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[the boy next door]

well, here i am on valentine's day wondering what to do after finalizing my Korea divorce...

gee, this sucks...i just wanna go to the airport tomorrow and buy the first ticket to anywhere in the world...but, i got contracts here that only end this summer...

has anybody here ever been through this before? advice, directions, encouragement, please anything?

...i feel so alone like this...what happens now?

[yingwenlaoshi]

It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

[the boy next door]

wah, wah, wah, me want my wifey back!

[loralh]

I'm sorry that really blows [for lack of a more elegant phrase].

You aren't alone and assuming you got a divorce for a reason, it will be for the best.

Finish your contract and take your yourself on a great vacation...

It will eventually be better.

[the boy next door]

no. i'm fuckin' crushed!

i really thought she was the one. i really thought some divine force directed me here to meet her, love her, marry her and spend the rest of my life with her...she had other plans.

is it me? it's me. i'm loveless. sorry to whine but i'm loveless and just don't get it.

[Mdvl_lady50]

Sweets,

Time heals wounds. I married a Welshman and emigrated. The day before Valentine's Day, I had to call the cops as my then husband was not only abusing my business but started on me. Needless to say, after a lengthy talk with the village cop, there wasn't much to celebrate on the big day. During the divorce, came back to the States and got back into teaching. Time did make it better. I also thought he was the one as well. I still kick myself for not pressing charges.

[it's full of stars]

Sorry to hear about your break ups. Maybe you two should get together. Maybe you two are the ones!

Na, get drunk, go out and do something stupid. Aaaallllways works for me .

[the boy next door]

no. no. i deserve to be loveless... my father was, in a way...
my grandfather... i am loveless...i really thought we could make it. i'm stupid, too.

mods, i've embarrassed myself. please delete this thread like they are deleting my marriage...i'm loveless, not fit for human love.

[michaelambling]

[OnTheOtherSide]

You cannot count on anyone else, you can only count on yourself.

Even when you fall in love, you need to maintain a level of detachment and sobriety about it. Because you never know what will happen. I have seen the sweetest and kindest people do some very selfish and evil things. Every single person has the capacity to become very wicked if they are influenced into doing it.

The idea of falling in love forever and ever with a person is cliche and phony. Find some kind of spirituality or religion and that is the only love you will ever need.

[Viaje]

Why do you say you deserve to be loveless? Do you feel its your fault the marraige didn't work out? What reasons did she give for leaving you?

Rather than getting drunk I would take comfort in your work, enjoy the students if possible, and take advantage of what positives exist in Korea. Take some side trips to interesting places, places you haven't been. Buddhism can be very helpful in times like this, perhaps study it a little.

[Mdvl_lady50]

Since I'm kind of in between homes right now in that going to Korea is rather imminent, have been bunking with my parents and trying to sort out my endless amounts of female crap that can only fit into god only knows what small weight allowances. I hate shopping and seemed to have done a goodly amount in the last few years both here and in England. It's time to pare down.

Valentine's Day night this year should be good. My Dad, bless him, slipped me a couple of Benjamins yesterday and told me to pick up roses, etc., for my Mom with her favorite champagne and an appropriate card. I also picked up dessert and lobster tails. Mom was thrilled -- I was thrilled in that I get to partake of this delight -- and Dad was thrilled (he's wheelchair bound) in that he was off the hook. I love my Mom (I know rather corny), and it will be a good night before my send off. She is going to be a mother who visits while I"m in Korea. She's already looking at Bejing type of trips:)

[Straphanger]

[jkelly80]

[Straphanger]