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lostandforgotten
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Dharma_Blue
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| Posted: Thu Oct 23, 2008 5:17 am Post subject: |
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| For example??? |
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T-J
Joined: 10 Oct 2008
Location: Seoul EunpyungGu Yeonsinnae
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| Posted: Thu Oct 23, 2008 5:19 am Post subject: |
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| Please do tell. |
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Xuanzang
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| Posted: Thu Oct 23, 2008 5:29 am Post subject: |
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PeterDragon
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| Posted: Thu Oct 23, 2008 5:36 am Post subject: |
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| Dharma_Blue wrote: |
| For example??? |
Well to be fair, Korean women are often EXTREMELY possessive, getting paranoid/enraged if their "boo" is in the presence of anyone female who's not them. At the GEPIK training last year, one of my flatmates had a Korean girlfriend who called him several times a day to make sure he wasn't near any women. A number of my buddies who date or have dated Koreans report similar types of things, including screaming matches/tantrums over entirely phantom incidents of infidelity.
Then again, consider that these women have had to spend most of their lives dealing with KOREAN men, and they all grew up in and live and work in neighborhoods with a "happy ending" on every corner.
Do they really treat Korean men any differently though? I don't think most Korean women single out foreign men for any bad treatment they won't dish out on local men.
And yeah, just for the record, my colleague at the GEPIK training said he put up with that behavior because his girlfriend was "pretty enough to get away with it". But then, I have plenty of buddies back home in Wisconsin who are equally p**ssy-whipped. I think Western men in general are less dominant and sometimes even downright submissive to the women in their lives.
Lostandforgotten--- are you a foreign woman by any chance? Because we western men LOVE IT when foreign women pretend that they're somehow better than the locals we sometimes fall for. If you are a foreign woman, expound please. (And if you're not, I apologize for the snarkiness. Couldn't resist...) |
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i4NI
Joined: 17 May 2008
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Thu Oct 23, 2008 5:40 am Post subject: |
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nice guys finish last, it transcends culture.
Women are more impressed if you knock out a stranger than if you volunteered and did community service. |
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PeterDragon
Joined: 15 Feb 2007
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| Posted: Thu Oct 23, 2008 5:47 am Post subject: |
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Women are more impressed if you knock out a stranger than if you volunteered and did community service. |
I've done both! |
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sarbonn
Joined: 14 Oct 2008
Location: Michigan
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I don't think I've ever dated a woman that got impressed by any type of physical violence perpetuated by me. Even when I was here in the Army some years back.
I guess that cuts down the prospects of women here, cause I do agree that probably quite a few are that narrow-minded in being impressed, but I kind of like it that way. I was a lot less selective when I was younger. |
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Dharma_Blue
Joined: 11 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Thu Oct 23, 2008 5:54 am Post subject: |
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| PeterDragon wrote: |
| Dharma_Blue wrote: |
| For example??? |
Well to be fair, Korean women are often EXTREMELY possessive, getting paranoid/enraged if their "boo" is in the presence of anyone female who's not them. At the GEPIK training last year, one of my flatmates had a Korean girlfriend who called him several times a day to make sure he wasn't near any women. A number of my buddies who date or have dated Koreans report similar types of things, including screaming matches/tantrums over entirely phantom incidents of infidelity.
Then again, consider that these women have had to spend most of their lives dealing with KOREAN men, and they all grew up in and live and work in neighborhoods with a "happy ending" on every corner.
Do they really treat Korean men any differently though? I don't think most Korean women single out foreign men for any bad treatment they won't dish out on local men.
And yeah, just for the record, my colleague at the GEPIK training said he put up with that behavior because his girlfriend was "pretty enough to get away with it". But then, I have plenty of buddies back home in Wisconsin who are equally p**ssy-whipped. I think Western men in general are less dominant and sometimes even downright submissive to the women in their lives.
Lostandforgotten--- are you a foreign woman by any chance? Because we western men LOVE IT when foreign women pretend that they're somehow better than the locals we sometimes fall for. If you are a foreign woman, expound please. (And if you're not, I apologize for the snarkiness. Couldn't resist...) |
hmmm fair enough...God only knows how a guy could put up with that kind of clingy co-dependent behavior for any length of time and still keep their dignity intact...did you meet the girl in question..maybe she has a smokin' ass body and/or a Phd in pornology...Plus, I guess a few arguments its still better than getting your wang sliced off like that guy a few years ago right? |
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PeterDragon
Joined: 15 Feb 2007
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| Posted: Thu Oct 23, 2008 6:01 am Post subject: |
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| sarbonn wrote: |
I guess that cuts down the prospects of women here, cause I do agree that probably quite a few are that narrow-minded in being impressed, but I kind of like it that way. I was a lot less selective when I was younger. |
I've never admitted to my current girlfriend that I used to knock people out pretty much just for fun (Although she does know about my past charity work). If she ever finds out, I hope she's as mortified as I am when I dwell on that part of my past for too long. If she tells me it's "cool" I'll probably feel kinda disappointed in her.
Actually, I'm pretty sure most women who are impressed by brutality have a double standard--- it's barbaric if you did it in the past or do it when they're not around. But if you beat up some poor bastard under the guise of chivalry toward them, it's Spanish Fly. |
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cookmeandeatme
Joined: 20 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Thu Oct 23, 2008 6:31 am Post subject: |
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| i4NI wrote: |
nice guys finish last, it transcends culture.
Women are more impressed if you knock out a stranger than if you volunteered and did community service. |
Usually the kind of women who are impressed with unnecessary displays of machismo aren't the kind of women worth impressing.
In response to the OP's question, I think the co-dependent clingy behavior is actually a twisted way of expressing affection.
I'm Korean-American and from what I've observed of Korean culture, the women are more appreciated when they show their vulnerability and dependence on the male.
Romance in this culture also tends to be more dramatized. I'm always surprised by the grandiose gestures of affection shown in movies and music videos (i.e. the MV in which a guy donates his eyes to his gf after she stupidly spills acid on her own).
Bothering/smothering the person you're with seems to be a pretty standard way of showing that you care. A lot. |
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teachteach
Joined: 26 Mar 2008
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| The foreign guys don't have any self-respect. It's either the abuse or not getting an F-2 visa. Kind of reverse of a foreign girl putting up with abuse from her American husband to retain her visa status. |
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njp6
Joined: 01 Sep 2005
Location: Gangnam, South Korea
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| Posted: Thu Oct 23, 2008 6:55 am Post subject: |
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I've seen two of my foreign friends get dragged off to the cop shop after their drunken, Korean, ex-girlfriends turned up screaming and drunk on their doorstep. It's a thing to see, a foreigner in their pajamas trying to explain in broken Korean what is going on while the Korean ex drunkenly throws out accusations and profanities.
On the same note, I've seen the same in the states (just in the same language). |
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lostandforgotten
Joined: 19 Sep 2006
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| Posted: Thu Oct 23, 2008 7:27 am Post subject: |
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RACETRAITOR
Joined: 24 Oct 2005
Location: Seoul, South Korea
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| Posted: Thu Oct 23, 2008 7:40 am Post subject: |
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| My woman is way more violent than me. But hell, it's not like I'm scared of her (except when she's threatening to beat up female acquaintances/coworkers). The only times she's hit me have been when she was sleepwalking. |
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