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sigmundsmith
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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 Posted: Fri Oct 10, 2008 2:31 am Post subject: Dating Websites - Comparisons |
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Now I know that this topic (relating to Korea) has been discussed before. But I am approaching it from a different perspective.
Had a long term relationship with a K-girl (good memories) but in the end, didn't work out.
After, took a break from women - got back into the gym; not spending as much money. Then after a while, time to get back into the game.
Went out on some dates - both Korean and Non-Korean girls (sorry, I won't use the word foreign [waegukin] anymore) but nothing really sparkeled. Spoke with a few people who have used different dating websites - koreancupid or koreanfriendfinder.
Well, I started looking at what each girl would put on their profile - want friend; English practice; not looking for male but friend; following along those lines (not all but the greater majority).
So I wanted to do a comparison with different dating websites - eg. Japan; Thailand; Indonesia - and the contrast was quite remarkable.
The women on these particular websites would state exactly what they want. They new that registering with a site such as those was to meet someone (opposite sex) to go out on date, make a relationship, or more.
Now, before you say that some of the countries are third world and some of the women who register are looking for a meal ticket. There are a lot of women who are well educated (Bach./Mast degree) and indpedent who are looking for a real relationship.
So, out of all these countries, why is Korean so different? Are Korean women fickle, superficial, holding back what they really want, shy, scared what the general population would think of them if they were seen with a non-korean hand in hand, experimenting?
What is the deal with these women - and I don't mean 21 yr old air head - who are attractive, good job etc. Why aren't they saying what they want and looking for so the walking penises know whether to try and contact them or avoid them.
BTW. I am not registered with any of the sites - it was just an experiment (they are personnally not my cup of tea).
But good luck for any who use and succeed in finding someone they click with. |
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Sadebugo1
Joined: 11 May 2003
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| Posted: Fri Oct 10, 2008 3:41 am Post subject: |
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It's hard to say for sure, but I would think that Korean society assigns such shame to dating a foreigner, most Korean women don't want to appear to be looking for a boyfriend. Just my two cents.
Sadebugo
http://travldawrld.blogspot.com/ |
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cdninkorea
Joined: 27 Jan 2006
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Fri Oct 10, 2008 4:48 am Post subject: |
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| Sadebugo1 wrote: |
It's hard to say for sure, but I would think that Korean society assigns such shame to dating a foreigner, most Korean women don't want to appear to be looking for a boyfriend. Just my two cents.
Sadebugo
http://travldawrld.blogspot.com/ |
I don't have any positive theories, but the above doesn't add up either: women are always talking about how they want a boyfriend, how they go on blind dates, asking people to set them up on blind dates, etcetera.
As for the dating a foreigner: there's no shame in it in Korea. Yes, there will be some old people who don't like it, but it's quite common and I've never even heard of a younger person saying "any Korean woman who dates a foreigner should be ashamed of herself."
That said, again, I don't have any positive theories. Acting coy? Korean women do like to do that. |
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Adventurer
Joined: 28 Jan 2006
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| Posted: Fri Oct 10, 2008 7:54 am Post subject: |
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Do you think that Korean women are pickier than their Western counterparts who live in affluent societies? Many of them are very, very picky. Remember, women from first world countries might be pickier. They are from more materialistic countries, and there are more wants. Societies that are not as advanced in terms of commercialism have women who are more into traditional concepts of dating, wanting to have children, and getting married more than women from affluent countries, so I am not sure if it is simply just Korean women. However, Western women are more open when it comes to men, because they are more open when it comes to weight and age and that sort of thing. Korean women are not as open about that whether you are Korean or not. Image is more important here. Does that render them pickier? Perhaps, it might mean they are a bit pickier than their North American counterparts.
I am not an expert on these things... I am just offering my thoughts, but I think there are so many picky people in so many countries.
You are correct that most Korean women don't want to date foreigners.
It is still somewhat taboo and unacceptable in this society. However, it is much more acceptable that it was say in 2001 when a fellow I know who taught in Korea in 2000 had to deal with people confronting him on the him here and there, because he was dating a Korean girl. I am sure a lot has changed in 8 years, though. |
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rebel_1812
Joined: 17 May 2008
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Fri Oct 10, 2008 8:09 am Post subject: |
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| yes. I have used those sites. You will get alot of responses if you are handsome. Some are just looking for a free english lesson. However some are looking for a boyfriend. You have to talk to the girl to find out. Remeber how important it is to save face in korea. Perhaps they think using the internet to find someone is shameful or something stupid like that. |
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madoka
Joined: 27 Mar 2008
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sigmundsmith
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Sat Oct 11, 2008 1:55 am Post subject: |
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Here we go again. An idiot.
