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mayorgc
Joined: 19 Oct 2008
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 Posted: Mon Apr 27, 2009 6:47 am Post subject: What's it like bringing your K-spouse over to the West? |
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What did they do for work?
Was it a good decision to leave Korea?
How did they adjust?
If you could do it again, would you have stayed in Korea or would you still move?
What was the biggest difficulty/challenge? |
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kentucker4
Joined: 03 Sep 2007
Location: Georgia
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| Posted: Mon Apr 27, 2009 8:29 am Post subject: Re: What's it like bringing your K-spouse over to the West? |
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| mayorgc wrote: |
What did they do for work?
Was it a good decision to leave Korea?
How did they adjust?
If you could do it again, would you have stayed in Korea or would you still move?
What was the biggest difficulty/challenge? |
It has been crazy for me. My wife works illegally at a Korean Restaurant and makes friends very easily. Already has more friends than me. 
I would have went back to Korea. I hate my job here and it's very boring here. The only positive is I live close to my family. I miss Korea a lot. Had a very good time there despite a crappy hagwon job. Now I'm living on $11 an hour, though at a local newspaper. My wife is getting bored here, though, and has been suffering from panic attacks. Panic attacks are horrible. Have taken her to the ER three times already. The biggest challenge is working at this crappy newspaper job that makes my former hagwon job seem awesome. |
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Jarome_Turner
Joined: 10 Sep 2004
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| Posted: Mon Apr 27, 2009 9:55 am Post subject: |
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We've been in Canada for about a year now. Bought a house, both are working full time. She's working at the hospital in the health records department and loves it. Her working holiday visa expires at the end of the summer though, and it'll probably be another 9-12 months after that before she gets her perm. res. and can work full time again... we're expecting that to be a trying period.
Canada is pretty boring. If it weren't for all my family and a good number of my friends living close by, I don't think we would have lasted this long. We're trying to convince each other that we're past that "party" phase of our lives that is so easy to live in Korea... which for the most part, we are I guess....
If we could make the money we do here, but live in Korea... I think we'd both agree that would be the best of both worlds. |
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mayorgc
Joined: 19 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Mon Apr 27, 2009 4:02 pm Post subject: Re: What's it like bringing your K-spouse over to the West? |
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| kentucker4 wrote: |
| mayorgc wrote: |
What did they do for work?
Was it a good decision to leave Korea?
How did they adjust?
If you could do it again, would you have stayed in Korea or would you still move?
What was the biggest difficulty/challenge? |
It has been crazy for me. My wife works illegally at a Korean Restaurant and makes friends very easily. Already has more friends than me.
I would have went back to Korea. I hate my job here and it's very boring here. The only positive is I live close to my family. I miss Korea a lot. Had a very good time there despite a crappy hagwon job. Now I'm living on $11 an hour, though at a local newspaper. My wife is getting bored here, though, and has been suffering from panic attacks. Panic attacks are horrible. Have taken her to the ER three times already. The biggest challenge is working at this crappy newspaper job that makes my former hagwon job seem awesome. |
Where in the states do you live?
How did your wife get the job in the restaurant and what does she do there? wash dishes? waitress?
why is she working illegally though? does she not have the proper documents (yet)?
And is living in the west the cause of the panic attacks or is it from the boredom? |
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blackjack
Joined: 04 Jan 2006
Location: anyang
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| Posted: Mon Apr 27, 2009 4:44 pm Post subject: Re: What's it like bringing your K-spouse over to the West? |
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| mayorgc wrote: |
| kentucker4 wrote: |
| mayorgc wrote: |
What did they do for work?
Was it a good decision to leave Korea?
How did they adjust?
If you could do it again, would you have stayed in Korea or would you still move?
What was the biggest difficulty/challenge? |
It has been crazy for me. My wife works illegally at a Korean Restaurant and makes friends very easily. Already has more friends than me.
