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[Faunaki]

while married.

Today, my co-worker let me in on a new (or old) tidbit that Kmarried women are now going to "talking" bars where they can choose from a list of handsome men to talk to. I asked her why the women wouldn't just talk to their husbands. But she told me it's the trend and that 70% of Gangnam wives have a boyfriend and that if someone doesn't have one or two of these boyfriends it's cause they are losers and can't get one. So I asked her what she means by boyfriend and it's the whole meal deal.

This is very interesting to me. I told her that we don't have this in Canada. Basically if someone cheats, the divorce comes next. But maybe I'm naive about all this as I'm still young and newly married.

So is this true? I thought the play girl thing was for the singles.

[Chris_Dixon]

with the fact that alot of men work away from home for 5 nights, and only return on the weekend, im not surprised.

I work in Daegu, husbands living in Seoul is a common thing among the housewives here

[billybrobby]

The talking bars have been around for a while. I think the notion that 70% of Gangnam wives have boyfriends seem excessive. But then again, the rich are different from you and me. I can't imagine it is a widespread thing, because 90% of ajummas seem to take no interest in making themselves attractive. Or they actively try to make themselves unattractive (a traditional form of birth control?)

[RACETRAITOR]

It does sound a bit too urban legendy for me, although I don't doubt there are people who do it. Still, according to law a woman who is caught cheating by her husband is basically farked.

[R-Seoul]

I think the key message your colleague was trying to get across to you was that you�re a loser, I wouldn�t worry about the specifics of why.

[EzeWong]

Can someone seriously tell me where to score a gig like this?






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[esetters21]

I don't doubt for one minute that this occurs in Gangnam (although I do question the percentage of its frequency by the OP's post). I lived in Apgujeong for my first few years in Korea. It is definitely a different world from where I live now. While I don't miss the pretentiousness(spelling?) of many of the people there, I do miss the daily eye-candy .

[Tony Blair]

[JongnoGuru]

Anyone recall that thread -- early this year or last year -- by a male poster here who was saying his Korean girlfriend's mom was... being ridiculed or was the object of some derision amongst her circle of married female friends for being the only one who wasn't getting any on the side, wasn't having extramarital affairs?

I guess what surprises me most isn't that it's taking place at all, or even that it might be taking place among a high %age of married Korean women that would astound us. Rather, it's the apparent utter lack of discretion or concern over loose lips. And not specifically out of fear that K-hubby will find found out, but ... ehh... is that really something you want to share with other people?

Mom tells Daughter, Daughter tells Dave's Poster, Dave's Poster tells thousands. Or in the case of this thread, (even if her colleague didn't directly implicate herself) Colleague tells Faunaki, Faunaki tells us. And then there's these circles of married women all out in the open with each other (and their daughters? ) about their cheatin' ways. Jeez, the blackmail opportunities here seem limitless.

But who knows, maybe it shouldn't come as such a big hairy surprise, and maybe -- apart from the advent of "talking bars" -- the deed itself is not really that "end of the world as we know it" red-hot recent, either. I was good friends with a guy here who, since the mid-'80s, screwed around with a long list of reportedly exceptionally fine and (what then passed for) rich & privileged married Korean women. Big tall German dude, drove a BMW at a time when the import ban on cars was still up. He says they loved riding around in it with him.

They'd fly him down to Cheju Island (Cheju, because Koreans weren't allowed out of the cage until 1989) for weekends of sightseeing & adultery. Not individually and unbeknownst to the other women. No, no. They'd fly down as a group, and he'd sleep in a different married woman's bed every night. Wild times, hey?

[xCustomx]

CNN ran a story last year about this kind of place in Japan. The only difference is that the employees who work in the cafe are foreigners

[Papa Smurf]

i need to hang out in Gangnam more often.

[mee]

[Paji eh Wong]

People cheat on each other all the time. That is not unusual. We are designed for it.

OP, your friend was projecting. She told you a bunch of stuff she couldn't possibly know. She was telling you she felt like a loser for not having a boyfriend, that she likes "talking bars", and maybe she likes shocking you. Cool. Good for her.

As for the rich, they are different. But I was out with this rich Catholic girl a couple of times last month, and she had the same prudish attitude towards sex that any middle class bourgeois girl would have.

[teachteach]

Koreans critizcize westerners for their high divorce rates. However, they don't understand that in the werst infidelitity os not accepted at all among married couples. In Korea, a marruage stays together inder the pretext that wives allow men to be unfaithful to a large extent through the hooker rooms, and to a certain extent women can be unfaithful too. That's how they keep their marriage together.

[teachteach]

Sorry for the typos. New keyboard