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eIn07912
Joined: 06 Dec 2008
Location: seoul
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 Posted: Sun Oct 11, 2009 5:56 am Post subject: Did you sign a Prenup? |
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When you got married to a Korean, did you sign a prenuptial agreement? I'm not even sure if they have them here or not.
I ask out of general curiosity. That, and I've been dating a rather wealthy Korean girl for several months now and the idea of us getting married has crossed my mind (however, I doubt it'll ever happen.) But seeing as how she is, to put it colloquially "loaded" I wonder if this is something I'd have to enter into? Seeing as I'm about as rich as an ESL teacher here can get and burdened with a monster student loan, I'm sure she'd be smart enough to protect her assets should our marriage go south.
Again, this is all just hypothetical curiosity. I really like her, but I don't think I love her enough to take the leap. She treats me well though. Takes me on trips. Buys me nice things. Has given a stock tip here and there (I really try not to even discuss her work or money for obvious awkward situation reasons.)
But just as a side, guys, you really should give it a shot if you ever have the chance. I know some guys feel intimidated by dating an older or wealthier woman. I have felt a little emasculated when she goes overbored on the spending. But most of the time, it's just nice to be able to date someone and share the financial side of the relationship on a more even level. I sometimes felt like my previous g/f's were bleeding me dry. With her, it's nice to be treated for dinner if I pick up the movie tickets. Or let her drive us (in her BMW) if I pick up the tab for this or that.
But I digress... prenups?... anyone? anyone? |
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Goon-Yang
Joined: 28 May 2009
Location: Duh
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| Posted: Sun Oct 11, 2009 8:07 am Post subject: |
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Are you sure she feels the same about you as you do about her?
You could just be her boy toy.
Now to answer your question there are prenups in Korea, but they are very rare (so says the wife) and only happen between rich people. |
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Dude Ranch
Joined: 04 Nov 2008
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| Posted: Sun Oct 11, 2009 8:43 am Post subject: |
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I wouldn't mention it. If you do she could get the idea in her mind that she didn't have before.
also, some countries have prenups but they are not enforced (so I've heard)
either way it looks good for you in the long run my friend |
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benji
Joined: 21 Jul 2009
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| Posted: Sun Oct 11, 2009 12:53 pm Post subject: |
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| I have a hard time believing that a Korean divorce court would award a large divorce settlement to a foreign man divorcing a Korean women of means. |
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Fermentator75
Joined: 27 Jul 2009
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| Posted: Sun Oct 11, 2009 1:16 pm Post subject: |
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| Hey OP, I thought you were "hopefully" and "soon" leaving Korea "for good" with a backpack waving an American Flag on the way to Palestine??? Now you're rollin in Beamerz and living the life of a pimp. How does the rich K girl think about your plans of abandonment? You don't "love" her, but like her "enough" to consider marriage for her money if there is a possibility to get away with some of her assets... you are a champ. |
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eIn07912
Joined: 06 Dec 2008
Location: seoul
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| Posted: Sun Oct 11, 2009 1:46 pm Post subject: |
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| Hey OP, I thought you were "hopefully" and "soon" leaving Korea "for good" with a backpack waving an American Flag on the way to Palestine??? Now you're rollin in Beamerz and living the life of a pimp. How does the rich K girl think about your plans of abandonment? You don't "love" her, but like her "enough" to consider marriage for her money if there is a possibility to get away with some of her assets... you are a champ. |
Haha, it's Pakistan, not Palestine. Technically, there is no Palestine, just saying.
She understands I'm leaving. She's also not tied down to Korea. We've discussed living in other places together (Japan, Australia, New Zealand, the States)
I think everyone my ages at least runs the thought of marriage through their head if they've been dating someone longer than a month or two. You don't? I've entertained that idea about every g/f I've had since I was 21 or so. I've never even come close to acting on it, but I think it's normal to consider it.
Like I said, I was more just curious about it all. I would never consider marrying someone I just "liked" even if she was rich. I'd hate to see what kind of person I turned out to be if that were true. But, that's just how my mind words. A question or something gets in my head and I have to learn about it. And seeing as how a google search came up nil on this one, I decided to turn here. |
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Fermentator75
Joined: 27 Jul 2009
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| Posted: Sun Oct 11, 2009 2:29 pm Post subject: |
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OP, Sorry for jumping on you over this. You seem like a nice person. I do think it takes more than a couple of months, however, to consider marriage! Most relationships 3 months deep are all good operating on lust and bliss. It usually takes that long to simply feel someone out to decide if taking it a little further or more serious is going to happen. Oh yeah, "Go Palestine!" lol. You are right about one thing for sure. Seeing the future with a girl that has money but without certainty of love cannot turn out good.