I would have went back to Korea. I hate my job here and it's very boring here. The only positive is I live close to my family. I miss Korea a lot. Had a very good time there despite a crappy hagwon job. Now I'm living on $11 an hour, though at a local newspaper. My wife is getting bored here, though, and has been suffering from panic attacks. Panic attacks are horrible. Have taken her to the ER three times already. The biggest challenge is working at this crappy newspaper job that makes my former hagwon job seem awesome. |
Where in the states do you live?
How did your wife get the job in the restaurant and what does she do there? wash dishes? waitress?
why is she working illegally though? does she not have the proper documents (yet)?
And is living in the west the cause of the panic attacks or is it from the boredom? |
I would take what he says with a grain of salt. This is the guy that had the gangster father in law and saw bigfoot in korea |
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hopefullykorea
Joined: 19 Apr 2009
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| Posted: Mon Apr 27, 2009 4:49 pm Post subject: Re: What's it like bringing your K-spouse over to the West? |
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[quote="kentucker4"]
| mayorgc wrote: |
My wife works illegally at a Korean Restaurant . |
She's part of the problem her in the USA. |
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kentucker4
Joined: 03 Sep 2007
Location: Georgia
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| Posted: Sun May 03, 2009 5:50 am Post subject: Re: What's it like bringing your K-spouse over to the West? |
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| mayorgc wrote: |
| kentucker4 wrote: |
| mayorgc wrote: |
What did they do for work?
Was it a good decision to leave Korea?
How did they adjust?
If you could do it again, would you have stayed in Korea or would you still move?
What was the biggest difficulty/challenge? |
It has been crazy for me. My wife works illegally at a Korean Restaurant and makes friends very easily. Already has more friends than me.
I would have went back to Korea. I hate my job here and it's very boring here. The only positive is I live close to my family. I miss Korea a lot. Had a very good time there despite a crappy hagwon job. Now I'm living on $11 an hour, though at a local newspaper. My wife is getting bored here, though, and has been suffering from panic attacks. Panic attacks are horrible. Have taken her to the ER three times already. The biggest challenge is working at this crappy newspaper job that makes my former hagwon job seem awesome. |
Where in the states do you live?
How did your wife get the job in the restaurant and what does she do there? wash dishes? waitress?
why is she working illegally though? does she not have the proper documents (yet)?
And is living in the west the cause of the panic attacks or is it from the boredom? |
Sorry it took me so long to respond.
We live in Georgia, though, she's about to move to LA California to run her mother's business in Koreatown. My wife got the restaurant job through a Korean church group that she attends here. They basically hooked her up with it because some members are friends with the owner of the restaurant. My wife makes friends more easily than anyone else I have ever met in my life. People are just drawn to her.
She is working illegally, because immigration f&*()( up the address of where to send her permanent resident card and we have been waiting for about eight months now. US Immigration is a nightmare. Either way, my wife is the best waitress where she works at by far and her boss gives her a larger portion of the tips than the other waitresses, because she is by far the most popular with the customers. They always asked for her. It gets kind of old, though, because I always have to hear stories about Korean and white guys making passes at her.
I'd like to say to the moron who said my wife is part of the problem that I think guys with your attitude representing their home countries in a foreign country are THE problem with Korean people's perception of ESL teachers.
In short, if your wife is a people person (being pretty doesn't hurt either), she will have few problems fitting in to the US. Just make sure there is at least a small Korean community where she lives so it will ease the process. People here in Georgia love nice Oriental girls. My wife is like a celebrity in the small town where we live. People go out of their way to always say hey to her. Also, make sure immigration doesn't f%^&% anything up, because that has by far been the roughest transition for my wife. Just not having the proper number and card to start up her own bank account, cell phone service, ect., has been rough. |
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Scotticus
Joined: 18 Mar 2007
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| Posted: Sun May 03, 2009 6:09 am Post subject: Re: What's it like bringing your K-spouse over to the West? |
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| kentucker4 wrote: |
I'd like to say to the moron who said my wife is part of the problem that I think guys with your attitude representing their home countries in a foreign country are THE problem with Korean people's perception of ESL teachers.
