ever since(just over 1 year). She is very nice and treats me amazingly well. A lot of times lately i have been getting bored with relationship and want my freedom to just do what i want and see whoever i want.
I admit that hearing all the great stories and things that my single friends get up to is making me start to resent my situation. My girfriend totally loves me and would do anything to stay with me but lately i'm starting to just lose interest primarily because she tends to nag alot if i go out and get drunk with my friends, or don't text her every few hours when we are apart. It's pretty much like having a mother because she always want to know what i'm doing and who i'm with.
By the way I'm 24 she is 30 year old korean |
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butlerian
Joined: 04 Sep 2006
Location: Korea
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 5:20 am Post subject: Re: Anybody regret getting into long term relationship? |
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| Maka wrote: |
Just wondering, ended up getting a girlfriend after my first month here and we've been together ever since(just over 1 year). She is very nice and treats me amazingly well. A lot of times lately i have been getting bored with relationship and want my freedom to just do what i want and see whoever i want.
I admit that hearing all the great stories and things that my single friends get up to is making me start to resent my situation. My girfriend totally loves me and would do anything to stay with me but lately i'm starting to just lose interest primarily because she tends to nag alot if i go out and get drunk with my friends, or don't text her every few hours when we are apart. It's pretty much like having a mother because she always want to know what i'm doing and who i'm with.
By the way I'm 24 she is 30 year old korean |
You need to be a man and be honest with her. |
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bondjimbond
Joined: 29 Dec 2007
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 5:24 am Post subject: Re: Anybody regret getting into long term relationship? |
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| Maka wrote: |
| i'm starting to just lose interest primarily because she tends to nag alot if i go out and get drunk with my friends, or don't text her every few hours when we are apart. It's pretty much like having a mother because she always want to know what i'm doing and who i'm with. |
Do you think if these behaviours changed, you'd be more content? Talk to her about them. |
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laogaiguk
Joined: 06 Dec 2005
Location: somewhere in Korea
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 5:28 am Post subject: |
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First, talk to her about the problems. If they can't be worked out, and you can't take it, finish the relationship. She's not getting any younger, especially for a Korean girl (it's wrong, but true in this country).
Also, if you are really losing interest, be kind and break up with her. |
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caniff
Joined: 03 Feb 2004
Location: All over the map
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 5:29 am Post subject: Re: Anybody regret getting into long term relationship? |
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| Maka wrote: |
Just wondering, ended up getting a girlfriend after my first month here and we've been together ever since(just over 1 year). She is very nice and treats me amazingly well. A lot of times lately i have been getting bored with relationship and want my freedom to just do what i want and see whoever i want.
I admit that hearing all the great stories and things that my single friends get up to is making me start to resent my situation. My girfriend totally loves me and would do anything to stay with me but lately i'm starting to just lose interest primarily because she tends to nag alot if i go out and get drunk with my friends, or don't text her every few hours when we are apart. It's pretty much like having a mother because she always want to know what i'm doing and who i'm with.
By the way I'm 24 she is 30 year old korean |
You need to be a man and be honest with her. |
I'm with Mr. B on this one. Let her know it's not working out as it's been going. She just might change her tune.
Depends on what you want, though. |
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jetrash
Joined: 02 Jun 2007
Location: the united steaks
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 5:29 am Post subject: |
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| post a pic,and we will decide if you should stay or not. |
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Maka
Joined: 12 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 5:29 am Post subject: Re: Anybody regret getting into long term relationship? |
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| butlerian wrote: |
| Maka wrote: |
Just wondering, ended up getting a girlfriend after my first month here and we've been together ever since(just over 1 year). She is very nice and treats me amazingly well. A lot of times lately i have been getting bored with relationship and want my freedom to just do what i want and see whoever i want.
I admit that hearing all the great stories and things that my single friends get up to is making me start to resent my situation. My girfriend totally loves me and would do anything to stay with me but lately i'm starting to just lose interest primarily because she tends to nag alot if i go out and get drunk with my friends, or don't text her every few hours when we are apart. It's pretty much like having a mother because she always want to know what i'm doing and who i'm with.
By the way I'm 24 she is 30 year old korean |
You need to be a man and be honest with her. |
I have been totally honest with her, and explained my feelings to her and she said she will try anything, she just doesn't want to lose me. She keeps saying she will change but she always ends up going back to her controlling ways. I feel like i'm not living my life the way i want to because i always seem to have to let her know whenever i am planning on doing something, or if i don't ask her to come along she gets insulted. I could never just decide to go somewhere with my friends for the weekend with having to have a huge fight about how i never want to go away for weekends with her. |
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Yaya
Joined: 25 Feb 2003
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I'd ask her for space, and give yourself a month without contacting each other. If you miss her, fine, but if you don't, get on with your life. She's six years older so she might be thinking marriage, and it sounds like you definitely don't want that from her. In that case, break it off despite how painful that might be.