I have contemplated this in a super difficult situation my self. I have dated two rich girls in my life.
1. My high school sweetheart was loaded and I would have married her if she wasn't a cheating bleepity bleep.
2. My college sweetheart of 2 years who I just split up with was loaded. I do love her but we had major problems that made it not worth it. We tried and tried to work through these things to no good outcome that I could foresee. Not to mention the difficulty I had of realizing that she wanted to make it work, was extremely hot and 11 1/2 years younger than me (I am 34).
I must be stupid to turn down a hot 22 year old with a rich daddy at my age. I will tell you what though, I couldn't seem to settle. I need to believe that there is a girl out there that is easier to live with for the long haul... letting two richies get away??? Hopefully lightning strikes 3 times and my luck is redeemed. Until then, I will take poor and happy over rich and miserable any day... I think  |
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redaxe
Joined: 01 Dec 2008
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| Posted: Sun Oct 11, 2009 2:31 pm Post subject: |
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giraffe
Joined: 07 Apr 2009
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| Posted: Sun Oct 11, 2009 2:40 pm Post subject: |
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| Fermentator75 wrote: |
2. My college sweetheart of 2 years who I just split up with was loaded. I do love her but we had major problems that made it not worth it. We tried and tried to work through these things to no good outcome that I could foresee. Not to mention the difficulty I had of realizing that she wanted to make it work, was extremely hot and 11 1/2 years younger than me (I am 34).
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Sorry , i dont understand what you mean by College sweetheart in this situation? YOu say you're 11.5 years older than her and she was your college sweetheart? YOu both attended college together ? you taught her ? Or you call her college sweetheart because shes still in college while you work? Anyways INteresting either way... |
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eIn07912
Joined: 06 Dec 2008
Location: seoul
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| Posted: Sun Oct 11, 2009 2:55 pm Post subject: |
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| Where'd ya meet her? |
Oddly enough, online. She is just as socially awkward as I am, so neither of us were big on the club or bar scene. Also, with the amount of time she spends at work, she's always too tired to go out on the "hunt" with her friends.
There was also no way to tell she was rich from her profile or even after a few weeks of dating. She covers it pretty well. She's not the type to flaunt it. She knows there are guys that would go for her just for her bank account and she didn't tell me about it for at least a month or so. She's a financial consultant and stock trader btw. Trained and interned JP Morgan and Goldman Sachs (or "Golden Slacks" as she's informed me of the popular nickname)
She's sweet and caring. Will bore you to tears though. I guess people that are that deep into numbers and finances don't have outstanding personalities (Jim Crammer aside.) But, like I said, I don't really see it happening, was just interested in the topic actually. |
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Triban
Joined: 14 Jul 2009
Location: Suwon Station
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| Posted: Sun Oct 11, 2009 3:45 pm Post subject: |
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| I love it when I land a loaded chick, or even non-loaded chicks that like to buy me things. But then again, I'm shallow like that. All about dat paper mang. |
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redaxe
Joined: 01 Dec 2008
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| Posted: Sun Oct 11, 2009 3:51 pm Post subject: |
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| eIn07912 wrote: |
| redaxe wrote: |
| Where'd ya meet her? |
Oddly enough, online. She is just as socially awkward as I am, so neither of us were big on the club or bar scene. Also, with the amount of time she spends at work, she's always too tired to go out on the "hunt" with her friends.
There was also no way to tell she was rich from her profile or even after a few weeks of dating. She covers it pretty well. She's not the type to flaunt it. She knows there are guys that would go for her just for her bank account and she didn't tell me about it for at least a month or so. She's a financial consultant and stock trader btw. Trained and interned JP Morgan and Goldman Sachs (or "Golden Slacks" as she's informed me of the popular nickname)
She's sweet and caring. Will bore you to tears though. I guess people that are that deep into numbers and finances don't have outstanding personalities (Jim Crammer aside.) But, like I said, I don't really see it happening, was just interested in the topic actually. |
I knew it! Yeah, my friend dated a Korean girl from a super-rich family, and she told us she was a television anchor. Guess where he found her? koreancupid.com! You also couldn't tell she was rich from the profile (although you could tell she had had some "work done"...)
