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Stinky Llama



Joined: 12 Nov 2006

PostPosted: Tue Feb 20, 2007 6:15 am    Post subject: Stay or go? Reply with quote

Okay, I really don't want to be another "whiner" but...

For the past few weeks, I've been extremely unhappy about going into work. I sometimes spend the twenty minutes before going in trying to plot a way out of it (but I still always show up on time). I've only been at my job for two months but it feels like an eternity.

In all honesty, the school is good although they have a rather large load of work for the teachers (as I'm sure any other teachers at this particular hagwon corporation could vouch for). I just feel surprisingly and incredibly unhappy about teaching. Perhaps I'm not cut out for it?

The idea of slaving away for another ten months gives me a dreadful sinking feeling but I hate to be a quitter. I plan on staying in Korea regardless of the outcome (no problems with a visa since I have an F4).

What should I do? Embarassed

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oneofthesarahs



Joined: 05 Nov 2006
Location: Sacheon City

PostPosted: Tue Feb 20, 2007 6:24 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I would recommend trying to pinpoint exactly what is making you so unhappy. Then, once you figure it out, you can try to think of ways to improve that particular thing.

For example: maybe it's the material that you're teaching that you dislike. Can you supplement it with other things you enjoy?

Maybe you're feeling lonely at school. Perhaps you could extend an invitation to some of the other teachers to get a drink or something.

Etc., etc., etc.
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Stinky Llama



Joined: 12 Nov 2006

PostPosted: Tue Mar 27, 2007 7:02 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

oneofthesarahs wrote:
I would recommend trying to pinpoint exactly what is making you so unhappy. Then, once you figure it out, you can try to think of ways to improve that particular thing.


It's been over a month since the original post and it's been a roller coaster of being motivated to stick it out or giving notice. However, tonight has me leaning strongly toward not staying as I finally figured out what my problem is: my personality. I can be on the quiet, introverted side... I'd never be considered loud and outgoing.

I've generally been a good teacher for the younger elementary students these past few months but tonight, I found out that apparently I'm not entertaining enough for my middle schoolers (who don't speak anyway). My school strongly focuses on re-registration rates and this class isn't signing again. This could be grounds for me getting fired.

I'm not born to be a one-woman circus in front of a classroom full of zombies. As much as I'd like to, it's not in my nature. It's not in my nature to quit either but the pros seem to outweigh the cons of leaving.

So that is my ramble... please feel free to give any feedback. Thanks
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yingwenlaoshi



Joined: 12 Feb 2007
Location: ... location, location!

PostPosted: Tue Mar 27, 2007 7:26 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Don't do any extra work. Only teach your classes. Don't do reports. Don't give tests. Don't give homework. Just teach. You'll be happier and so will your students.

If they ask you where such and such report is, etc., just say, "I'll get right on that", but don't bother doing it.

Screw them.
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sock



Joined: 07 Oct 2006

PostPosted: Tue Mar 27, 2007 8:27 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

You have an F visa? Do whatever the hell you feel like doing, with no consequences whatsoever. And then come back here and tell us E-2 losers how it felt. Laughing

Usually I would say DON'T QUIT! Make them fire you, so you get the one month paid vacation. Cool But I'm not sure if that applies to the F visa folks too, so, I guess I can't give you that advice.

Very Happy This is your life. Fill it with happiness and live with no regrets. If you dread going to work every day, it's not healthy. And it's a sign that you should be somewhere else, doing something else.

Good luck.
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ChuckECheese



Joined: 20 Jul 2006

PostPosted: Tue Mar 27, 2007 9:24 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

You're the best judge for your situation. Do what ever you think will make your life happy.

1. Quit and get another job.
2. Suck it up and finish the contract.
3. Have a meeting with your boss and tell him/her the reasons why you're unhappy and demand solution to the problem.
4. Go back home.

Take your pick.
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ttompatz



Joined: 05 Sep 2005
Location: Kwangju, South Korea

PostPosted: Tue Mar 27, 2007 9:28 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Stinky Llama wrote:
oneofthesarahs wrote:
I would recommend trying to pinpoint exactly what is making you so unhappy. Then, once you figure it out, you can try to think of ways to improve that particular thing.


It's been over a month since the original post and it's been a roller coaster of being motivated to stick it out or giving notice. However, tonight has me leaning strongly toward not staying as I finally figured out what my problem is: my personality. I can be on the quiet, introverted side... I'd never be considered loud and outgoing.

I've generally been a good teacher for the younger elementary students these past few months but tonight, I found out that apparently I'm not entertaining enough for my middle schoolers (who don't speak anyway). My school strongly focuses on re-registration rates and this class isn't signing again. This could be grounds for me getting fired.

I'm not born to be a one-woman circus in front of a classroom full of zombies. As much as I'd like to, it's not in my nature. It's not in my nature to quit either but the pros seem to outweigh the cons of leaving.

