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PARAMDUNGI
Joined: 11 Sep 2009
Location: Busan
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 Posted: Wed Sep 16, 2009 8:18 pm Post subject: "Relationships in Korea aren't real" yes or no? |
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| I've heard this many times. From my experiences (and a few of my friends/co-workers experiences) it seems to be true. I've even seen a guy get married to a girl he met in Korea (not a K-girl) only to get divorced a couple months after they left the country. Others just avoid anything serious because of this phenomenon. From a guy's point of view Korea is not the place to be tied down anyway. Thoughts? |
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misher
Joined: 14 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Wed Sep 16, 2009 9:24 pm Post subject: |
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There are a lot of things against you here. More so then back home if you are looking for a long lasting relationship. Generally speaking, you are certainly rolling the dice if you get involved here and want it to go somewhere.
Many relationships here too are just based on the old English/sex swap. There isn't anything else and once the sex gets boring, the relationship fails. I've seen it happen a lot and it happened to me a few times. |
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PARAMDUNGI
Joined: 11 Sep 2009
Location: Busan
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| Posted: Wed Sep 16, 2009 9:26 pm Post subject: |
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| misher wrote: |
There are a lot of things against you here. More so then back home if you are looking for a long lasting relationship. Generally speaking, you are certainly rolling the dice if you get involved here and want it to go somewhere.
Many relationships here too are just based on the old English/sex swap. There isn't anything else and once the sex gets boring, the relationship fails. I've seen it happen a lot and it happened to me a few times. |
yep. |
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Changwon Charlie
Joined: 22 Aug 2009
Location: Changwon
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| Posted: Thu Sep 17, 2009 1:56 am Post subject: |
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What a load of hogwash....
Relationships are as real as anywhere I have ever lived in the world.
I married a Korean girl many years ago, still feels pretty real to me...
I know many people who have married or been in long-term relationships with korean women. Don't think it is fake.
maybe you should change the kidn of girl you are dating instead of the standard itaewon skank or english-practice seeking princess. |
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tenchu77491
Joined: 16 Mar 2009
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| Posted: Thu Sep 17, 2009 1:59 am Post subject: |
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| Changwon Charlie wrote: |
What a load of hogwash....
Relationships are as real as anywhere I have ever lived in the world.
I married a Korean girl many years ago, still feels pretty real to me...
I know many people who have married or been in long-term relationships with korean women. Don't think it is fake.
maybe you should change the kidn of girl you are dating instead of the standard itaewon skank or english-practice seeking princess. |
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Mr. Pink
Joined: 21 Oct 2003
Location: China
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| Posted: Thu Sep 17, 2009 1:59 am Post subject: |
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| Changwon Charlie wrote: |
What a load of hogwash....
Relationships are as real as anywhere I have ever lived in the world.
I married a Korean girl many years ago, still feels pretty real to me...
I know many people who have married or been in long-term relationships with korean women. Don't think it is fake.
maybe you should change the kidn of girl you are dating instead of the standard itaewon skank or english-practice seeking princess. |
Agreed. Soon to be 10 years married and through good and bad we are still going strong!!!
Don't pick your girl up in a bar and you might have more luck finding a "decent" girl. |
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bluelake
Joined: 01 Dec 2005
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| Posted: Thu Sep 17, 2009 2:28 am Post subject: |
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| My wife and I were married here in Korea twenty-five years ago and we're still going strong. She was my best friend then and still is today. |
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byrddogs
Joined: 19 Jun 2009
Location: Shanghai
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| Posted: Thu Sep 17, 2009 3:08 am Post subject: |
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| I have to agree with the "not picking up in a bar" thing. I'm going on 4 years with my gf. No problems here with the unreal relationship. |
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Countrygirl
Joined: 19 Nov 2007
Location: in the classroom
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| Posted: Thu Sep 17, 2009 3:09 am Post subject: |
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When I started dating my husband, I think both of us were not serious because there was no way I was going to stay here and I knew he would never live in Canada. It made the relationship much more relaxed. I stopped thinking about if he was a potential mate and was more myself.