The thing about rich Koreans, though, is that they are like old-school aristocrats; a marriage for them is basically a business deal for arranging a strategic alliance between two clans. This girl told us stories about how sons of chaebol bosses would pay her dad thousands of dollars just for the privilege of taking her out on a date. Her dad basically pimped her out to rich boys, and she also said she had been date-raped by them on more than one occasion.
Do you think a rich Korean dad like that would let his daughter marry a foreign ESL teacher with student loan debt in the first place? Of course, your girl and her family might be different, but as a general rule of thumb trying to marry into a rich Korean family seems like a ticket straight to H-E-double hockey sticks... and not even for THAT much money, relatively speaking, because "rich" Koreans are basically just upper middle class by American standards of wealth. |
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Goku
Joined: 10 Dec 2008
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Quite frankly I would jump at marrying a rich girl.
Why? Not because of lifestyle, but the fact that she is the carrier of "capable" genes. meaning that somewhere in her lineage they have been successful at making money.
Normally, this is valued in the male of the species and that we represent and dictate this gene, but hey... if you're a guy and you don't have it, why not go for a wealthy girl?
Not only will her family be somewhat able to support your children, you will have the delight of knowing you are with higher status people. This can cause some stress too though for someone with low self esteem, but I don't exactly see many people bothered by it.
Although, if she asks for a pre-nup, I'd definately agree to it. It's sort give and take. Pre-nups are more less tests of love. If you do get married and it lasts, she will give you money anyways. Only if your love is invalid or sellfish would someone disagree with a pre-nup. |
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eamo
Joined: 08 Mar 2003
Location: Shepherd's Bush, 1964.
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| Posted: Sun Oct 11, 2009 5:57 pm Post subject: |
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| Quite frankly I would jump at marrying a rich girl. |
Too right! It's a win-win. It might work out, then you'll have a happy marriage in the bosom of a rich family......
.......if it doesn't work out then daddy will pay you off handsomely for a quickie divorce........then you're a free agent with a nice chunk.
Not talking about the OP here, but why are some westerners so slow to get hitched? A couple know they'll get married, but they wait years and years. People are asking them for years, 'when are you two going to finally tie the knot?' I've known couples who knew early on they would get married, but then date for 7 years!! They drag it out so long that they become like an old married couple even before they've got married!! By the time they finally get around to it, they hate each other!! But they go ahead with it anyway because they can't imagine starting over again.
I like the Korean style......meet a nice girl, date for 6 months, meet her parents, if you don't make her parents violently ill, then get married within the year! 3-hour wedding, 5,000,000 won (half of which will be covered by guests!) Bob's your uncle......easy-peasy. |
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benji
Joined: 21 Jul 2009
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| Posted: Sun Oct 11, 2009 6:15 pm Post subject: |
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| eamo wrote: |
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| Quite frankly I would jump at marrying a rich girl. |
Too right! It's a win-win. It might work out, then you'll have a happy marriage in the bosom of a rich family......
.......if it doesn't work out then daddy will pay you off handsomely for a quickie divorce........then you're a free agent with a nice chunk.
Not talking about the OP here, but why are some westerners so slow to get hitched? A couple know they'll get married, but they wait years and years. People are asking them for years, 'when are you two going to finally tie the knot?' I've known couples who knew early on they would get married, but then date for 7 years!! They drag it out so long that they become like an old married couple even before they've got married!! By the time they finally get around to it, they hate each other!! But they go ahead with it anyway because they can't imagine starting over again.
I like the Korean style......meet a nice girl, date for 6 months, meet her parents, if you don't make her parents violently ill, then get married within the year! 3-hour wedding, 5,000,000 won (half of which will be covered by guests!) Bob's your uncle......easy-peasy. |
Western men and Korean men surely have different views on marriage. I have never met an engaged Korean guy who was nervous about his upcoming wedding, while western guys are nervous and his buddies think of it as his death of sorts.
Marriage to a Korean guy: 1) I can move out of my moms house 2) when I move out of my moms house I will have someone to cook and clean because I have no idea how to do these things for myself 3) I dont have to pay for a hotel room every time i want sex 4) Now that Im at a company, I will still be able to drink every night 5) Extra women: hookers, room salons, girlfriends are not out of the question after marriage, just dont overspend on them. 6) Get my mom and family off my back about marrying
Marriage to a western guy: 1) drinking and hanging out with the fellas curtailed or stopped altogether 2) This is the last woman I will ever have sex with ( at least thats the attitude going into it) 3) Family doesnt care if you marry or not |
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