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Joined: 27 Sep 2004
Location: South of the river
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Do you do it at home?
In my home country I wouldnt even think about hugging a young child that wasnt my own. Id be labeled a pedo and chucked on the sex offenders list faster than i could say gary glitter. |
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milspecs
Joined: 19 Jun 2008
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| Posted: Tue Jul 01, 2008 7:37 am Post subject: |
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| probably not |
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planthopps
Joined: 05 May 2008
Location: Korea
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| Posted: Tue Jul 01, 2008 7:49 am Post subject: |
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| If the student is young, they do it first, and you make it quick it is OK. |
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icicle
Joined: 09 Feb 2007
Location: Gyeonggi do Korea
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| Posted: Tue Jul 01, 2008 2:36 pm Post subject: |
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| Probably different depending on the age of the child and your gender as well. Kindergarten children it is difficult to avoid especially with younger children (who will grab you) .. and when they are upset. |
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Ramen
Joined: 15 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Tue Jul 01, 2008 2:41 pm Post subject: |
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| I was told that if you are Korean you can hug and fondle them. However, if you're foreigner, you'll be lynched. |
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Cornfed
Joined: 14 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Tue Jul 01, 2008 2:47 pm Post subject: Re: Is it okay to hug a child in Korea? |
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| aquafresh wrote: |
| Is it okay to hug a student in Korea. |
My school once had a "free hug hour" where teachers were expected to go around hugging students, so I assume it is OK. Coming from a manhating asylum like NZ I was a bit nervious about participating in such a thing, but I figure that if you act like you can't be trusted to come into contact with kids then you are just empowering that sick mentality and making things worse. |
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HighTreason
Joined: 15 Jun 2007
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| Posted: Tue Jul 01, 2008 2:53 pm Post subject: |
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Yes, I would do it at home. Hugging a child has nothing to do with pedophelia. If you grope them during the hug, that's a completely different story.
Quite frankly, I don't want to live in a world where you can't hug a child. what kind of screwed up society do we live in that this issue even comes up...
I don't make a habit of it such that I'm doing it all the time, but I will hug a child without reservation, and I hope you do too. They deserve it. |
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Bigfeet
Joined: 29 May 2008
Location: Grrrrr.....
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| Posted: Tue Jul 01, 2008 3:16 pm Post subject: |
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| HighTreason wrote: |
Quite frankly, I don't want to live in a world where you can't hug a child. what kind of screwed up society do we live in that this issue even comes up...
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Why does it come up?
http://www.watertowndailytimes.com/article/20080701/OPINION02/841024105/High+court+wrong+on+executing+child+rapists
I will not stand silent, nor should this newspaper, when a liberal Supreme Court declared that the American people, through their elected representatives, may not decide for ourselves which of the many horrific crimes deserve payment for the ultimate price. The court has just struck down the laws of Louisiana, Georgia, Montana, Oklahoma, South Carolina and Texas.
Justice Anthony Kennedy writing for himself and the four other liberal members of the high court, pronounced that "the death penalty is not a proportional punishment for the rape of a child." He based his opinion on what is referred to euphemistically as "the evolving standards of decency." |
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Cornfed
Joined: 14 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Tue Jul 01, 2008 3:28 pm Post subject: |
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Why should that mean it comes up? |
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Bigfeet
Joined: 29 May 2008
Location: Grrrrr.....
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| Posted: Tue Jul 01, 2008 3:43 pm Post subject: |
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| You're screwed for life if you ever get convicted of child molestation in the US. Your name is kept in a national database that anybody can call up. Neighborhoods will treat you like you have leprosy and do their best to chase you out of towns. |
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globalgirlk
Joined: 18 Jun 2008
Location: Livingston, La
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| Posted: Tue Jul 01, 2008 3:48 pm Post subject: |
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| I did after-care at a school and I was/am a huge advocate of the side-ways hug. Less intimate and no suspicion. If a child hugs you, hug them back sideways. |
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Ya-ta Boy
Joined: 16 Jan 2003
Location: Established in 1994
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| Posted: Tue Jul 01, 2008 3:56 pm Post subject: |
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This fear is one of the bad parts of the West that has begun to infect Korea. Ten years ago there was no thought or fear of child abuse from teachers. As an example of just how different it was: I was friends with a family. Sometimes I went out for dinner and drinks with the father and sometimes got invited to sleep over. I would be sent to bed with both the son and daughter (ages 8 & 10). The three of us slept on yos on the floor together. Quite cuddly. I brought up the attitude in the US and the dad said here in Korea it was an 'honor' to be invited to sleep over with the kids.
I see nothing at all wrong with giving a student a hug, but in the current climate, I would avoid it. |
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globalgirlk
Joined: 18 Jun 2008
Location: Livingston, La
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| Posted: Tue Jul 01, 2008 4:29 pm Post subject: |
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| Awww.so cute with the kids. I miss my kids from a few years ago at school. They were fun. |
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Lekker
Joined: 09 Feb 2008
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Tue Jul 01, 2008 4:31 pm Post subject: |
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Hugging a child, not okay.
Dung Chipping your foreign teacher? Completely 100% acceptable. |
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maeil
Joined: 09 Jan 2006
Location: Haebangchon
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| Posted: Tue Jul 01, 2008 4:37 pm Post subject: |
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| Ya-ta Boy wrote: |
| ...but in the current climate, I would avoid it. |
I agree with this.. when I first arrived here years ago I commented to my mother, an inner city public school teacher back home, how remarkably acceptable it was to touch the children, hold their hands, give hugs and pats on the back, etc. She and I were both amazed, as she wasn't even allowed to try to break up fights for fear of being accused of sexual harassment.
In the past year or so though, the atmosphere in Korea has changed due to a variety of reasons. I definitely wouldn't advise adopting the same fear that we have back in the States, but I would say that perhaps a wise thing to do is wait for the children to show affection to you. Accepting hugs and hand holding and things like that will probably always be fine, but I would feel more cautious these days about initiating them, especially with students you haven't been working with for very long. |
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