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[canoe_jesuit]

I need your valued opinion....

A distant "friend" tells me to come to visit her in Vermont. She says "come as long as you want". She says "we'll go up to Canada".
I call her back a week later and express interest in the Canada trip, but she pulls it and says she's only willing to go to Northern Vermont (after I got my hopes high up - 8 years since I've been to Canada))
So I call her again, a few weeks later to confirm a trip for 3 weeks which cost $800 for the plane ticket, NON-REFUNDABLE. No problem
I buy the ticket and call her to give her the details.
1 day and a half later she emails me and says "i totally forgot, my best friend is coming during that time, you can only come for 12 days!
Keep in mind, 12 days is not worth flying to USA because of the high cost.
So, I had to change the schedule which cost $150 ($950 for 12 days really isn't worth it)
So, I got upset and said that the story is kind of hard to believe and it was a little rude to change like that. She should consider helping me to pay for the rebook $150 (i was angry)
In the end, I was rather insulted by the bad lie, on top of the lack of respect.
I decided to do my own thing and cancel my visit with her, although I cannot cancel my ticket
In the end she emails me and says "Frankly, you seem like you have anger issues and I didn't want you in my house from the start".

What's your opinion of this? On basic logical grounds, wouldn't she not owe me the price of the ticket?? Even though I'm not trying to collect. Just on basic grounds of common logic.

My feeling is she would lose in small claims court.

[victorology]

You may have a flaky friend but I don't think she would owe you money for your ticket. You could have still stayed for 12 days at her place and spent the other 9 somewhere else. I don't think your claim would stand up in court, either.

With that said, I hope you have a good trip anyway.

[canoe_jesuit]

i understand. I bought the ticket to see her and when she started changing dates and canceling trip plans, I felt I had to just not bother at all out of respect for myself. The logical question is what would she have done next?? And her end message says she invited me but never wanted me to come. Never would have gone if she didn't invite me.

no grounds?

[Bigfeet]

She flaked out on you. Knowing where you were flying in from, she should have made triple sure that she was available before saying so. As for visiting Canada, I don't know if they require passports from Americans yet but they keep talking about it.

[michaelambling]

She's a flake and you should cut her off--she's not really behaving like a friend, especially if she knows how far away you are and how hard it is to get to Vermont. I don't think she's legally obligated to pay for the ticket, but common decency dictates that she should offer and, ethically speaking, she should pay for it.

It sounds like she's being a bitch on purpose--maybe trying to get you out of her life. Is your relationship with her complicated or checkered? Is she particularly young/spoiled/self-absorbed? She sounds like a bratty teenage girl, to be honest.

Just some thoughts...

[canoe_jesuit]

she's much older than I am. I'm almost 40. I keep in contact with her because she lives alone and has few friends. She manages her ex-boyfriend's house for free because she still loves him.... And he has nothing to do with her except reap free managerial services from her.Oh wait, Springer time!

[RACETRAITOR]

Why would you fly halfway around the world for a "distant 'friend?'"

Is it just a sure thing sex-wise? There are most likely easier ways to get laid without travelling so far and spending so much money.

[canoe_jesuit]

lol.. it does seem like some kind of romp.. but she is just a friend. I referred to her as a "distant" friend because I'm pissed at her. I know her well.

[RACETRAITOR]

[djsmnc]

If your ticket is non refundable, why not just find places to go and get a rental car? Hotel and bar hop along the way. You may end up having a string of women along the trip and many stories to tell when you go home!

[canoe_jesuit]

hi,

yes, i decided to go to eastern canada for the trip. But I could have bought a ticket to hawaii had my "friend" not jacked me