The sooner you break it off, the sooner you can get on with your life. Plus she could turn out psycho and try to make your life in Korea miserable by crying rape or something. |
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sunnyvale
Joined: 17 Jul 2006
Location: Korea
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 5:36 am Post subject: Re: Anybody regret getting into long term relationship? |
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| Maka wrote: |
Just wondering, ended up getting a girlfriend after my first month here and we've been together ever since(just over 1 year). She is very nice and treats me amazingly well. A lot of times lately i have been getting bored with relationship and want my freedom to just do what i want and see whoever i want.
I admit that hearing all the great stories and things that my single friends get up to is making me start to resent my situation. My girfriend totally loves me and would do anything to stay with me but lately i'm starting to just lose interest primarily because she tends to nag alot if i go out and get drunk with my friends, or don't text her every few hours when we are apart. It's pretty much like having a mother because she always want to know what i'm doing and who i'm with.
By the way I'm 24 she is 30 year old korean |
**** Aside from the last bit about age, it's as though you read my mind and wrote down how I feel about my Korean gf of 1.5 years. I definitely feel like I'm missing out on a lot of stuff. I too get nagged if I don't text message her every few hours when I'm out. When I go out drinking with my friends she always insists on picking me up when I'm done, no matter what time it is.
My friends warned me about getting involved in a serious relationship with a Korean, now I agree with the OP, I definitely regret getting into this thing. |
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Scotticus
Joined: 18 Mar 2007
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 5:44 am Post subject: Re: Anybody regret getting into long term relationship? |
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| Aside from the last bit about age, it's as though you read my mind and wrote down how I feel about my Korean gf of 1.5 years. |
I seem to recall you posting about how anyone staying in Korea for more than a year was "f'd up." Last time I called you on it you had a lame excuse... so what's the excuse this time; you were dating her for a year over Myspace before you came to Korea? |
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Maka
Joined: 12 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 5:51 am Post subject: Re: Anybody regret getting into long term relationship? |
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| sunnyvale wrote: |
| Maka wrote: |
Just wondering, ended up getting a girlfriend after my first month here and we've been together ever since(just over 1 year). She is very nice and treats me amazingly well. A lot of times lately i have been getting bored with relationship and want my freedom to just do what i want and see whoever i want.
I admit that hearing all the great stories and things that my single friends get up to is making me start to resent my situation. My girfriend totally loves me and would do anything to stay with me but lately i'm starting to just lose interest primarily because she tends to nag alot if i go out and get drunk with my friends, or don't text her every few hours when we are apart. It's pretty much like having a mother because she always want to know what i'm doing and who i'm with.
By the way I'm 24 she is 30 year old korean |
**** Aside from the last bit about age, it's as though you read my mind and wrote down how I feel about my Korean gf of 1.5 years. I definitely feel like I'm missing out on a lot of stuff. I too get nagged if I don't text message her every few hours when I'm out. When I go out drinking with my friends she always insists on picking me up when I'm done, no matter what time it is.
My friends warned me about getting involved in a serious relationship with a Korean, now I agree with the OP, I definitely regret getting into this thing. |
The thing is i am planning on living here after this contract finishes in january and i'm pretty sure she is going to want to be stay with me until I'm on the plane going back home. I don't want to have regrets about all the thing I missed out on during my 2 years in korea. I feel this relationship is stifling me as a person and I have tried to end it before only for her to practically be me to take her back and try 'one more time'.
As i said though she is a very nice caring person most of the time and maybe i just think the grass is greener on the single side. |
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postfundie
Joined: 28 May 2004
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 5:55 am Post subject: |
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| I think you should most definately date around....for sure...like somebody else said...ask for space...then use the space |
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sunnyvale
Joined: 17 Jul 2006
Location: Korea
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 6:12 am Post subject: Re: Anybody regret getting into long term relationship? |
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The thing is i am planning on living here after this contract finishes in january and i'm pretty sure she is going to want to be stay with me until I'm on the plane going back home. I don't want to have regrets about all the thing I missed out on during my 2 years in korea. I feel this relationship is stifling me as a person and I have tried to end it before only for her to practically be me to take her back and try 'one more time'.
As i said though she is a very nice caring person most of the time and maybe i just think the grass is greener on the single side. |
Just break it off. If you see no real future in the relationship then what's the point? I would break mine off but I'm afraid I'm in a lot worse situation than you are. I live with my GF and have a significant amount of key money tied up in an apartment with her... I'm screwed because I didn't have the balls to break the relationship off when I had a chance. Don't miss your chance, end it now. |
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Donkey Beer
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 6:17 am Post subject: |
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| What you need is a friend with benefits�. |
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macaronique
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