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azzwell



Joined: 15 Jan 2003
Location: where the girls from Super Junior cannot find me

PostPosted: Mon Jan 19, 2004 12:17 pm    Post subject: ettiquete advice Reply with quote

Will be arriving in Korea soon and was looking for some advice on manners ect. What are some things I should do on meeting my boss for the first time that will impress him/her? Should I bring a gift? If so, what should I bring? What are some good habits to learn/get out of?
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kiwiboy_nz_99



Joined: 05 Jul 2003
Location: ...Enlightenment...

PostPosted: Mon Jan 19, 2004 12:29 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

A gift on your first day would be more than required, but would definitely blow your boss away and get you on a good footing. If it's a guy I'd guess whisky would do the trick. I'm not a great one for unique gift ideas.

Other than that, foreigners are given leeway about manners, but if you do some stuff you'll impress. You'll learn quick that there are no shoes inside, and you don't fill your own glass when you're drinking alcohol. When someone is pouring your glass you hold it with both hands. When you give something to a superior you place your free hand on your forearm ( or up as high as your armpit to show even more respect ). You'll need a Korean to walk you through the subtleties of what I have just outlined. You don't need to do this all the time, just in certain situations. Oh, and if someone invites you out for dinner they will pay, let them, if you insist on paying some they will lose face. It's polite to offer, but they will resist, and you should let them win. Then next time you pay if you are equals, or if they are clearly senior they will pay every time. Again you'll need a Korean to walk you through the whole senior/junior thing which is quite elaborate.
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peppermint



Joined: 13 May 2003
Location: traversing the minefields of caddishness.

PostPosted: Mon Jan 19, 2004 3:59 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

If you're a woman, don't cross your legs at the knee- it's very rude. Don't smoke unless an older person does first. . use the formal forms of the language. . there's a million little things, but we aren't really expected to follow all of them
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waterbaby



Joined: 01 Feb 2003
Location: Baking Gord a Cheescake pie

PostPosted: Mon Jan 19, 2004 4:23 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Have a look at these threads from my FAQs about bringing a gift.

Should I Bring a Gift?

1. Bring a Gift for Your Boss or Potential Korean Friends
2. What Kind of Gift?
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schwa



Joined: 18 Jan 2003
Location: Yap

PostPosted: Mon Jan 19, 2004 4:27 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Dont contradict, criticize, or show anger toward a boss or senior in the presence of others.

There could be exceptions if your director turns out to be subhuman, but in general practice thats the one lapse that will not be easily forgotten or forgiven.
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kangnamdragon



Joined: 17 Jan 2003
Location: Kangnam, Seoul, Korea

PostPosted: Mon Jan 19, 2004 5:36 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

If you bring alcohol, buy it duty free at the airport. Remember to shake with two hands and bow first.
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Son Deureo!



Joined: 30 Apr 2003

PostPosted: Mon Jan 19, 2004 5:52 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

kangnamdragon wrote:
Remember to shake with two hands and bow first.


I'm not sure if I agree with suggesting that he bow, especially for someone who's coming to Korea for the first time. I tried bowing when I first came and all it brought was embarassed laughter. I'm sure I wasn't doing it properly and making a fool out of myself, especially since no one really expects Westerners to bow.

I bow occasionally now, but it's much more subtle, it's almost a reflex, and no one laughs anymore. But that's because I've been watching the way Koreans do it for a long time.

However, shaking hands, and giving and accepting gifts to and from older people with both hands usually goes over well.
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kangnamdragon



Joined: 17 Jan 2003
Location: Kangnam, Seoul, Korea

PostPosted: Mon Jan 19, 2004 5:56 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Remember, laughter here does not always imply one is doing something amusing. It is also a sign of approval and pleasant surprise.
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Moldy Rutabaga



Joined: 01 Jul 2003
Location: Ansan, Korea

PostPosted: Tue Jan 20, 2004 1:41 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Koreans also often laugh when they are embarrased. When I go to a restaurant with newcomers and the waiter screws up the order (which is usually the case) they will laugh. The newcomer often thinks the waiter is making fun of him.

Ken:>
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