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[HighTreason]

So, I have been living in this country for quite some time now, and the somehow I have not managed to have a relationship with a Korean girl that has lasted more than a week. I have friends who have Korean girlfriends and who have been here a lot shorter time than me, so I know it's possible. Obviously, I am just missing something.

My current girlfriend is shaping up the same way, and I want to do what I can to save it. We met one night at the bar where she works. We talked a lot because there weren't many people there. She seemed interested, but I was a little apathetic about getting into a relationship with another Korean girl because of my past experiences

I saw her again there a couple days later (this is a bar I regularly go to) and we ended up leaving together. She went back to my apartment. We had sex and talked all night.

The next night, she went back to my apartment and we talked and made out. She told me that she had told all her friends about her new boyfriend (me) but they didn't understand why she was dating a foreigner.

I went to the bar every night that week and we had a great time talking and hanging out when she wasn't busy.

That was last week.

This week, she was out of town for two days so i didn't see her. The other days, she has refused to come over to my place and when I ask about maybe tomorrow, she says no to that too. She is still friendly and flirty although not quite as flirty as before. She says she likes me but sometimes suffixes that with "but I don't know" She won't tell me what she "doesn't know" though. I wish she would tell me if she is having reservations so we can discuss them.

I turned down a job in an area that I would prefer to move to just so I could stay with her and I told her I was doing this and to tell me if she didn't want t conitnue the relationship. She tells me that she still likes me.

Every time I suggest hanging out (Everland, Movie, etc) she always says either flat out "no" or just "I don't know"

I realize that every person is their own person, but this one week then losing interest thing has happened time and time again with Korean girls. What am I missing??

[esetters21]

It could be a multitude of things. Some that come to mind: her friends are influencing her, you are being over-bearing, etc...

[Xuanzang]

Dump her. Move on. I think it was probably peer pressure from her friends and she`s not mentally tough or mature enough to make her own decisions.

[RACETRAITOR]

I think part of the problem is there is no dating culture.

[dingo_man]

its def the friends thats why shes saying "i dont know" to you. You even mentioned it in your post OP.

[travelingfool]

Check out this website and definitely buy the book and CDs. It was the best 100 bucks I have ever spent.

http://www.doclove.com/

He talks about womens' "interest level" and what you can do to keep it high or make it drop. This book and CD will save you from heartbreak and keep you out of divorce court. You will learn to spot warning signs and how to weed out the users and flakes.

One thing I forgot to mention........if her friends are the jealous types or are putting doubts into her head, you might as well just ignore her completely and move on because you will always lose in such a scenario. I learned that the hard way many times. The other thing is that most Korean girls aren't going to level with you. I am telling you guys, always have a big thick black book and don't get caught up with just one woman until you are sure she is the "one". Always keep your options open.

[suki]

too intense too much too committed too fast = scarey
plus she's a bar girl - she meets new guys all the time.

[HighTreason]

The more I think about it the more I just have to conclude that this one has ended. I thought this one would last a little longer, especially considering I was her first sex partner. I guess the signs are just too strong that this is the end, though.

It's really too bad. She was a cool girl. I'm going to the bar tonight because, well, that's what I do almost every Friday night and my friends are there, but I think I'll just not talk to her. There is no use dragging this out.

<sigh>

[HighTreason]

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[SHANE02]

Mind games are normal here. Avoid the bar. Move on. There are so many fish in the sea here.

[esetters21]

[yeoja]

[Xuanzang]

[Straphanger]