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What attitude is that? The attitude that, when living in another country, you should do so legally? I didn't know that "stickler for immigration law" was a stereotype Koreans had about us... |
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kentucker4
Joined: 03 Sep 2007
Location: Georgia
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| Posted: Sun May 03, 2009 6:26 am Post subject: Re: What's it like bringing your K-spouse over to the West? |
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| Scotticus wrote: |
| kentucker4 wrote: |
I'd like to say to the moron who said my wife is part of the problem that I think guys with your attitude representing their home countries in a foreign country are THE problem with Korean people's perception of ESL teachers.
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What attitude is that? The attitude that, when living in another country, you should do so legally? I didn't know that "stickler for immigration law" was a stereotype Koreans had about us... |
Just the attitude to be such an ass to even make that statement about someone's wife. Especially when that person has no idea about what transpired in our situation. My wife has DONE everything right from her end and should have had her permanent resident card a long time ago.
Stupid immigration shouldn't misspell the address of where to send your card and then expect us to pay for their f%&%^*&. We waited four months for them to tell us that and then they wanted us to pay an extra $370. After submitting a fee waiver request affidavit with an I-90 form, and waiting three more months, they send the paper work back rejecting it and telling us we still had to pay the fee for their mistakes and we had to wait an additional six months. I can't even begin to explain how frustrated we are with US Immigration.
My Korean wife working in a restaurant three days a week isn't hurting anyone. It's not her fault US Immigration is a worthless service. She is doing everything right from her end. You can't live for months .somewhere and not work, it's impossible. It's all the stupid f*&^&% Mexicans invading the country that are the problem, not any of the Koreans here in the US who at least take the proper visa steps. |
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taobenli
Joined: 26 Apr 2004
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| Posted: Sun May 03, 2009 9:00 am Post subject: |
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| Stupid Mexicans?? What if you were married to a Mexican woman, and not a Korean one, how would you feel then? Any sympathy I had for your wife's situation went out the window with this comment. Bigoted *beep*. |
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mcviking
Joined: 24 Mar 2009
Location: 'Fantastic' America
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What have you got against Mexicans? Please don't tell me you are one those idiots who believe the whole "they're taking our jobs" bullshit.
I have sympathy for your situation, but if you have that kind of attitude towards immigrants, then maybe you are getting what you deserve. |
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Robot_Teacher
Joined: 18 Feb 2009
Location: Robotting Around the World
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| Posted: Sun May 03, 2009 9:46 am Post subject: |
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| Something's badly wrong with America. Sorry Kentucker4. |
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ms.catbc
Joined: 11 Jan 2008
Location: Ilsan
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| Posted: Sun May 03, 2009 12:06 pm Post subject: |
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For those of you who are now living in Canada with your significant other...
Did s/he have any difficulty going through immigration at the airport. i have heard horror stories of 1 or 2 koreans being turned away from Pearson airport a day.
I have just moved back to Canada and my boyfriend wants to come visit me. he is worried about getting turned away at immigration.
He has also considered moving here for a while to work
i thought i would revive this post to see if any of you have more advice to give to me, the OP and/or anyone else. |
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ms.catbc
Joined: 11 Jan 2008
Location: Ilsan
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| Posted: Mon May 04, 2009 5:02 am Post subject: |
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it is official!
my boyfriend is coming to Canada in ONE WEEK!
any advice on immigration would be very graciously appreciated.
it would be more than tragic if he were to be turned away at Pearson... |
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curlygirl
Joined: 26 Mar 2007
Location: Pundang, Seohyeon dong
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| Posted: Tue May 05, 2009 2:00 am Post subject: |
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U guys don't u DARE abuse Kentucker. He is one of the most amusing posters on here by far and I don't want u scaring him away. In actual fact, what he posted this time was very informative and helpful so back off, kay?
Rock on Kentucker. Hope it all works out okay for you. I'm very pleased to hear that your wife is adjusting well. Once your wife's status is sorted out the two of you can start climbing the ladder to the American dream. Sincerely, best wishes 2 u both. |
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