Read my original post you *beep* (OP means original post but I think you are too ignorant to understand).
I said that after I seperated from my K-GF and had a break from women/dating I decided to get back into the game, with little success (read the post *beep* - I dated both K-girls and non-K-girls). Someone told me about the websites. Didn't say I was looking for a Kgirl.
WOW! Majority of the Korean dating sites have Korean women on it. Who would have guessed. But wait, there are also non-korean women - American, Canadian etc. Can you think you ignorant individual?
So I had a look at the sites available. Then I said I did a comparison with other Asian countries and Asian women.
It was just an observation. An enquiry. Like the posters before you, they understood but you? Unfortunately, you have nothing better to do than make some stupid remark because you probably spend the weekend in front of the computer with one hand on a beer and another on your *beep*.
All power to you. |
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Sadebugo1
Joined: 11 May 2003
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| Posted: Sat Oct 11, 2008 4:35 am Post subject: |
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| cdninkorea wrote: |
| Sadebugo1 wrote: |
It's hard to say for sure, but I would think that Korean society assigns such shame to dating a foreigner, most Korean women don't want to appear to be looking for a boyfriend. Just my two cents.
Sadebugo
http://travldawrld.blogspot.com/ |
I don't have any positive theories, but the above doesn't add up either: women are always talking about how they want a boyfriend, how they go on blind dates, asking people to set them up on blind dates, etcetera.
As for the dating a foreigner: there's no shame in it in Korea. Yes, there will be some old people who don't like it, but it's quite common and I've never even heard of a younger person saying "any Korean woman who dates a foreigner should be ashamed of herself."
That said, again, I don't have any positive theories. Acting coy? Korean women do like to do that. |
Are you serious that there is no shame in Korea in dating a foreigner? Unless things have changed drastically in the last five years, not only was it shameful, it could get you punched. More than once, I was confronted on the street because I was walking with my coworker (not my girlfriend). The distaste for Korean women dating foreigners is a symptom of racism and no one can deny there is racism in Korea.
Sadebugo
http://travldawrld.blogspot.com/ |
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kermo
Joined: 01 Sep 2004
Location: Eating eggs, with a comb, out of a shoe.
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| Posted: Sat Oct 11, 2008 6:55 am Post subject: |
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Don't use Koreanfriendfinder. They use attractive photos without permission to lure people to Adultfriendfinder.
Someone mentioned a website a while back that sent fake letters to male users to entice them to sign up (you must be a member to send messages, if you're a guy.)
Match.com bites.
Okcupid is a much smarter, more interesting way to meet people. |
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Shauneyz
Joined: 26 May 2008
Location: The land of Nod
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| Posted: Sat Oct 11, 2008 7:52 pm Post subject: |
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| Sadebugo1 wrote: |
Are you serious that there is no shame in Korea in dating a foreigner? Unless things have changed drastically in the last five years, not only was it shameful, it could get you punched. More than once, I was confronted on the street because I was walking with my coworker (not my girlfriend). The distaste for Korean women dating foreigners is a symptom of racism and no one can deny there is racism in Korea.
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Ok, well...back up a bit. Yes and no. I was on dates downtown all this weekend and all last weekend and had absolutely no problem with people confronting me or the girl I was with. No bad looks either.....if anything, other Korean girls will start checking you out more (probably out of jealousy  ). But no, seriously, I had zero problems in the main heart of town -- in fact, I even asked a group of men (while with the K-woman) how to find a club and they were glad to help me, even though they didn't speak more than beginner's English.
On the other hand, you're probably right. However, the only time I was ever confronted was when I was far from downtown -- not in a rural area, but definitely in an area with older and probably more traditional thinking people. The guy was hammered though, so that may have had something to do with it.
It, like everything else, "all depends." |
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Young FRANKenstein
Joined: 02 Oct 2006
Location: Castle Frankenstein (that's FRONKensteen)
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| Posted: Sat Oct 11, 2008 10:06 pm Post subject: |
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| kermo wrote: |
| Don't use Koreanfriendfinder. They use attractive photos without permission to lure people to Adultfriendfinder. |
There are plenty of websites out there regarding the lawsuits against the FriendFinder network. By many accounts, the owner is scum of the lowest kind. Thousands upon thousands of fake accounts, using your info without permission to promote his own network of sites, selling your info to spammers, the whole deal.
