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eslguyinsanbon · Joined: 22 Jul 2007 Location: Mokpo, South Korea

Ok, so a bit of background. My gf and I have been together for almost a year, and have been living together for about 5 months in the tiny one-room my school provided for me. We own a brand new car together, a 1 year old bulldog, and everything is great.

Two weeks ago, we moved into an apartment that her dad owns and is renting to us. Since we plan to marry soon, he decided that he would furnish the place for us. Before we moved, he said that he wasn't a big fan of dogs, but we thought that that would kind of work itself out since her dad was so happy about the relationship.

Fast forward 2 weeks, now that we're all moved in, her dad has decided that we either, A: Have to get rid of our dog or B: Move out.

Now, the way I see it, neither are really an option. Where I come from, I was brought up believing that having a pet is a lifelong commitment (the life of the pet), so I don't see as how I can just give him up for adoption (that and it's not going to be easy finding a new home for a 50lbs English bulldog).

Option B, moving out, is also not really a desirable option as it'll mean moving back into a one-room.

The other problem is that if we stay, and get rid of our dog, we're going to be ticked with her dad. If we move, we'll be ticked with her dad for having to go back to a [Mod Edit] one-room (leaving a 3bedroom 2bath villa behind) and her dad will be ticked with us since he just paid to furnish our apartment.

So, I guess this is mostly a rant, but wondering if anybody out there has any suggestions at all. Of a possible 3rd option...??

benji · Joined: 21 Jul 2009

3rd option. Grow up, get your own big apartment, then no one's father can tell you how to live your life.

PatrickGHBusan · Posted: Wed Sep 23, 2009 6:01 pm Post subject:

Honestly....it is your Father-in-laws property...you just rent it. He has a right to not want dogs in his property.

Get rid of the dog or move to your own place seems to be the options here....if your lifelong (pets life) commitement to your pooch is so strong, you need to move to a place that accepts the mutt.

mole · Joined: 06 Feb 2003 Location: Act III

eslguyinsanbon · Joined: 22 Jul 2007 Location: Mokpo, South Korea

Wow guys, thanks for the super helpful responses. Rolling Eyes

I guess I should have known better than to expect anything more than negative posts. Thanks for the help.

mayorgc · Joined: 19 Oct 2008

yah, but in this situation, it's pretty black and white. The father owns the place and you're basically just whining.

eslguyinsanbon · Joined: 22 Jul 2007 Location: Mokpo, South Korea

Ok, I'll admit, I am venting. I'm not going to deny that for one minute. I know what the two obvious solutions here, I was just wondering if anybody else with two braincells and a desire to actually help, might come up with a possible 3rd option. Since that is not the case, I'm no longer going to look for help.

halfmanhalfbiscuit · Joined: 13 Oct 2007 Location: Seoul

benji · Joined: 21 Jul 2009

OP,
I and others gave you a 3rd option: get your own place and be your own man.
What kind of answer are you expecting? Nobody on this board knows your father in law. Can you beg him to keep your dog there? Can his daughter?
According to you he told you beforehand no dogs. Seems to me that you are the one with "two brain cells" because you went ahead anyway and moved in with a dog after he told you no.

Goku · Joined: 10 Dec 2008

You have to think what's best for you.

If you move out, you are right, you will piss the crap out of the dad.

Get rid of the dog. The dog's not going to know and in the end it won't really matter as much as risking the jeopardy of your relationship with the KGF than on an animal.

Think about #1. I have principals too. I have a principal that I keep every promise I made. You have any idea how much that bites me in the ass? It wasn't until 1 month ago I realized how stupid I was being. I made promises to my old GF that are impossible to keep now.

Principals are what is taught to us by parents or society, some are very good, but some should be changed based on the circumstance. This is definitely one of them.

mole · Joined: 06 Feb 2003 Location: Act III

Tundra_Creature · Joined: 11 Jun 2009 Location: Canada

Either find your own place to rent or find a good place for the dog. Can't really say much else about it. Unless begging works for your FIL, then don't have much of a choice.

Sure it'll suck, but that's what happens sometimes.

Underwaterbob · Joined: 08 Jan 2005 Location: In Cognito

T-dot · Joined: 16 May 2004 Location: bundang

Option 3

Dont rent and offer to buy the place in installments until you guys get married (maybe he'll forget the rest of the payments when you present him with a grandchild).

A dog in the house could possible lower the value of the place. He cant worry about it if the place isnt his anymore.

eslguyinsanbon · Joined: 22 Jul 2007 Location: Mokpo, South Korea

Thanks T-Dot,

My girlfriend and I were just talking about that. I understand that everyone is saying that there are only two options, and I understand that I came across as moronic for even posting this, I just wanted to rant and try to get some decent feedback. Some of you have chosen to do that, and I really appreciate that.