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bassexpander
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 Posted: Mon Aug 17, 2009 2:33 am Post subject: Do your Korean-mixed kids pout like Korean kids do? |
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As I watched a small Korean child with her mother today, I began to wonder... how do the children of mixed Korean/western couples act when they're upset? Do they pout like Korean kids, or Western kids? Is this learned from the parents, TV, or by watching other kids?
Korean children often sulk/pout very differently than western children. Does this present issues when they attend school? |
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The evil penguin
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| Posted: Mon Aug 17, 2009 3:09 am Post subject: Re: Do your Korean-mixed kids pout like Korean kids do? |
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| bassexpander wrote: |
As I watched a small Korean child with her mother today, I began to wonder... how do the children of mixed Korean/western couples act when they're upset? Do they pout like Korean kids, or Western kids? Is this learned from the parents, TV, or by watching other kids?
Korean children often sulk/pout very differently than western children. Does this present issues when they attend school? |
This is actually something I'm seriously worried about... Girlfriend has one bad habit that i'm aware of so far.... and we've been together a few years... and thats a whine and pout only a korean can accomplish when she's unhappy about something. Not often enough to be a major problem, but I've been wary ever since it first happened....
Its gotta be a cultural thing.... maybe from being spoilt as babies... no way would i let a kid of mine do that. |
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riverboy
Joined: 03 Jun 2003
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| Posted: Mon Aug 17, 2009 3:50 am Post subject: |
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Unfortunately not as much as I would like. My oldest told me that he would have to punch me if I kept feeding my youngest food which harmed the inside of his mouth.
Maybe it's time to stop the playfighting. |
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tzechuk
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Don't kids just pout anyway?
My daughter does - but she is 100% Asian (Chinese and Korean) with a very Anglicised upbringing. She also screams, stamps her feet, cries, whines etc. etc... I thought all kids did that? My experience with other kids (back home in the UK, friends' kids etc.) led me to believe this was normal... |
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iammac2002
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| Posted: Mon Aug 17, 2009 4:22 am Post subject: |
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| tzechuk wrote: |
Don't kids just pout anyway?
My daughter does - but she is 100% Asian (Chinese and Korean) with a very Anglicised upbringing. She also screams, stamps her feet, cries, whines etc. etc... I thought all kids did that? My experience with other kids (back home in the UK, friends' kids etc.) led me to believe this was normal... |
I don't think I ever had the opportunity to behave like that. My parents (or 3 older siblings) would have smacked me very quickly if I did, or sent to my room.
Just because all your friends' kids smoke, would you allow your kids to do that too? 
I have a friend whose boyfriend lived in her parents' guest bedroom when she was still in high school. They believed their kids should rather have sex in their house, than at school, or the boyfriend's work/house.
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PatrickGHBusan
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| Posted: Mon Aug 17, 2009 4:22 am Post subject: |
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Like Tzechuk said Bass: kids pout.
My son pouts when he is not happy and does so like a Korean sometimes and like a Westerner sometimes. It depends where he is...the cue comes from the culture that is the majority where he is....
It was and is not an issue. |
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tzechuk
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| Posted: Mon Aug 17, 2009 4:29 am Post subject: |
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| iammac2002 wrote: |
| tzechuk wrote: |
Don't kids just pout anyway?
My daughter does - but she is 100% Asian (Chinese and Korean) with a very Anglicised upbringing. She also screams, stamps her feet, cries, whines etc. etc... I thought all kids did that? My experience with other kids (back home in the UK, friends' kids etc.) led me to believe this was normal... |
I don't think I ever had the opportunity to behave like that. My parents (or 3 older siblings) would have smacked me very quickly if I did, or sent to my room.
Just because all your friends' kids smoke, would you allow your kids to do that too?
I have a friend whose boyfriend lived in her parents' guest bedroom when she was still in high school. They believed their kids should rather have sex in their house, than at school, or the boyfriend's work/house. |
Your analogy is rather unfair, imamac. Children are children, children should be ALLOWED to be children to a certain degree. I neither believe in, nor agree with, corporal punishment. I think I have ever only smacked my daughter's bottom once. They are mini people, but people nonetheless, and they should be allowed to vent. The way they vent is childish and is to be expected. Do you expect them to behave like adults without being given the chance to understand and explore ways in which they can channel their frustrations?
Smacking them the very moment they start pouting/scream/whining sends a very negative message to their little minds, IMO.
I've been very independent since a very young age (12 - boarding school overseas and stayed overseas) and sometimes I feel I've not been given the opportunity for a proper childhood, and I am not going to deny that to my daughter, who is all but 4 years and 9 months old? |
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Tundra_Creature
Joined: 11 Jun 2009
Location: Canada
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| Posted: Mon Aug 17, 2009 4:33 am Post subject: |
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| iammac2002 wrote: |
| tzechuk wrote: |
Don't kids just pout anyway?