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| Someone mentioned a website a while back that sent fake letters to male users to entice them to sign up (you must be a member to send messages, if you're a guy.) |
The new and improved UBLove?
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Match.com bites.
Okcupid is a much smarter, more interesting way to meet people. |
Plenty of people in Korea on Tagged, hi5, and Friendster, but I don't think much of any of them. Well, Tagged might be goot for social networking more than dating. If you're going to go the internet route and go as far as pay for membership, then just go the whole distance and join the matchmaker sites like eHarmony or Matchmaker.com |
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Adventurer
Joined: 28 Jan 2006
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| Posted: Sun Oct 12, 2008 8:02 am Post subject: |
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| Young FRANKenstein wrote: |
| kermo wrote: |
| Don't use Koreanfriendfinder. They use attractive photos without permission to lure people to Adultfriendfinder. |
There are plenty of websites out there regarding the lawsuits against the FriendFinder network. By many accounts, the owner is scum of the lowest kind. Thousands upon thousands of fake accounts, using your info without permission to promote his own network of sites, selling your info to spammers, the whole deal.
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| Someone mentioned a website a while back that sent fake letters to male users to entice them to sign up (you must be a member to send messages, if you're a guy.) |
The new and improved UBLove?
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Match.com bites.
Okcupid is a much smarter, more interesting way to meet people. |
Plenty of people in Korea on Tagged, hi5, and Friendster, but I don't think much of any of them. Well, Tagged might be goot for social networking more than dating. If you're going to go the internet route and go as far as pay for membership, then just go the whole distance and join the matchmaker sites like eHarmony or Matchmaker.com |
I think eharmony is not a site used by many foreign, Western women in Korea. You have to shell out a lot of money to send a message to the women, and there are few of them in Korea. That doesn't sound like good odds to me. As far as Tagged, there are plenty of women out there, and it doesn't cost you a dime to contact any of them. Plentyoffish is free as well, but there aren't many women on there except in the UK, Canada, Australia; there are not that many in Korea.
Friendfinder has a lot of women on there, but the Korean women are disproportionately looking for language exchange, but some want to date. Don't know much about matchmaker.com. I am not sure I know it. I do think it's not necessarily right that some sites make the men pay while the women don't. I suppose it goes with the idea that men pay for the first date, but contacting a woman is not the same thing as having a date with her. She should pay if she wants to initiate contact as well.
Could that be viewed as sexist? |
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rusty1983
Joined: 30 Jan 2007
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| Posted: Sun Oct 12, 2008 9:44 am Post subject: |
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I am interested in this thread. I think online dating is the future. Definitely could be the future for me as if I carry on drinking like I do Im going to die, and alot of my motivation to start drinking is to try and meet women.
I have tried some but they are usually cons, you get a few messages to lure you in and then once youve paid, nothing.
You should set up something like Craig's List or Gumtree in Korea. Craig's List is absolutely genius for meeting people. |
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Young FRANKenstein
Joined: 02 Oct 2006
Location: Castle Frankenstein (that's FRONKensteen)
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| Posted: Sun Oct 12, 2008 2:42 pm Post subject: |
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| Adventurer wrote: |
I do think it's not necessarily right that some sites make the men pay while the women don't. I suppose it goes with the idea that men pay for the first date, but contacting a woman is not the same thing as having a date with her. She should pay if she wants to initiate contact as well.
Could that be viewed as sexist? |
It doesn't have anything to do with men pay for first dates. It has to do with men outnumbering the women by large percentages on these sites. Many (most) women won't pay for a site like this, but guys will thinking they're getting a chance at poon. If I owned a site like that, I'd make the guys pay, too. Kinda like ladies night at the bar; they get in free and have half-off drinks because the bar owner knows they'll pack the place with guys looking to score on drunk chicks, so the guys pay premium cover and drink costs. Without the free stuff to draw in the ladies, the guys won't show either. |
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RACETRAITOR
Joined: 24 Oct 2005
Location: Seoul, South Korea
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| Posted: Sun Oct 12, 2008 5:58 pm Post subject: |
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It's simple. Because nearly everyone in this country believes that one of the following men (or both) is looking over their shoulder their entire life.
[img]http://imagecache2.allposters.com/images/pic/CLI/R40~Jesus-Christ-Posters.jpg[/img]
[img]http://www.logoi.com/pastimages/img/confucius_5.jpg[/img]
And may I add--fark both of those arseholes in the ear with a dull blade. |
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