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PBRstreetgang21
Joined: 19 Feb 2007
Location: Orlando, FL--- serving as man's paean to medocrity since 1971!
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 Posted: Tue Apr 22, 2008 3:00 am Post subject: Who really cares about orphans? |
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| Cause if you do, I was wondering if you had any info on how I could get involved with volunteering at an orphanage in Seoul. Now that Im a student I have lots of freetime on my weekday afternoons and was looking to do something....more generous if I could. Any info will be greatly appreciated! |
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Katchafire
Joined: 31 Mar 2006
Location: Non curo. Si metrum non habet, non est poema
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| Posted: Tue Apr 22, 2008 3:08 am Post subject: |
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| Yes I would be quite interested in this information also .. although being the 'clucky chic' I can be ... it might be difficult to volunteer there without trying to smuggle a few home in my pockets and keep em. |
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poppydaisy
Joined: 02 Mar 2008
Location: Bundang, Korea
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| Posted: Tue Apr 22, 2008 5:59 am Post subject: |
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Me too! I'm interested in learning more about how the orphange works and why there are so many unwanted children here. My initial thought is that there aren't any social supports for single unwed mothers who have children out of wedlock. There isn't a welfare system to help them like back home and how would single mother's raise them? It's socially frowned upon for an unwed korean woman to have a child out of wedlock. I'm in Kwangju City in Kyeunggi-do. Anyone know where I can volunteer???  |
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PBRstreetgang21
Joined: 19 Feb 2007
Location: Orlando, FL--- serving as man's paean to medocrity since 1971!
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| Posted: Tue Apr 22, 2008 2:39 pm Post subject: |
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Its pretty shameful for a family to adopt. Society makes it out to be a negative thing. Why would you want someone elses blood polluting your pure and clean family? I would guess maybe it may have something to do with a mix of the whole confucian outside-your-grouping-people-are-nothing, and a relic of the Silla Bone rank system.
Its changing somewhat. I know recently everyone was pretty shocked when a big name celebrity (I forget who) chose to adopt. I think people where suprised they wouldnt want to keep it a secret.
For the other posters who are not fans of this country, the real reason is because Koreans are evil and twisted people whose dark hearts feed on the screams of parentless children. |
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kabrams
Joined: 15 Mar 2008
Location: your Dad's house
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| Posted: Tue Apr 22, 2008 3:11 pm Post subject: |
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| Its pretty shameful for a family to adopt. Society makes it out to be a negative thing. Why would you want someone elses blood polluting your pure and clean family? |
That's a damn shame. I know after the war there were a lot of mixed kids/war orphans that "no one wanted", so the Americans and Australians started adopting them.
It's a bit like that in Japan, too. My friend's father was adopted and it was this gigantic secret. He didn't even tell me: he told my mom for some reason.
I would love to volunteer at an orphanage. I don't know if I'm going to have any biological children, but I am planning to adopt. |
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ardis
Joined: 20 Apr 2006
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Tue Apr 22, 2008 3:38 pm Post subject: |
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| poppydaisy wrote: |
| Me too! I'm interested in learning more about how the orphange works and why there are so many unwanted children here. My initial thought is that there aren't any social supports for single unwed mothers who have children out of wedlock. There isn't a welfare system to help them like back home and how would single mother's raise them? It's socially frowned upon for an unwed korean woman to have a child out of wedlock. I'm in Kwangju City in Kyeunggi-do. Anyone know where I can volunteer??? |
Single moms would have a hard time because the father's name is needed on a lot of papers, like school enrollment (I think). I was told that the kids of single parents would be ridiculed and bullied to no extent here, and that most single moms would be doing a favor to the kid by putting it up for adoption than trying to raise it on their own. |
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nicholas_chiasson
Joined: 14 Jun 2007
Location: Samcheok
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| Posted: Tue Apr 22, 2008 4:00 pm Post subject: |
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| I mentioned I have two adopted siblings and my middle school class said "Oh you are so kind." I was kind of shocked. |
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Yu_Bum_suk
Joined: 25 Dec 2004
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| I'd look at going through a Salvation Army orphanage. In my experience they're very well run and grateful. |
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cdninkorea
Joined: 27 Jan 2006
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Tue Apr 22, 2008 7:53 pm Post subject: |
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| A lot of churches organize volunteer groups to orphanages. I'm not sure if you have to attend their church or be religious to volunteer, but it wouldn't hurt to ask if that's what you want to do. |
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Yu_Bum_suk
Joined: 25 Dec 2004
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| cdninkorea wrote: |
| A lot of churches organize volunteer groups to orphanages. I'm not sure if you have to attend their church or be religious to volunteer, but it wouldn't hurt to ask if that's what you want to do. |
The Salvation Army is very good about not pushing religion on foreign volunteers, and is even quite respectful of teenage orphans who don't much care for religion. In fact, amongst Korean Protestants, they seem almost unique in being more interested in being Christ-like than obnoxious. |
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potin14p
Joined: 04 May 2006
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When I lived in Daegu, I helped out a Salvation Army childrens home - great experience. They never once tried to force their beliefs on me.
From what I understand, most of the kids there are not real orphans, but actually still have at least one living parent. In many cases, parents had gotten divorced, and both mom and dad wanted to remarry. trying to find a new husband or wife when you already have children = difficult, --> childrens home. Some of the kids would occasionally visit their parents on weekends.
very sad indeed. and if that wasn't bad enough, these kids get quite a hard time at school from their peers.
I hope that since some Korean celebrity couples have recently adopted kids, general negative attitudes towards orphans and adopting will change.
The unfortunate thing is that Koreans get pissy at overseas couples adopting Korean babies. are these poor kids ever going to get adopted? |
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nebraska1
Joined: 06 Jan 2008
Location: Judge, Some people just need killin!
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| Posted: Wed Apr 23, 2008 9:38 am Post subject: |
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| potin14p wrote: |
When I lived in Daegu, I helped out a Salvation Army childrens home - great experience. They never once tried to force their beliefs on me.
From what I understand, most of the kids there are not real orphans, but actually still have at least one living parent. In many cases, parents had gotten divorced, and both mom and dad wanted to remarry. trying to find a new husband or wife when you already have children = difficult, --> childrens home. Some of the kids would occasionally visit their parents on weekends.
very sad indeed. and if that wasn't bad enough, these kids get quite a hard time at school from their peers.
I hope that since some Korean celebrity couples have recently adopted kids, general negative attitudes towards orphans and adopting will change.
The unfortunate thing is that Koreans get pissy at overseas couples adopting Korean babies. are these poor kids ever going to get adopted? |
Even more ridiculous is if you are married to a Korean YOU CANNOT adopt a Korean child and stay in the country. My spouse and I went through this for circus for 2 years and gave up. If we wanted to adopt and take the child out of the country fine. If we were both Korean and wanted to stay in the country fine.
But since we are a mixed couple it is impossible to adopt a Korean child and stay in the country. We even got a lawyer. Doors shut everywhere. Yes, a child in a orphanage is so much better off than *gasp* with a mixed family. And don't try to tell me stories about it happening.
We fought long and hard for two years and it is impossible to LEGALLY adopt a Korean child and stay in the country if you are a mixed couple. If I sound bitter, I am. Sad state of affairs when people who want to give a child a home with a good stable family are told NO just because we are not both Korean.
Asshats one and all.
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