Korean Job Discussion Forums

[xxcanonxx]

I recently moved in with my korean girlfriend and I helped put down the deposit on an apartment. The place is in her name.

Thigns didn't work out and when I tried to break up, she said she was going to keep my part of the deposit as "payment" for the time she wasted in our relationship.

I have an electronic record of that money being deposited into her account, and the money is labeled as "loan".

Can she really take my money just like that?

[aboxofchocolates]

That blows, dude. I don't have any experience in this department, but maybe a phone call from a lawyer would set her straight? I've been told to be leery of cops myself, but worse comes to worse, don't let this go unreported. Then at least there will be a record of her craziness. Some dude might thank you for that in the future.

[Css]

How much was the deposit?

Good luck getting that back..

[laogaiguk]

Try to embarrass her somehow. To her family or friends. She will try to save face. I think the law is on your side with the "loan" transfer, but I wouldn't even know how to start. Was it a lot?

[Seoul'n'Corea]

[Mr-Dokdo]

[maingman]

.. yes why Dude - why is this word used !??

thanks a lot

[Css]

[Mr-Dokdo]

[victorology]

I'm sorry to hear about your situation.

I am a bit curious. How do you mark a transaction as "loan?"

I don't have any advice to give you on whether you will be able to get your money back or not. I do know that foreigners can sign contracts for a home. If she insists on having it in her name, I'm sure you could get the real estate agent to state in the contract that you are due a certain amount of the deposit. That way, you could get the real estate agent involved. If that didn't work, you could take the contract to your local gu office.

[aboxofchocolates]

[Louie]

If you have an ARC, why would you put your apartment in her name in the first place?
With an ARC, you have the right to get your own apartment- hence use your own money to pay for it.
Even in the US, people know you never put your girl's name on the lease...you are asking for trouble.
The best thing you should've done was get the apartment in your name, using your own deposit. Thus if things go south, you don't lose anything, except the furniture she brought with her into the apartment.



Some men just don't think.....

[xxcanonxx]

When we decided to move in together, I still had my apartment with a lease. Her apartment lease had just expired. So, she went ahead and found a new bigger apartment first and moved there. I couldn't move there until after I found someone to take over my old place.

After I moved out, I gave her half the deposit for the new apartment.

So, when I brought up that I was thinking about breaking up, she pulled the "I'm keeping the money" card. When I told her that she couldn't do that, because on the wire transfer, when it asks you to write a description of the transaction, I put loan and that I'd get my money.

She then said she'd call the police and tell them I was trespassing in her room. All of my possessions are in that room, and if she had called the police, I would be thrown out on my butt with no where to go.

I don't know what I can do. Without that deposit, I can't find a new place to live.

Its like I'm an indentured servant.

[Mr-Dokdo]

[Mr-Dokdo]