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[tek75]

This may be a stupid question, but I've decided I don't care, as it's important to me.

I've decided after three years at the same public school (SMOE) that it's time to move on. I like the teachers, and I love the students (aside from the occasional they-drive-me-nuts moment, they're mostly really great kids), but it's just time.

The worst part of making the decision is the prospect of telling the students that I'll be gone after this semester. I'm sure a lot of elementary school teachers can relate, but kids can get really attached, and I want to go about saying goodbye in the nicest, gentlest way possible.

(It's not only for the kids in a sense. I told my vice-principal my decision today, and a few minutes after I finished, I had to go to the men's room and compose myself; I guess the stress built-up over the last week while making the decision kind of broke out once I finally told someone that I was leaving.)

Any advice from teachers who went through a similar situation would be appreciated. Did you break the news at the last possible minute, or did you tell them well in advance? Did you show how sad you were to be leaving, or did you try to act matter-of-fact about it? How did it all go? I would really like to know.

[schwa]

I've left schools here after 2 & 3 years where there was a warm mutual bond with the kids. Its tougher on you than them. Kids being kids, they get over it in no time.

My best advice is give the students a week's warning, thats enough. That gives them a chance to prepare cards & a send-off class but any much more than that & things can turn maudlin.

[valkerie]

I don't think it is a stupid question at all

Having been in Asia for a long time I have had to do this several times and it always sucks. However I think it is really important to prepare the kids for it in advance. Their relationship to time is odd but it does help them get used to the idea.

They will want to make u endless cards etc which is sweet.

When I worked as a kindy homeroom teacher I started the process around 6 weeks before.

Some kids cry, that sets me off. I think it is fine to show your real feelings.
Good luck.

[BrianInSuwon]

I would tell them early on. Give them time. Give them a good reason so they can be happy for you. "I'm going home for awhile to spend more time with my family. I really miss them." Give them an opportunity to express their feelings. Take a camera to work and take photos with everyone. Have them draw sketches so you can show your friends and family. Give them your email address.