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SOOHWA101
Joined: 04 Mar 2006 Location: Makin moves...trying to find 24pyung
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Posted: Mon Feb 02, 2009 12:44 am Post subject: Ever get that eerie feeling? |
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The one where you feel as though your counterparts are purposely ignoring you and throw sideways glances at you. Perhaps it's just paranoia, or perhaps it's one of those situations where something bad is going to happen. This inability to fully communicate with those around me is starting to waer on me, a lot!
I'm usually good at keeping the pulse of my surrounding and reading people, but here it seems like a crapshoot. Maybe if I could fully communicate with those around me, had another foreign teacher to bounce things off of, or even, God-forbid, got a little feedback and constructive critisism from my superiors...then I would feel a bit more comfortable with my footing.
Dunno, just feels like I am going to have one of those ridiculous conversations with the boss here pretty soon; the one where we run circles around the "real" issues at hand. |
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oldtactics

Joined: 18 Oct 2008
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Posted: Mon Feb 02, 2009 6:15 am Post subject: |
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| Welcome to the daily life of an immigrant. |
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John_ESL_White
Joined: 12 Nov 2008
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Posted: Mon Feb 02, 2009 8:40 am Post subject: |
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culture shock. just be friendly and don't let the lack of communication get to you. Keep your mind focused on doing the job, being friendly (unless you are being mistreated) and making sure you are getting paid correctly. Anything else is not worth worrying about.
I have a K teacher who refuses to acknowledge me, at all. Good for me. One less person to miscommunicate with.
Make lots of friends OUTSIDE of work. It'll get better. |
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SOOHWA101
Joined: 04 Mar 2006 Location: Makin moves...trying to find 24pyung
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Posted: Mon Feb 02, 2009 3:00 pm Post subject: |
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Thanks. I think the winter schedule is what's doing me in. Thirteen hours a day is not what I signed on for, but yes, I am being paid overtime. Guess I will just keep my head down and count my money when it's over.
I woke up the other morning and had this moment of clarity..."WTF am I doing here?" I think the signs are getting stronger, but damned if I don't have another 7 months to go on this contract. |
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Jammer113
Joined: 13 Oct 2008
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Posted: Mon Feb 02, 2009 3:29 pm Post subject: |
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I had this feeling a number of months ago. Half-speaking Korean made it worse. I always thought I heard people talking about me. I found as I became better in Korean that they usually weren't talking about me, and usually weren't even saying the words I thought they were, such as "waygukin" or "wonomin".
That said, they might be staring at you sideways. They might be really nervous sitting next to someone they should be able to talk to, but can't. They'd be blaming themselves in that situation.
Or they could just hate you
"WTF am I doing here?" is a good question to answer throughout all stages of your life. Make it both focused as well as broad. WTF are you sitting at a computer when you could be out meeting awesome people? |
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jinks

Joined: 27 Oct 2004 Location: Formerly: Lower North Island
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Posted: Mon Feb 02, 2009 3:46 pm Post subject: |
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| Maybe they're all planning a huge surprise birthday party for you, or something. |
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SOOHWA101
Joined: 04 Mar 2006 Location: Makin moves...trying to find 24pyung
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Posted: Mon Feb 02, 2009 4:00 pm Post subject: |
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| jinks wrote: |
| Maybe they're all planning a huge surprise birthday party for you, or something. |
That "would" have been cool, but that time has come and gone. I really don't expect much being here, but when they hang from the rafters for each others birthdays and then barely acknowledge mine, it wedges a farther divide between me and them. Very similar to how all the Korean teachers got a New Year's bonus, and guess who didn't.
Maybe I am just being a bit sensitive. |
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jkelly80

Joined: 13 Jun 2007 Location: you boys like mexico?
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Posted: Mon Feb 02, 2009 4:08 pm Post subject: |
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| Welcome to the daily life of an immigrant. |
In Korea, dealing with specifically Korean management/workplace problems. |
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PigeonFart
Joined: 27 Apr 2006
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Posted: Mon Feb 02, 2009 4:59 pm Post subject: |
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That's kind of crap that they didn't give you a bonus. They deserve a little kick in the ass for that, something subtle like placing a little Japanese imperial flag on your desk.
If they ask you about it, tell them you love Japan and everyone in the world is upset with Korea for stealing Japan's island called "Takeshima" (or what the koreans call "Dokdo").
So when they reject you for that, then you'll finally be able to relax for the rest of the year with no more uncertainties or ambiguities. Just keep your head down and time will fly by. Go easy on them, they're not bad...they've just never been beyond their own back gardens. [If they do have a passport, they'd only use it to go to Guam or the "Pillipeens" or wherever Koreans tend to go on vacation. ]
Keep your chin up and try to keep your mind occupied at work. |
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sobriquet

Joined: 16 Feb 2007 Location: Nakatomi Plaza
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Posted: Mon Feb 02, 2009 5:17 pm Post subject: |
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| Jammer113 wrote: |
That said, they might be staring at you sideways. |
That's just the shape of their eyes  |
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Morning_Star
Joined: 21 Jan 2009
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Posted: Mon Feb 02, 2009 5:56 pm Post subject: |
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| Well hope that experience will make you treat immigrants nicer once you get home. As they say, what goes around comes around. |
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sobriquet

Joined: 16 Feb 2007 Location: Nakatomi Plaza
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Posted: Mon Feb 02, 2009 5:59 pm Post subject: |
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| Morning_Star wrote: |
| Well hope that experience will make you treat immigrants nicer once you get home. As they say, what goes around comes around. |
Is this the legal ones or the illegal ones or just any immigrant? |
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Ramen
Joined: 15 Apr 2008
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Posted: Mon Feb 02, 2009 6:04 pm Post subject: |
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| sobriquet wrote: |
| Morning_Star wrote: |
| Well hope that experience will make you treat immigrants nicer once you get home. As they say, what goes around comes around. |
Is this the legal ones or the illegal ones or just any immigrant? |
Just Korean immigrants. |
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sobriquet

Joined: 16 Feb 2007 Location: Nakatomi Plaza
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Posted: Mon Feb 02, 2009 6:07 pm Post subject: |
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| Ramen wrote: |
| sobriquet wrote: |
| Morning_Star wrote: |
| Well hope that experience will make you treat immigrants nicer once you get home. As they say, what goes around comes around. |
Is this the legal ones or the illegal ones or just any immigrant? |
Just Korean immigrants. |
Stuff that. If I see any koreans I'm going to go up and stare at them. Make hacking noised, sniff and snort loudly and spray them with newcastle brown ale instead of perfume. |
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jkelly80

Joined: 13 Jun 2007 Location: you boys like mexico?
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Posted: Mon Feb 02, 2009 6:08 pm Post subject: |
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| Morning_Star wrote: |
| Well hope that experience will make you treat immigrants nicer once you get home. As they say, what goes around comes around. |
I used to do free tutoring for Guatemalan immigrants (legal and otherwise) at a community service center in Chicago. And that hasn't stopped 아저씨s from spitting on my shoes. Weak logic. |
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