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[fromtheuk]

There is no way to address what I am about to say without attracting criticism/ridicule, but here we go..............

I'm a guy, I look pretty good, I am intelligent, people say I am very kind etc.

I know I'm an introvert and I don't have the 'I fit in' look. I also cannot fake interest, which can also be perceived as negative.

What I want to know is why aren't most women dieing to love me?!!

I know it's the man that should approach women and be assertive, but I just think women are losing out or settle for second best, because they love someone else, instead of me.

I sometimes grieve because so many women have missed out on me.

I realize I cannot escape wording things in a silly manner.

To be serious for a millisecond, do you, as a realistic individual wonder why you're not a woman magnet, especially when you possess so many good qualities?!!

Do you also see arrogant, nasty people who always seem to get the girls?

The world is a sick place.

[Kikomom]

UK, whether you know it or not, the grief you are suffering is actually a deep down sorrow you feel from your recent divorce. It's completely normal and you are going thru the grief process much like people suffer from the death of a loved one.

But it's a good thing that you come here to let those feelings out.

Now... let the piss taking begin.

[AmericanExile]

I think your honesty is brave.

The whole feeling sorry for others becaused they missed out on you is a little weird for me, but I ain't from the Uk. Perhaps that's good manners where you are from.

I'm gonna have to think about the rest of it.

[Bloopity Bloop]

It's because girls want a confident ass, not an introverted, nice dude despite your looks.

[madoka]

[the oak llama]

think of how many attractive girls you see in a given day, and how much you'd like to project upon them...you'd like to think maybe you have things in common, you'd like to assume she'd have a similar sense of humor / style, you like to think she'd be emotionally mature enough to be in a good relationship, you'd like to think she'd take a liking to you.

...but in reality you have no idea. And the contact you have with them is fleeting, elevator, sidewalk, grocery store, a minute at the bar....

by the end of the day you really can't recall how many girls you've seen that you were attracted to.

without any kind of communication the contact will continue to be fleeting.

if you're a good looking guy, then it's probably the case that girls look at you for a minute, think about the same things, and if you give her NO reason to continue wondering about you, she's going to go somewhere else and think about other things.

open your mouth. if you suck at feigning interest then you ought to try to be the interesting one.

you almost have to trick yourself into doing things that would normally make you uncomfortable.

^this is of course if you want to improve upon your character. If not then find some peace with the way things work

[bignate]

[Joe666]

Bloopity Bloop:

[Robot_Teacher]

Do you also see arrogant, nasty people who always seem to get the girls?

Sure, because they might have money and project they can handle any problems may come up. This means a lot in today's world where most personal crisis are to be avoided by buying your way out.

And then it's not all just about money, it's about projecting a confident strong, competitive, and reliable image even if it's all an arrogant lie just to get some. Animals act like this in the wild all the time. Passive, honest, soft, kind, and loving introverts in touch with themselves and nature don't snare women as I know too well. Mating requires aggressive competitive behavior in the animal kingdom among mammals.

[Joe666]

The Robot Teacher may have a Bio degree as do I. Unfortunately, humans are just animals and once you start thinking like one in terms of the mating game, things might improve dramatically. Sad but true!

[Underwaterbob]

Keep in mind once you've acquired a mate via swagger and arrogance, unlike in the animal kingdom, they will expect you to become docile and sensitive.

[sharkey]

youre probably not that good looking and youre probably lame.. not hard to get women in korea.. well for me anyways .. but im beautiful and sparkling = )

[DWAEJIMORIGUKBAP]

[fromtheuk]

If acting like a man means pretending to be something I'm not, I suppose I am likely to remain single.

I personally hate it when guys act 'manly'. If you're a man, you shouldn't need to act like one, just be one.

I also cannot stand it when guys put on an act for a girl, it makes my skin crawl.

It is good to hear what people think. I realize I find women attractive but I like to avoid them (and all humans), because they can be pretty boring and predictable.

I don't claim to be interesting, but in my experience most women tend to act like a bossy mother if you get too close. They begin to put you down and tell you what to do, unless you assert yourself.

[Koveras]

I know how you feel, but look at it from another angle. Most of the girls here have fascinating hobbies and interests such as listening to music, watching movies, and going shopping. Although many of them will claim to play piano, or do something else that requires a modicum of talent and practice, in reality they cannot, and they hope you won't call them on it. You're not missing much. Keep your standards high and don't feel awful when some girl with a bad haircut, a Guess t-shirt, and big white sneakers isn't all over your shit.