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bejarano-korea
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 Posted: Sat Jun 28, 2008 8:02 pm Post subject: Public School Ettiquete |
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I have only been at the school a few days but all the teachers in my staffroom have been very nice, offering me pieces of cake, biscuits, drink etc. I have bought some biscuits for tomorrow but I also don't want to be seen as a kiss ass to curry favour either. Is it too early in the realtionshiip to bring in goodies for the nice folks in the staffroom?
Oh yeah, is it verboten to date hot looking fellow members of staff?  Some workplaces have that rule in the UK so I wouldn't mind knowing what the score is here - and its for future reference by the way!! |
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Bearach
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| Posted: Sat Jun 28, 2008 8:12 pm Post subject: |
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| My advice on dating is to wait and see. If they want to spend time with you outside work, do that. Let them do the asking though. |
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Ramen
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| Posted: Sat Jun 28, 2008 8:35 pm Post subject: |
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Be careful!
Most Koreans are very exploitative. What I mean by this is that they'll treat you flatteringly nice in the first meeting. Then they'll start demanding things completely out of your contract. If you submit to their demands they'll get bolder and ask for more and more. However, if you refuse, look out! They'll be the worst enemy.
It's exactly opposite in the western world where you treat the person with certain skepticism in the first meeting. Then you gradually build your trust and confidence in a person which leads to lasting relationship. |
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bejarano-korea
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| Posted: Sat Jun 28, 2008 8:43 pm Post subject: |
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| Ramen wrote: |
Be careful!
Most Koreans are very exploitative. What I mean by this is that they'll treat you flatteringly nice in the first meeting. Then they'll start demanding things completely out of your contract. If you submit to their demands they'll get bolder and ask for more and more. However, if you refuse, look out! They'll be the worst enemy.
It's exactly opposite in the western world where you treat the person with certain skepticism in the first meeting. Then you gradually build your trust and confidence in a person which leads to lasting relationship. |
Thats what I'm worried about. I don't want them to think I'm a soft touch because I will put my foot down and I don't want them to get too upset when that happens! So what I have done is bought some biscuits from 'hi-mart' and I think that might be a good comprimise, if they are nice throughout the soujourn - I'll probably buy goodies from
'paris de baguette'
I'm in a staffroom with teachers who teach other subjects as well as English so I hope that stops them from acting up.  |
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bejarano-korea
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| Posted: Sat Jun 28, 2008 8:45 pm Post subject: |
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| Bearach wrote: |
| My advice on dating is to wait and see. If they want to spend time with you outside work, do that. Let them do the asking though. |
For sure - I'm not going to play 'Don Juan' anytime soon but I must say there are some nice looking women within my vicinity - as long as there are no strict rules about dating in the workplace then I'm happy to 'wait and see'  Cheers! |
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Ramen
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| Posted: Sat Jun 28, 2008 8:55 pm Post subject: |
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| bejarano-korea wrote: |
| Bearach wrote: |
| My advice on dating is to wait and see. If they want to spend time with you outside work, do that. Let them do the asking though. |
For sure - I'm not going to play 'Don Juan' anytime soon but I must say there are some nice looking women within my vicinity - as long as there are no strict rules about dating in the workplace then I'm happy to 'wait and see' Cheers! |
I strongly advise against dating your co-teacher or fellow employee. If found out, your boss will make every effort to turn the scene against you when things turn sour.
I don't know where you are but there are plenty of women outside of your work place. |
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icicle
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| Posted: Sat Jun 28, 2008 9:47 pm Post subject: |
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| No it is not too early to bring something into share ... That for me was just a normal part of being in the public school teachers room ... Most days someone had brough something ... It wasn't planned just part of the culture .... And when you recognise that and do it it will be very much appreciated ... And I always saw it as a good way of thanking them for their welcome |
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Dome Vans
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| Posted: Sun Jun 29, 2008 1:18 am Post subject: |
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| icicle wrote: |
| No it is not too early to bring something into share ... That for me was just a normal part of being in the public school teachers room ... Most days someone had brough something ... It wasn't planned just part of the culture .... And when you recognise that and do it it will be very much appreciated ... And I always saw it as a good way of thanking them for their welcome |
100% agree here. No disrespect BK but it'll be well received without seen as being kissing ass. It's part of the PS culture and completely different from your experience in that lovely Hagwon. To me it seems a very simple way of making life in PS a lot easier. Once you're in with your principal, VP and co-teachers it makes the job so much easier. Also just wait for being paid on time and in full and not having the same hassles that you had before.
As for dating the teachers or co-workers always apply the simple rule of, never shit on your own doorstep, it'll only come back to haunt you. |
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bejarano-korea
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| Posted: Sun Jun 29, 2008 1:58 am Post subject: |
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| Dome Vans wrote: |
| icicle wrote: |
| No it is not too early to bring something into share ... That for me was just a normal part of being in the public school teachers room ... Most days someone had brough something ... It wasn't planned just part of the culture .... And when you recognise that and do it it will be very much appreciated ... And I always saw it as a good way of thanking them for their welcome |
100% agree here. No disrespect BK but it'll be well received without seen as being kissing ass. It's part of the PS culture and completely different from your experience in that lovely Hagwon. To me it seems a very simple way of making life in PS a lot easier. Once you're in with your principal, VP and co-teachers it makes the job so much easier. Also just wait for being paid on time and in full and not having the same hassles that you had before.
As for dating the teachers or co-workers always apply the simple rule of, never shit on your own doorstep, it'll only come back to haunt you. |
I appreciate both sets of advice Icicle and DV. I wasn't worried about bringing things in which I'm happy to do but if it isn't too early, I suppose coming from the UK where if you started bringing stuff in for workmates
after 3 days of knowing them would make you a target of derision (which says a lot for us!  ) not knowing the lie of the land is it were, I'm more happier nopw that my small tokens of appreciation will be recieved in the right spirit. |
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Dome Vans
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| Posted: Sun Jun 29, 2008 2:13 am Post subject: |
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| I suppose coming from the UK where if you started bringing stuff in for workmates after 3 days of knowing them would make you a target of derision (which says a lot for us! ) |
Haha. You're right there. "That new guy has bought in something for us to eat. What do you think he did to it?" "Check him out looking for a promotion already"
It's probably along the same lines as bringing in an apple for the teacherat school, just trying to get one up on the rest, usually resulting in a painful wedgie or worms down the shirt or pants. |
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bejarano-korea
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| Posted: Sun Jun 29, 2008 2:33 am Post subject: |
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| I suppose coming from the UK where if you started bringing stuff in for workmates after 3 days of knowing them would make you a target of derision (which says a lot for us! ) |
Haha. You're right there. "That new guy has bought in something for us to eat. What do you think he did to it?" "Check him out looking for a promotion already"
It's probably along the same lines as bringing in an apple for the teacherat school, just trying to get one up on the rest, usually resulting in a painful wedgie or worms down the shirt or pants. |
They would do that wouldn't they? Eat all your biscuits and drink all your pop and then tear you a new one behind your back! Typical Brit bastards!
The staff room (all female apart from the Chinese language teacher) who have nothing to do with teaching English have been very nice up till now and I feel a bit guilty about eating their grub without bringing anything in return. |
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