My daughter does - but she is 100% Asian (Chinese and Korean) with a very Anglicised upbringing. She also screams, stamps her feet, cries, whines etc. etc... I thought all kids did that? My experience with other kids (back home in the UK, friends' kids etc.) led me to believe this was normal... |
I don't think I ever had the opportunity to behave like that. My parents (or 3 older siblings) would have smacked me very quickly if I did, or sent to my room.
Just because all your friends' kids smoke, would you allow your kids to do that too?
I have a friend whose boyfriend lived in her parents' guest bedroom when she was still in high school. They believed their kids should rather have sex in their house, than at school, or the boyfriend's work/house. |
I think what he (she?) means is that kids would do it if they had the chance. It's not in cases of opportunity, it's just what a kid does. Now, if a parent encourages it- that's different.
I used to be a pouter and whiner as a kid- mom didn't put up with it, so that tune changed after awhile. I've also worked with a lot of young kids at a camp, who were pouters of all kinds of backgrounds. Same with my nephews (actually, they were more whiners than anything else).
As for pouting differently from culture to culture... I have no idea. They all tend to sound the same to me- annoying. |
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Forward Observer
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| Posted: Mon Aug 17, 2009 4:47 am Post subject: |
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| I think it all depends (for western kids) on their personality. For example, my oldest nephew (raised on the reward system, never had a hand laid on him) grew up polite, respectful, quiet unless spoken to, well mannered. His younger brother and sister, however, were complete terrors. Raised on the same system though...it just depends on the kid imo. Korean kids are a whole other ball of wax. |
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samcheokguy
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| Posted: Mon Aug 17, 2009 5:42 am Post subject: |
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| My mom once nearly dented a wall with me. I hit the studs so I didn't crack the drywall. She was lucky. Drywall is expensive. |
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iammac2002
Joined: 12 Jun 2009
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| Posted: Mon Aug 17, 2009 7:47 am Post subject: |
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| tzechuk wrote: |
| Your analogy is rather unfair, imamac. Children are children, children should be ALLOWED to be children to a certain degree. I neither believe in, nor agree with, corporal punishment. I think I have ever only smacked my daughter's bottom once. |
Guess it's how you were brought (or in your case dragged) up. My siblings and I still get punished (we are all grown up now), and I see nothing wrong with it. (Except those times when I had to get out the car and walk the rest of the way!)
Each to his own, hey? But here are a few points arguing my case for beating (not abusing) kids:
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The following quotations come from the King James Version (KJV) of the Bible:
Prov 13:24: "He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes (diligently)."
Prov 22:15: "Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him."
Prov 23:13: "Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die."
Prov 23:14: "Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell (Shoel)."
(http://www.religioustolerance.org/spankin8.htm)
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Cheonmunka
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I'm not kidding, my daughter used to tilt her head forward and look at you in a way last seen in 'The Exorcist.'
Unlike in the movie, the way to deal with it is to talk her out of it or give her a hug - just ignore the eyes.
So, if the pout annoys you, you must ignore it.
The reason smacks get results is because the child was starved of attention in the first place. |
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iammac2002
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| Posted: Mon Aug 17, 2009 10:52 am Post subject: |
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| Cheonmunka wrote: |
| So, if the pout annoys you, you must ignore it. |
Ignorance works too. If your kid throws a tantrum when it sees candy in the store, and you just ignore it, he/she will someday figure out that it doesn't help to behave like that. |
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Hobophobic
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| Posted: Mon Aug 17, 2009 6:12 pm Post subject: |
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| Cheonmunka wrote: |
I'm not kidding, my daughter used to tilt her head forward and look at you in a way last seen in 'The Exorcist.'
Unlike in the movie, the way to deal with it is to talk her out of it or give her a hug - just ignore the eyes. |
My 3 1/2 year old son does that to the wife....creeps her out...I do it back at him and he bursts out laughing...I am more concerned with his NORK SAILOR potty mouth when I wake him up for school...boy can he string together those colorful metaphors when daddy happily nudges him and announces..."Wake up...time for school!"
He doesn't pout...I don't let him play frogger on the SNES emulator if he throws one of those puppy dog hissy fits or tell him he will wake up the gypsies next door and they will eat his ears and nose....to which he again laughs...kids grow out of most of that stuff which I find comes and goes in phases.... |
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tzechuk
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| iammac2002 wrote: |
Guess it's how you were brought (or in your case dragged) up. My siblings and I still get punished (we are all grown up now), and I see nothing wrong with it. (Except those times when I had to get out the car and walk the rest of the way!) |
I beg your pardon? |
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