Five months after meeting we were engaged and five months later we were married. We moved back to Canada after I became pregnant, suffered through culture shock, lack of funds, unstable jobs and no real support from either family. Somehow we made it through, have 2 wonderful children, and every year our marriage gets better and better.
A relationship surviving is more than the place you meet. |
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tenchu77491
Joined: 16 Mar 2009
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| Posted: Thu Sep 17, 2009 3:09 am Post subject: |
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| 2 years here and not a bar girl. |
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ajgeddes
Joined: 28 Apr 2004
Location: Yongsan
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| Posted: Thu Sep 17, 2009 3:31 am Post subject: Re: "Relationships in Korea aren't real" yes or no |
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For everybody:
| PARAMDUNGI wrote: |
| I've heard this many times. From my experiences (and a few of my friends/co-workers experiences) it seems to be true. I've even seen a guy get married to a girl he met in Korea (not a K-girl) only to get divorced a couple months after they left the country. Others just avoid anything serious because of this phenomenon. From a guy's point of view Korea is not the place to be tied down anyway. Thoughts? |
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byrddogs
Joined: 19 Jun 2009
Location: Shanghai
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| Posted: Thu Sep 17, 2009 3:58 am Post subject: Re: "Relationships in Korea aren't real" yes or no |
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| ajgeddes wrote: |
For everybody:
| PARAMDUNGI wrote: |
| I've heard this many times. From my experiences (and a few of my friends/co-workers experiences) it seems to be true. I've even seen a guy get married to a girl he met in Korea (not a K-girl) only to get divorced a couple months after they left the country. Others just avoid anything serious because of this phenomenon. From a guy's point of view Korea is not the place to be tied down anyway. Thoughts? |
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Sure, I noticed that and thought it to be a bit odd that the OP was referring to relationships in Korea; yet threw that out there. |
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shaunew
Joined: 17 Apr 2007
Location: Calgary
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| Posted: Thu Sep 17, 2009 4:20 am Post subject: |
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I have been married for 4 years 2 kids. Amazing most of the time, sometimes its hard (in-laws and wanting money or the family just free loading).
Just because we are non Korean or whatever the motive the OP has two people from different cultures can have extremely successful relationships. Bluelake comes to mind. |
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bluelake
Joined: 01 Dec 2005
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| Posted: Thu Sep 17, 2009 4:24 am Post subject: Re: "Relationships in Korea aren't real" yes or no |
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| ajgeddes wrote: |
For everybody:
| PARAMDUNGI wrote: |
| I've heard this many times. From my experiences (and a few of my friends/co-workers experiences) it seems to be true. I've even seen a guy get married to a girl he met in Korea (not a K-girl) only to get divorced a couple months after they left the country. Others just avoid anything serious because of this phenomenon. From a guy's point of view Korea is not the place to be tied down anyway. Thoughts? |
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I took the "not a K-girl" part as just being one of the experiences of someone he was talking about (he said, "I've even seen..."). The last part seemed to be talking about relationships in Korea in general. |
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misher
Joined: 14 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Thu Sep 17, 2009 4:42 am Post subject: |
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What a load of hogwash....
Relationships are as real as anywhere I have ever lived in the world.
I married a Korean girl many years ago, still feels pretty real to me...
I know many people who have married or been in long-term relationships with korean women. Don't think it is fake.
maybe you should change the kidn of girl you are dating instead of the standard itaewon skank or english-practice seeking princess. |
Do yourself a favor stop frothing at the mouth. What part of "generally speaking" don't you understand?
Of course there are exceptions. Many guys happily got married here and remain happy to this day. I would however disagree if you said this was the case for the majority of relationships and I'm sure that many men and women here made plenty of sacrifices. Getting married in a completely foreign culture can't be that easy. The cultural barrier and lack of proper communication tends to generate issues for many people looking to shack up with someone from here. For every happy couple that defied the odds and made it here (Kudos to you and I hope to be among your kind some day) there have to be many others that failed. |
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