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[Undercover]

I have not dated for a long time. I just can't really meet anyone. Not that I am really looking here. I am not fond of Korea girls and I don't know very much Korean.

But I keep in touch with my ex-girlfriend from time to time from the Philippines. I love her very much, if only as a friend. She is great. She is very personable and I get along with her probably better than I have ever gotten along with anyone before. And she loves me to death. But she is not attractive. Not that I am that particular about appearances. I am not. I am quite flexible about how someone looks. In most cases, looks at not that important to me. But she is the exception. She has a very broad nose and large forehead. It doesn't bother me most times, but when I am with her for an extended period of time it gets to me. I start to resent her and do petty and mean things to her. And so I know that I just cannot marry her. I love her more than I have ever loved anyone but I just could not wake up to her everyday for the rest of my life. And I am not in love with her, though I have never been in love with anyone so...

I know that sounds horrible, but it is the plain truth. I wish it were different. But I am getting older and I am starting to get worried. Maybe there will never be anyone else.

Any advice?

[sojourner1]

OP, I hear you. These are not the days where you meet someone while you're young, marry her, and live happily ever after until you're 80 or 90 like it was for the old folks who grew up back in the early to mid 20th century.

These days, it's look out for your own interests time, even if you are with someone. Don't ever turn your money over to a woman. If she insists, then it's not right, because she intends to get over on you eventually and you'll be flat broke. It's so much more money focused today more so than it was back in our grandparents day.

[Big_Bird]

[Underwaterbob]

[DrOctagon]

I feel for you OP. I met this girl that I clicked with so much on a personal level. The only thing that kept me from dating her was her appearance. She was kinda short and stumpy, and she had short hair which I don't really care for. And the real turn off was when we kissed (we were really drunk after a Cub's game). It felt like I was kissing a slimy toad or something. Her tounge was fat, short, and slimy. I can't explain it.

And then I meet girls that are hot but we have nothing in common. It seems like I'm destined to be alone because I can never find the "complete package." Not that being 'alone' scares me; I actually enjoy my freedom and solitude. But I feel if I found the right girl I wouldn't mind having her around all the time. I have yet to find that girl.

[cruisemonkey]

Yes, but truthful.

[aboxofchocolates]

If you don't love her in that way then don't debase your relationship by trying to make it something it's not. If you love a friend as a friend don't use them just so you don't end up alone and bitter. Or not, I'm not an expert.

[Koveras]

You've been brainwashed by moralists into believing that outer beauty should not be important. Of course it is, and should be. Don't feel bad if you value it.

[Jandar]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W37DlG1i61s&feature=related

[dharma bum]

[Faunaki]

When I first met my husband I didn't find him attractive. Well a little but not so much. In fact I didn't think I could marry him because of it. But my friends told me that he was ok and that I was being stupid.

Now I think he's attractive. It's one of those things when you've been around someone for a long time and they just get more and more attractive.

So maybe think about it more but I am glad that you are being honest with yourself about the situation.

[jajdude]

[dharma bum]

[jajdude]

[mnhnhyouh]