So that is my ramble... please feel free to give any feedback. Thanks


You're on an F4 and have all the options that those on E2s do not have.

Don't like your job? Quit. Simple as that. There are no consequences for you. No requirement to leave the country. No repayment of flights and other expenses.

Move along.
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inverse_narcissus



Joined: 17 Oct 2006
Location: Masan / the pub

PostPosted: Tue Mar 27, 2007 9:32 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I wouldn't say it's among the teacher's responsibilities to be "a one-woman[/man] circus show".
Just be yourself. You may be quiet and reserved, but I'm sure you have a sense of humor. Let the students see that, and let them see your personality.

(Today, for example, I had a great class, the highlight of which was the students having a laugh at my expense. I let them do it, we all laughed together, and the teaching resumed. Soon as it did, they turned from silent "zombies" into enthusiastic learners. The chocolate rewards helped, too.)

Point is: let them see your personality, and your bright side. It may not be the end of your problems, but I think it'd be the beginning of the end.
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ED209



Joined: 17 Oct 2006

PostPosted: Tue Mar 27, 2007 9:33 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

F4 you're a god. Walk

But seriously are you sure it's the job and not just the isolation and a bit of culture shock. What have you said to your boss? Nothing. Then find a new boss who you can communicate with. Or book some holiday.
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gsxr750r



Joined: 29 Jan 2007

PostPosted: Tue Mar 27, 2007 10:36 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Give them notice and move along in a month or so (earlier, if they can get someone). Tell them how it just isn't working out, and that you want to do everything you can to help them find a teacher and make a smooth transition. You don't need the E2 release, but please try to be honest with them and help them find someone new.
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richardlang



Joined: 21 Jan 2007
Location: Gangnam

PostPosted: Tue Mar 27, 2007 11:47 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

ttompatz wrote:


You're on an F4 and have all the options that those on E2s do not have.

Don't like your job? Quit. Simple as that. There are no consequences for you. No requirement to leave the country. No repayment of flights and other expenses.


If a contract stipulating repayment of flight and expenses is signed and later broken, I don't know why one would not be legally obligated to repay them. I think one would, in fact.

Granted, this person doesn't face deportation, but I don't think she can shirk her responsibilities to the contract's terms.
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Stinky Llama



Joined: 12 Nov 2006

PostPosted: Thu Mar 29, 2007 8:40 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thanks for all the feedback. I gave my thirty days notice last night.

I am sticking to what is stated in the contract and yes, that does include paying back airfare. I'm fine with that. Now I just need to find another apartment within the next thirty days.

Once again, thanks for the input!
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DeLaRed



Joined: 16 Oct 2008

PostPosted: Tue Oct 28, 2008 7:39 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

ttompatz wrote:
Stinky Llama wrote:
oneofthesarahs wrote:
I would recommend trying to pinpoint exactly what is making you so unhappy. Then, once you figure it out, you can try to think of ways to improve that particular thing.


It's been over a month since the original post and it's been a roller coaster of being motivated to stick it out or giving notice. However, tonight has me leaning strongly toward not staying as I finally figured out what my problem is: my personality. I can be on the quiet, introverted side... I'd never be considered loud and outgoing.

I've generally been a good teacher for the younger elementary students these past few months but tonight, I found out that apparently I'm not entertaining enough for my middle schoolers (who don't speak anyway). My school strongly focuses on re-registration rates and this class isn't signing again. This could be grounds for me getting fired.

I'm not born to be a one-woman circus in front of a classroom full of zombies. As much as I'd like to, it's not in my nature. It's not in my nature to quit either but the pros seem to outweigh the cons of leaving.

So that is my ramble... please feel free to give any feedback. Thanks


You're on an F4 and have all the options that those on E2s do not have.

Don't like your job? Quit. Simple as that. There are no consequences for you. No requirement to leave the country. No repayment of flights and other expenses.

Move along.


you don`t have to repay the flight even if you quit within 6 months of the contract as an F visa holder?

Can anyone confirm that?


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hagwonnewbie



Joined: 09 Feb 2007
Location: Asia

PostPosted: Tue Oct 28, 2008 8:17 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

get paid. quit the next day. find a new job the day after that. make new friends.
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TheChickenLover



Joined: 17 Dec 2007
Location: The Chicken Coop

PostPosted: Tue Oct 28, 2008 8:34 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I had similar feelings with my last high school that I worked at. I literally hated working there & could not wait to get out.

They made an ultimatum & I quit on the spot, packed up my things and left less than 1 hour later.

Fast-forward 8 months later I'm at a new PS and absolutely love it here. The students are great and have a great time in class, I can do real work that is both enjoyable and challenging and the people are great (on the most part).

Quitting was the best thing I ever did!

Chicken
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