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djvink
Joined: 24 May 2007
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 Posted: Mon Jan 19, 2009 2:50 am Post subject: Private lessons with the other sex? Hell No! |
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So I got a possible private lesson while riding the subway today. Frankly, I could use the extra cash and she just wants to improve her conversation so it would be easy as hell.
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I live with my girlfriend and she has big issues with me teaching women. I can not seem to reason with her about the issue and don't really want to do it if its going to cause problems. However, if she can't seem to trust me to go out, make some cash doing what it is I do I am afraid this is a problem that is bound to come up later on in our relationship (trust issues, insecurities, etc.)
I'm sure others have had experience in this. Please share. |
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crusher_of_heads
Joined: 23 Feb 2007
Location: kimbop and kimchi for kimberly!!!!
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| Posted: Mon Jan 19, 2009 2:52 am Post subject: |
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I'll be glad to share.
You won't be making any money doing private lessons.
Private lessons are illegal.
You are welcome. |
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Bigfeet
Joined: 29 May 2008
Location: Grrrrr.....
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| Posted: Mon Jan 19, 2009 2:57 am Post subject: |
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You may as well give it up if your gf is Korean. They seem to get as jealous as hell.  |
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tzechuk
Joined: 20 Dec 2004
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| Posted: Mon Jan 19, 2009 4:54 am Post subject: |
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| Bigfeet wrote: |
| You may as well give it up if your gf is Korean. They seem to get as jealous as hell. |
While not trying to generalise, I think ALL women, to a degree, get jealous. It's not just a Korean girl thing. |
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Been There, Taught That
Joined: 10 Apr 2007
Location: Mungyeong: not a village, not yet a metroplex.
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| Posted: Mon Jan 19, 2009 5:30 am Post subject: |
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| tzechuk wrote: |
| Bigfeet wrote: |
| You may as well give it up if your gf is Korean. They seem to get as jealous as hell. |
While not trying to generalise, I think ALL women, to a degree, get jealous. It's not just a Korean girl thing. |
Why not expand this all the way? Jealousy is a human condition, and all people get that way. It's kind of a good sign in a relationship, though, isn't it? A kind of caring. Would you want a mate who says 'okay, whatever' whenever you propose to deal with the opposite sex? As long as a guy (or girl) stays inbounds in the relationship, it never will cause a big issue. You have to get your clients together with your significant other and let a friendly triangle develop. Communication is the key to everything. Gonna be a teacher, gotta know that one. |
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GreenlightmeansGO
Joined: 11 Dec 2006
Location: Daegu
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| Posted: Mon Jan 19, 2009 5:40 am Post subject: |
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| Dude, just ask your school to try sort you out some extra classes or something. You don't want to have the endless questions from the girlfriend. Not fun. |
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djvink
Joined: 24 May 2007
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| Posted: Mon Jan 19, 2009 5:50 am Post subject: |
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For me it was the trust, and although jealousy is healthy, too much of it can be bad.
Got an interesting reply via PM and it seems its common knowledge that private lessons with the opposite sex often (lets say 1/3 to 1/2 of the time) lead into a relationship. Now, for those of you out there...can we back up such an estimate: I mean have you had private lessons turn into something more??? |
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5600
Joined: 07 Apr 2008
Location: At an undisclosed FEMA camp.
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| Posted: Mon Jan 19, 2009 6:10 am Post subject: |
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| One turned into a fling. But we always had to "do it" in her car. She hated hotels and didn't want to go to my house and well...we couldn't go to hers either if you get my drift. |
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NightSky
Joined: 19 Apr 2005
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| Posted: Mon Jan 19, 2009 6:20 am Post subject: |
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| Been There, Taught That wrote: |
| Would you want a mate who says 'okay, whatever' whenever you propose to deal with the opposite sex? |
then there's this guy...
http://www.titus2.com/corners/10-06-d.htm
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Imagine for a minute that your wife came to you with a special request. "Honey, I know this may sound a little funny to you, but you will never guess who called me today! Jack Howard. You know, he was the one I told you about who was the boy next door when I was growing up. I couldn't believe it! It has been so many years since I saw him, and just the other day I was wondering whatever happened to him. We were neighbors for ten years; he was like a brother to me. There were no other playmates around us so we were best friends and did everything together. We had such great times. Well, he is going to be coming back to town once a year for a conference of some sort, and he wondered if I might be able to spend some time with him � for memory's sake. He said we could go out for a nice dinner, and then he would bring me home before it got late. What do you think? I can hardly believe it. I'm so glad you know I love you and aren't jealous in any way. I told him it would be OK as I was sure that you wouldn't mind. It is so wonderful to be married to you. I feel such freedom in our marriage, and I knew it would be fine with you."
Just because I'm confident of her love, this does not mean that I want her spending time alone with another man. (Please don't e-mail me and say you would have no problem with your wife spending time with another man in the above situation. It isn't that I don't trust her, but I prize my relationship so highly that I don't want to take any chances. Also, one would have to consider the issue of the appearance of evil for a wife to be seen having dinner with another man.) It would not matter how innocent a wife's intentions could be in having dinner--it does not change the fact that we would be spending time with "another." |
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KOREAN_MAN
Joined: 01 Oct 2006
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| Posted: Mon Jan 19, 2009 7:27 am Post subject: |
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She's willing to go out with a western man but she's not willing to accept his way of life. Ha, what a surprise. Having said that, it's considered the norm in Korea to ask your b/f or g/f to not interact with the opposite sex as much as possible. That means YOU can also play "insecure." Tell her to get rid of all phone numbers of her male friends. (But the odds are she probably would change their numbers with female-sounding names.)
If I were you, I would demand my g/f to pay more and more often during dates. Tell her you don't have enough money thanks to her insecurity. |
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Kuros
Joined: 27 Apr 2004
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| Posted: Mon Jan 19, 2009 12:38 pm Post subject: |
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| Just don't teach women 1 on 1. Try to pair women up, and give them a significant discount when they do so. |
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D.D.
Joined: 29 May 2008
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| Posted: Mon Jan 19, 2009 1:33 pm Post subject: |
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| Kuros wrote: |
| Just don't teach women 1 on 1. Try to pair women up, and give them a significant discount when they do so. |
sounds fun. I am sure two girls will make the g/f more relaxed about it. |
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Bigfeet
Joined: 29 May 2008
Location: Grrrrr.....
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| Posted: Mon Jan 19, 2009 1:35 pm Post subject: |
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| Kuros wrote: |
| Just don't teach women 1 on 1. Try to pair women up, and give them a significant discount when they do so. |
Good thinking. A threesome! May work out even better!  |
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rocketdolphin
Joined: 28 Oct 2007
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| Posted: Mon Jan 19, 2009 4:06 pm Post subject: Re: Private lessons with the other sex? Hell No! |
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| Why can't you just bring your gf with you? |
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mole
Joined: 06 Feb 2003
Location: Act III
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| Posted: Mon Jan 19, 2009 4:30 pm Post subject: |
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Just don't forget, you're in charge.
You've got the Holy Grail being sought.
Depends on the drama you're willing to put up with, even stir up or instigate.
Once the student realizes you are attached, she will become more covertly mercenary in her approach.
As long as the g/f believes you're out breadwinning and bringin' home the bacon, and she's getting her share,
she won't bat an eye about you being "busy" 12~14+ hours a day.
Be organized and leave no loose ends to be discovered or suspicious about. |
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