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[Ekaia]

What I've noticed here in Korea is that the average and hideous-looking guy with fast and witty lines ends up scoring big time with the ladies. This goes for Koreans as well as foreigners.
Ugly-looking people know they are ugly and they come to accept it and learn how to live with it.


The "good-looking" guy on the other hand needs constant reassurance he's God's gift to women and ends up trying too hard to be funny and impress the ladies. This type of fellow occasionally gets the young, insecure, plastic surgery princess with the brains of a 2-year-old goat, but never seems to impress the real and good girls. These dudes are really at a loss as to how to talk to the ladies. They lie, exaggerate, use lame slapstick humor and often bitch and complain about life in Korea when around girls.

Put an ugly-looking but funny guy and a stud in the same room with 5 girls, and the hunk would end up be owned by the ugly one who wouldn't even be needing a drop of alcohol.

[RACETRAITOR]

Maybe this is a function of age/maturity rather than looks.

[IncognitoHFX]

You couldn't generalize your way out of a paper bag.

[Adventurer]

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[clyde]

I agree with this statement. I used to weigh 220 pounds and then over a year dropped almost 70 of it. I actually got fewer women believe it or not. The reason was that I had to put effort into making myself charming because I would have never scored while I was fat. When I got slim once in a while girls came to me and I got spoiled and thought the world owed me a favour. So yes smoothness and wit go along way with women.

[victorology]

This makes it to be some sort of either or proposition. I actually think confidence is the biggest key.

[Louie]

Its all in how a person packages themselves- if a person is fugly yet witty, yeah he will do well. Yet, even if he is handsome and witty, it is good too.
However, the handsome ones have the "Podum Dunggi" and "Chaebi" tags put on them because they will always been seen as "playboys" and such because people will always think that women will always chase them.

Yet, I think that if a person is not handsome and has a good job, they can land the best women- which is why you see alot of gross old businessmen going out with the hottest girls.

[Perceptioncheck]

How ugly are we talking here?

To me, there's a big difference between ugly and average.

I've known some pretty "hideous" guys with great lines and fantastic wit who had heaps of beautiful women. . .as friends. They just couldn't go the distance.

[victorology]

[Freakstar]

I started to respond to the OP...but then just got frustrated. His post is filled with too many bad generalizations to even try to refute.

[pkang0202]

I hate the guy that always has a story to top yours.

I'll tell a funny story, and THAT guy has got to top yours with something crazier.

Usually those people are pathological liars.


Don't you hate that guy too?

[Louie]

I have an addition to the topic:


In addition to the wit and clever lines- how much arrogance should a show during "the pick-up"?

From what I have seen, sometimes casual conversation seems better than concentrated conversation when talking to the fairer sex and also showing that you are not overly interested in talking to them, it gives them the impression that they are not "the only" beauties on your list. It makes them work hard to gain YOUR attention, not vice versa, since it shows a sense of desperation on your part.

Also, what I seen is that it is better to burst their "friendship" bubble- it is the concept where a woman is surrounded male friends, this gives her a sense of security in that she is not threatened by the prospect of being seen as more than a friend by her male friends......So, I guess it would be safe to say that if she says she only wants to be friends with you- just tell her that its impossible for men and women to be friends and walk away- if she's interested in you, she'll go to you.

I think having wit and being clever is not enough- there has to be alot more to it than that..........

[Perceptioncheck]

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