Korean Job Discussion Forums

michaelambling · Joined: 31 Dec 2008 Location: Paradise

I'm not going to Korea to sleep with the local women, but I find this topic constantly on this board and on the Galbijim forums, and I'm curious. Some say Korean women will hesitate to date white men because it's shameful, and others say many are attracted to foreigners. So which is it? Or are things different in Seoul than elsewhere?

bundangbabo · Joined: 01 Jun 2008

This country at this moment in time is in the upheaval of massive social and economic change. It is probably getting easier and easier and women seem to be getting braver about expressing their interest in a foreign man.

Mind you, you need to be decent looking and have decent taste in clothes because it is not and never will be the Philippines or Thailand. Knowing some Korean is a big help also.

newton kabiddles · Joined: 31 Mar 2007

hellofaniceguy · Joined: 10 Jan 2003 Location: On your computer screen!

It's easy in any country!
And it's hard in any country!
It all depends on if you both click!
It has absolutely nothing to do about korean women being easy or hard.
Women are women the same all over...same with men. It's about chemistry!
If you are a dork...you'll meet a dork.
Geek meets geek!
Handsome meets beautiful!
And many times geek/dork meets a beauty!
You got to have personality! Period!

sojourner1 · Posted: Mon Jan 05, 2009 1:43 am Post subject:

Hellofaniceguy is right. It's easy and then it's hard. Like the 'vette there dude.

There are also many definitions of what a girlfriend is. It can be easy in that you go pay for this service, you actually meet a nice woman for a LTR, or your just hanging out with a woman for a short time to see if anything pans out.

In some countries, you can tell who to talk to, because they give you the eye and smile, but in Korea, I've never had a woman give a cue that she liked me and I should ask her out. This is probably because Korea is a very different culture and really not a bit westernized in social human behaviors and I don't understand how to pick up on Korean, "nunchi." Nunchi is about listening to what they're not saying through body language and having a base understanding of Korean culture out of being Korean or many years of experience. All that Western looking sparkle on the surface surrounds an ancient core of North Asian culture carrying a set of values strange and foreign to us. Smiling and free open talking seem to not be a part of their equation.

The Korean women I've met who are married to foreign guys are often well traveled, have lived outside of Korea, smart, educated, speak English, can smile, and have a sense of humor. I'm still amiss as to how it happens, but I guess it's simply an accident you can't force upon yourself as anywhere else in the world when it comes to a true LTR.

Of course, girlfriend is often referred to as a prostitute a man is with for a short period, but this is not my ideal definition of girlfriend. I understand this is easily available, but haven't researched it. In Thailand, it's blatantly possible as they accost you in public and it requires no research to find out, but Koreans are much much more subtle than the South Asian people who tend to be more entrepreneurial. In South Asian countries, women will be sure to hit on you or at least clearly indicate they like you and try to get to know you while you eat and drink even if you're just a tourist not looking for women.

DCJames · Joined: 27 Jul 2006

It's a slice of cake.

Get over here and get it!

Pooty · Joined: 15 Jun 2008 Location: Ela stin agalia mou

Dime a dozen! They'll even pay your way! As long as you help them with their English...

Tiger Beer · Joined: 07 Feb 2003

esetters21 · Joined: 30 Apr 2006 Location: Seoul

No offense Op, but why ask the question if you are not interested in the prospects?

People tend to have different interpretations of what gfs are like TB said.

Bucheonguy · Joined: 23 Oct 2008 Location: Bucheon

Girlfriend: hard to keep.

Sex: so very, very easy it feels like a crime.

I know that comment just adds fuel to those groups that spy on us but really, they give it away here like it's their last chance before the world explodes... not that I'm complaining... I also have a girlfriend now and am simply reflecting on my first few months here.

Ukon · Joined: 29 Jan 2008

If you go to the right places and have charm...yes, it's easier than back home...You also have to be outgoing or at least have some Korean friends to introduce you to some. They don't come running at you on the street excited to get a look at the foreign guy despite the stereotype....also, many women who can't speak a lick of English are quite hesitant and shy about trying to do so...While some of these women are willing to sleep with you, the majority won't...even if they like in my limited experience.

Overall, if your loser back home, you'll be a loser here...although if you hang out at tin pan long enough...something will come your way.

For instance, I had a dry spell for the longest time becuase I wasn't going to clubs for a month or two...just hanging out or went occasionally to a club and it was a slow night...needless to say I didn't meet anyone in that time period.

Also there isn't really a bar pickup scene....So if clubs aren't your thing, you may be missing out on alot of action. Online holds alot of promise and there is always alot of language exchanges....

asylum seeker · Joined: 22 Jul 2007 Location: On your computer screen.

Don't take everything you read here on Dave's ESL at face value. I think there might be an inverse proportion between the amount of bragging people do online and how much they actually get.
This ain't Thailand or the Philippines. Girls aren't going to go for you just because you're a westerner and there are plenty of Korean guys who earn more than you. I've known several guys here who have been a year or more here and haven't got any.
Basically if you're good looking or got game you'll be able to pick up here. If not, then you'll do about as well as you do in your home country, which means you'll have to do some work if you want to get some.

jkelly80 · Joined: 13 Jun 2007 Location: you boys like mexico?

If you want a honest to god GF it's attainable. There's plenty of girls who have dated foreigners or lived abroad and can't go back. From what I hear, it's not the phallus, it's simply the manners.

Temporary · Joined: 13 Jan 2008

Where the hell some of you guys hangout. You sound like a bunch of Casanovas, or do you hang out hooker hill.

I am not much of a Bar goer I don't drink or smoke, I am into activities. Its been a desert for me. Nothing so far. To be honest with you I don't care anymore.

Beeyee · Joined: 29 May 2007

The problem is it is too easy.

I often here people suggest that going to bars with Korean friends is a sure fire way to get laid but I have found exactly the opposite. Going to a primarily Korean bar alone has always proven to be very fruitful for me.